Is It Really Better to To Take The High Road?

Anonymous
My ex of almost a year dumped me a few months back because she said she never loved me. In all fairness, I did take her for granted at times and never brought myself to say "I love you".

However, I did make an attemp to get her back at the time by mailing her a handwritten letter where I expressed, among other things, my love for her. It did not work and we went NC for a few months. Since we have mutual friends, I would see her from time to time. At first, it was awkward seeing her again after the breakup, but amicable enough. Then, the third time I saw her after the breakup, she was cold and rather rude to me. I later found out that she was asking around about me and guess that I was dating someone (I had in fact been on some dates, but nothing serious. And so what? She dumped me!). I nevertheless continued to take the high road and said hi and bye to her.

The last time I ran into her in the street she did say hi to me first, to be fair to her. But, this was after months of basically "killing her with kindness." Some friends thought I was too gracious with her and should have either ignored her or gave her a piece of my mind. Even my ex told one of my firends that I was "too nice."

Is there such a thing as being "too nice", "too gracious" to an ex? Is taking the "high road" overrated?

While I would prefer to hear from the ladies, any wise insight from the gents will be greatly appreciated as well.

Is It Really Better to To Take The High Road?
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