Why do women hate blonde and redheaded men?

Question

I have a lot of male friends who I would consider to be very good looking, very responsible, are kind, generous, and have great jobs. Many of these friends I have are Caucasian men with red or blonde hair. Throughout their 20s they have had very little success with women.

In contrast, I know rather overweight, irresponsible, and unattractive men with darker hair and skin who have always done well with the opposite gender, have great dating lives, and take their success for granted.

What pains me very deeply is that women will so readily judge a man based upon factors that are genetic and cannot be changed. These men were born like this, they had no say in what color their hair would be, and are being discriminated against because of it. My blonde and redheaded friends do everything correctly in life, they don't smoke or drink, they care about others, they live healthy, productive lives, and because of their genes don't get any women interested in them.

My one friend even looks like a male model, is tall, very smart, funny, kind, clean and hygienic, and has the greatest body I have ever seen on a man, yet he is blonde haired with brown eyes and some women are repulsed by him.

I think that we all deserve love in our live and it saddens me that love is so conditional and that if you were not born a certain way you won't receive it. I have shed many tears over my brothers who have been made to feel worthless due to the way they were born.

Why can't women love and accept men of all colors?

Ingrid422 · Accepted Answer

I can understand that most girls prefer darkhaired men. It's probably true. BUT it's a lie to pretend that all guys with blonde or redhead hair cannot get a girl due to their hair colour. Redheaded men DO have it the toughest but so do redhead girls. Nothing to do about that. Still, I don't think women HATE these men. It's not because they are less likely to be attracted to such a look that they will reject all these men for the pure reason of their hair colour.

Also, every gal has personal preference, just like lots of men claim that they prefer brunettes over blondes. I've heard that a million times. I'm a genuine blonde and I have a strong preference for men with light hair because it reminds me of my family heritage and somehow makes me trust the guy more easily. Having blonde hair, light skin that doesn't tan, sensitive skin, etc, is something that men with light hair can relate to, so I'm far from turned off my it! My ex had blonde hair of a very similar shade to mine. Before him, I've dated a man with reddish hair. After that, I've dated a blonde guy, 2 guys with brown hair and now my boyfriend has light brown hair with some reddish sheen to it. He has scottish heritage so he tends to get freckles in the sun and his hair turns pretty light during thesummer. He doesn't tan either. So NO, it's not true that women can't love men of all colors. I prefer light hair but I've dated guys with dark hair too. In fact, I've dated a majority of men with light hair, so your argument is invalid for me.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

It's not the opinion of every women, I know girls that would die to get a man with blonde or red hair. It' just comes down to what the woman personally likes. For example I like brown haired guys because for unknown reasons I find that they look more mysterious, while I feel that blonde haired guys seem more on the lets-have-fun-all-the-time side, while my friend prefers blondes. But that doesn't mean that I wouldn't date a guy with other hair colors, that's just stupid. Sure looks are grate but in the end (at least for me) it all depends on the personality.

caligirl2003 · Accepted Answer

Man this totally sucks I hate hearing this and I don't get it either. You jus described the only choice in men I prefer.  For some reason the eye view of some females think these other men who have dark hair and dark skin are more finacially set.  But given my chose I love the fair skinned male with the blonde hair

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Dude, Peruvian women practically will sleep with any blond guy even if ugly and obese. the same goes for a lot of women in brazil and a lot of Southeast Asian women. the world is blonde men's Oyster. the Mediterrenean look is really only preffered in Mediterrenean /Balkan Europe itself (but even in italy they p4efer blond guys) and by Scandinavian females. Mediterrenean men do not benefit with Asian women for example. you are basically Voluntarily single because you prefer Nordic women when you could slay everyday if you would go for browner women from Eastasia or some parts of latin america (Granted the blonde advantage is much less in whiter-south euro places like northern-central mexico, caribbean places like cuba and puerto rico, argentina etc) but you could kill with amerindian looking browner women.

if you're looking for a straightforward scientific answer:Dark hair is just more mysterious, seductive , virile and attractive (darkness attracts all light) its also more eternal and Luscious. on both genders by the way, blonde/light hair looks beautiful in a abstract way but is somewhat asexual whereas dark hair is more fertile and virile (on both genders) . black hair also frames a face making a masculine faced man more manly in countenance and a feminine women more feminine in countenance, whereas blond hair takes attentiona way from someones facial features (hence why white women dye it blonde, because they have more masculine faces).

zeke63 · Accepted Answer

This really is only true for white women generally. I have red hair and black/chinese/japanese/korean/hispanic women throw themselves at me. I have always been frustrated with American white women cause generally they fuckin despise the red and think im a weirdo/loser. Though I did date a blond once for four years but she had a fetish for reds. Just as well Asians are better in terms of intellect, skin, tightness of pussy, sex just better than fat whities any day

Luv2BRealExotic13 · Answer

What I love redheaded men. They're so cute. It's kind of an instinctual thing though that women can associate darker hair, darker colored eyes and/or skin as a trait of being a stronger safe man to be involved with. Like other female mammals that associate darker fur, manes, feathers, etc. to be more attractive as an attribute of strong and safer.

Anonymous · Answer

That is all bullshit , I'm a blond guy with green eyes and I look extremely scadanavian and I get more women then all the people I know with different genetics. Women are attracted to blond guys , but it has to do more with your personality. You need to act attractive not be attractive. Any blond guy reading this post just know that it's all bullshit women are extremely attractive to you , if anything they are intimidated by your genetics and your looks. Be proud of being a natural blond guy , because most men with dark hair look average and look the same as 95% of men. I am offended that you people are insulting my race and if it was 1930 germany you would be DEAD wrong. Nordic blond men are the most attractive and rare people on earth just look at Ryan gosling he is blond and gets tins of women.

Anonymous · Answer

This has got to be a lie.  Tell your friends to post their pictures on here. The girls on here would sell their own family into slavery  just to be with a white guy. Your friends just have bad luck which is unusual for us white guys in the dating scene   Women worship white guys on here and the real world. Your friends just are just having a streak of bad luck.

AlexAnimeFreak · Answer

Its a matter of your own opinion.. a girl in my class like muscular,blondehaired guys,another one loves foreign,coloured guys and I love skinny,blackhaired guys. I think they just haven't met the right woman yet.

Anonymous · Answer

I don't hate blonde/redheads, but I see them as more "cute" than "sexy". I have tried to date blonde's and redhead's. but I never seemed to be able to stay interested in them. More men have darker hair in my area so I think that also plays a part.

Anonymous · Answer

I think all types are cute.. I think a red head bith a buzz cut or military cut is super hot. For me though, It depends on his "vibes" as well as his personality.. Looks alone do not do it for me. It's the person as a whole..

BackAgain · Answer

I don't hate them but tend to find them less attractive. Of course I've found some but not enough to say its my type or preference

Anonymous · Answer

The pendulum has swung the other way, and there's no signs of it coming back around any time soon. With any luck, they'll find someone.

Whitechocolate1001 · Answer

They do? I believe women would rather date a blonde or red head over a dark hair guy?

Anonymous · Answer

I don't hate either...

Anonymous · Answer

I don't hate either

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