My boyfriend and I have a long distance relationship, we manage to see each other every fortnight and it's great, there are times when it is difficult for both, but we discussed the trust issue and we are both fine with that. Yikes... so I thought. I understand a bit of jealousy when I'm talking with guys, especially as I have a very outgoing nature and run my own business where I deal with men, but he wants me to be available 24/7 when he phones. last night I was with my neighbour for dinner, a glass or two of wine and a sing song as we both play guitar etc, he called, we chatted and I said to him I'd call him when I get home as I did not want to be rude in front of my girl friends while we were visiting. I did call him and Mr sleepy head said, I told you I was going to bed early and you phone me so late so I said, just wishing you nighty night as I said I'd call, we will chat in the morning. So tonight he is out, he tells me that his friend arranged a girl for him as he thinks we are no longer an item seeing as I'm no longer living in the same town etc. He say's I want to marry this girl (me) so no don't introduce me. He sends me an SMS saying ok I'll call you later... no call. I text him after midnight and say "night sweetie, Heart... kiss etc. as we do. he sends me a sms 2 hours later saying "night love" no hearts kisses nothing and no call. This is a bit childish I feel and he is a LOT younger than me. I'm so over pandering to his needy behaviour. arghhhhhhh
To me, it seems like maybe he doesn't trust you enough around other men. If he... hasn't surrendered his heart to you fully, maybe he understand that on a level, he doesn't have as deep a relationship as he'd like... So he is jealous and spiteful. Is this going to be a lifelong, meaningful relationship? Only you know for sure.
I suggest listening to your instincts...
He's trying to make you jealous/get a reaction out of you. He wants you to see how he feels, hoping you'll stop talking to guys.
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Your so called boyfriend isn't a boyfriend at all, he's a controlling jerk and you need to end everything you have with him. If you don't, you may be in danger of him getting violent with you and hurting you bad or eventually killing you. I have seen this so many times before. In fact, I started talking to a lady from the Eastern region of the US and she had just broke up with her boyfriend. He found out that she was talking to another man and forced his way into the house and shot her in the head then turned the gun on himself a half hour later.
Who the hell knows. You need to stop worrying about him and let him grow up. I swear I don't know how jealous dudes like that don't end up with jealous women. They would be a perfect match.
I don't mean to sound rude but I'm partly serious. Jealous guys WOULD do and say silly things just to spite you. So yeah, you're probably right on the money.
This is a control freak. He confuses love, with possession and control.
Anyone who has ever been subjected to this treatment will be screaming at you to get as far away from him as you can, because you really are playing with fire.
If after you dump him, he continues to bother you, go to the Police, and do that every time he bothers you.
There is nothing like an official record to enable the authorities to act.
Be afraid, be very afraid.
He's trying to make you jealous, and yes, he's trying to be spiteful.
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