so...I've began to wonder if my guy(dating but not official) is using me for sex..here's what happened recently.
tuesday night at like 10:40 pm ..after he got off training, he texted and said he was heading home and asked what I was doing. I said I was heading to bed but he better rush to make it home in time to shower and sleep and get enough rest for work the next day. He told me he was going to invite me over to jump in the shower with him and hang out. I said sorry I couldn't be your booty call and he goes "i don't care". I was like wtf...he said it came out wrong and he wanted us to shower and hang out and he goes "i said nothing about sex". He insisted it wasn't a booty call and he wasn't using me.
the next day I was sick and went to the doctors. they thought I had mono. I told him. we hung out anyway. we hung out with a friend for a bit then the friend left' My guy later goes "see I thought we might have sex tonight but we aren't and I'm still hanging out with you" to prove he doesn't see me as a booty call. I rolled my eyes and was like umm ok I may have mono but whatever. later (the next day) he said was kidding..makes sense, but idk.
so last night we hung out and I was told I DO have mono. I told him sorry we couldn't have b day sex(his b day is tomorrow). He said "its all good" .We hung out at his house for a bit. He asked how long before we could be physical again and I said probably a month. I asked him if he thought we were going to have sex and he said not after I said I had mono. but then I realized...i wanted sex. we weren't kissing but he put his hand down my pants. I said we could try sex, because I didn't think he could catch it. For a couple mins he said no and we should wait til I'm better, but then we ended up doing it for a bit anyway.ugh I know I need to stop wanting it..so that's my fault.
so what do you think based on what I said? this has just been the past few days. other time if we've had sex(not often) he always asks if I'm sure and if its what I want and I always initiate it.
tuesday night at like 10:40 pm ..after he got off training, he texted and said he was heading home and asked what I was doing. I said I was heading to bed but he better rush to make it home in time to shower and sleep and get enough rest for work the next day. He told me he was going to invite me over to jump in the shower with him and hang out. I said sorry I couldn't be your booty call and he goes "i don't care". I was like wtf...he said it came out wrong and he wanted us to shower and hang out and he goes "i said nothing about sex". He insisted it wasn't a booty call and he wasn't using me.
the next day I was sick and went to the doctors. they thought I had mono. I told him. we hung out anyway. we hung out with a friend for a bit then the friend left' My guy later goes "see I thought we might have sex tonight but we aren't and I'm still hanging out with you" to prove he doesn't see me as a booty call. I rolled my eyes and was like umm ok I may have mono but whatever. later (the next day) he said was kidding..makes sense, but idk.
so last night we hung out and I was told I DO have mono. I told him sorry we couldn't have b day sex(his b day is tomorrow). He said "its all good" .We hung out at his house for a bit. He asked how long before we could be physical again and I said probably a month. I asked him if he thought we were going to have sex and he said not after I said I had mono. but then I realized...i wanted sex. we weren't kissing but he put his hand down my pants. I said we could try sex, because I didn't think he could catch it. For a couple mins he said no and we should wait til I'm better, but then we ended up doing it for a bit anyway.ugh I know I need to stop wanting it..so that's my fault.
so what do you think based on what I said? this has just been the past few days. other time if we've had sex(not often) he always asks if I'm sure and if its what I want and I always initiate it.
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