well, you're
A being yourself and he finds you needy so you guys are not compatible. to him needy might just mean you're breathing the same air.
B. you're being yourself and he is just making things up in which case he's full of shit and id question staying with him,.
C. you're acting weird bc you're worried. in which case, stop worrying be yourself.
D. question why you think you're boring him. you may feel him pulling away yore trying to compensate, in which case he can b looking for problems bc h is pulling away.
I would ask him specifically what he's talking about. then deal with it. start with what you know. What dos he mean by 'all the time' vs an amount of time he'd find acceptable. what way is it you're waning attention, as apposed to the way he prefers to give it. for him to just criticize you without giving you anything to go on, is bull shit. you are two of you in the relationship. you both are responsible for your behavior towards each other and how it works out together. it can't simply be you're wrong and you need to fix yourself and he's right just bc he's complaining. complaining doesn't make you right.
if there's either a problem he wants to resolve-in which case he'll be gad you're asking- or he just wants something to place his frustration. you can not resolve a problem you do not know about. deal with the facts, then fix it.
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Stop giving him so much attention I guess. If he thinks you're needy, he probably feels smothered by your presence. Back off a bit and see if he is still singing the same tune.
in my opinion you know yourself better than anyone else. IF you feel like you aren't a "bug-a-boo" then you should ask him what makes you needy. If he can't give you a specific answer, he's full of shit. If he actually can tell you what makes you needy, then you need to stop doing what he believes is needy.
Well three things
1. Don't get defensive. Be yourself you've done nothing wrong. He's just expressing his feelings.
2. Let him know that your willing to give him space when he wants it and that he should just ask. And give it to him.
3. (And this is a total pessimistic opinion and should be taken with a grain of salt) The needy card gets pulled a lot by guys scared of relationships. They tend to be people looking for the perfect relationship instead of trying to cultivate one with the person they're with. It's not a big ideal.
Best advice try to show you the authentic you and allow him to make whatever decision he wishes. It's better to be disliked for being authentic then liked for living a lie. If he leaves you'll be fine it'll hurt but you'll eventually get over it and move on. Don't let worry ruin a good thing. Just relax be you and let the chips fall
If he truly loves you or likes you (if you're not at that 'stage' in the relationship yet), then it shouldn't matter. When you're with him, you should be spending as much time together as possible.
Dude has issues.
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I think you need to stop worrying about keeping his interest. Because you talk so much, he feels he has to listen to you. Don't talk so much; let him know that you don't mean to be needy or need his attention. You just want to talk because you are worried about him being bored.
I sometimes think men throw the term around for any little thing. Just try giving him more space and talk to him about it.
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