He says he loves me but isn't ready for a relationship?!

Anonymous
I was with my ex boyfriend for only 6 months. I know it's not a long time but it was the happiest and sure relationshipI have ever been in. I dragged my feet a little bit in the beginning as I was scared to admit to wanting a future, but he made me felt safe to want the relationship to go somewhere! Things were fantastic and we were bother the same page. Anyway we got pregnant (unplanned) but we decided to keep it as we both loved each other. However I ended up miscarrying the baby. We were both devastated by this and he wanted to try for another. At first I said yes then changed my mind as I've only just started a new job - I didn't rule it out, just wanted to wait a bit longer. We also talked about buying a place together, but again I decided to wait as I have a child from a previous relationship & I didn't want to cause too many changes in my child's life especially as we hadn't been together that long. Anyway after this he started to pull away. It made me feel insecure and rather than handling it the right way when we had a silly row I threw in the towel & dumped him. I realized this wasn't what I wanted and we got back together. A couple of weeks after that, he told me he loved me but something wasn't right - he wasn't sure if it was with him or us. After a week of him not knowing we broke up. We both agreed that he needs to be committed in order for our relationship to work. We've tried to give each other space but we both end up contacting each other. He's told me he's confused and doesn't know whether he's done the right thing but he needs to work everything out for himself. This time apart has proved to me how much I love him and its confusing because when we've met up (three times) since the split, there's still a clear emotional connection, we have a laugh and we don't argue. Anyway he's been milling things over the last three weeks since we've split and he's opened up and said that too much happened too soon and every time I changed my mind about not trying for a baby or buying a house he felt like I was dumping him (his last two gfs both cheated on him). But he has also said that he loves me, but he's scared because he knows that if things continue I'll be the woman he's with for the rest of his life and he's not sure he's ready for a realtionship that serious yet! He knows what he's doing isn't fair on me so he has said that he doesn't expect me to wait but hopefully if I don't wait for him, maybe when he's ready our paths will cross again! Do you think he's being genuine or just being nice?
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Spoke to him briefly today and he wants to meet up after a week of no contact. Why would he do this if he's not ready to commit? This is all so confusing! You'd think if you loved someone and they loved you back, not to mention the fact you just click so well, they would know that they want to be with you, surely?
He says he loves me but isn't ready for a relationship?!
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