I drunkenly told my boyfriend I love him... what to do now?

[Anonymous]

I told my boyfriend "I love you", because of being heavily under the influence. When I get drunk I'm a happy drunk and I swear I love every one! I remember telling this and and he asked me if I loved him again and again I said yes... at this point I'm now sitting on his lap and he's smiling hugging me.

Fast forward to the next morning we are at the store to get some cleaning supplies and he ask, "what are 5 emotions that you feel about me now and what are 5 emotions that you felt about me when we first met?" I have a flash back to last night. Now, a few days later he ask me, "Sometime you do things too much for me, or leave some hint or whatever, but do you love me or something?Actually love me?"

I don't know what I should do. I just pretend not to remember. We've been seeing each other for 3 months, but we've been a couple for a month. So, this is just ridiculous. I obviously care for him, but I don't love him or at least I don't put a lot of thought into. He doesn't love me, but I can tell when I break up with him it will hurt him a lot. I just wanted these last two months to go by smoothly :/... What should I do?

[zig23]

F*** it. Be honest, tell the guy you are a happy drunk and you say that to everybody you care for, you like the guy he is your boyfriend you care for him, make sure that he understands that. Then tell him that when the time is right and you have no alcohol in your bloodstream, you wil look at him right in the eye hold his hand and tell him the words right to his face. Or you could go with the sitcom approach in which you get drunk again and tell lots of people you love them in front of him so he "gets the message" but unless you are clear and straight forward he will never 100 % understand and let go of what you said.

[jacquesvol]

" I can tell when I break up with him it will hurt him a lot."

Why and when? Is it a fatality? Do you have a plane ticket for the other end of the world?

Or are you just waiting for 'the better guy'?

[Asker]

Yeah, we are both moving. I sooner than him. :/

[jacquesvol]

Then just say him that you tell BS when you're a bit tipsy.

[TimTomTank]

Be honest and tell him that you don't love him in the way he thinks you do. Say you love him as a friend or that you deeply care about him, and that you haven't reach that "in love" point yet.

It's way better than leading him on.

[Asker]

This is going to be really awkward ;_;

[TimTomTank]

It will be awkward for the moment, but he will understand and you both will get over it. More awkward will be him thinking you're in love with him when you're really not, or thinking that you get so wasted and do/say things you don't remember. You can do it! and I'm sure you will feel a weight lifted of your shoulders when you're done! :)

[Moofy]

I agree with kitty glitters, don't give him the wrong impression

[Asker]

I didn't want to open a can of worms. I know some people freak out at the mention of love. I figured if I'dact like it didn't happen he'd think I did not remember >.>

[artfullyliving]

sober up and rethink it

modify your answer or whatever

its your life

nobody knows what love is anyway

its a loose term

[yaddayaddayadda02]

Why do you feel the need to break up?

[Asker]

I have to move to southern California in December and he's moving to Nevada next spring... we won't even be in the same state much longer :/

[yaddayaddayadda02]

Well just talk to him. Tell him the truth, and be open with him.