Not all guys are like this. I actually had to say no to the girl I fell for. I thought she was the one...a keeper. She was my first true love! I didn't want to have sex too quickly cause I thought it would mess things up and complicate the relationship. We both was chomping at the bits to have sex. God we wanted it so damn bad! She was a little forward and sometimes I had to actually cool things down cause we would have went all the way if I didn't think with the right head.
Everybody has different body chemistry...I'm not a chemist either. It's all hormones and everyone's hormone levels are different. I know some girls are very pushy and some guys are very pushy. If you don't want to have sex just tell him NO. If he has sex with you anyways then it is called RAPE and then you need to call the law.
A suggestion is that maybe you two could just fool around a little. Me and my girl wasn't ready for full out sex, but we did mess around some. We never would go all the way. We did a lot, but never had vaginal or anal sex. At first it was just simple fondling then we used hands on each other then we moved to oral sex and went no further. Maybe that will work with you two...idk, but this is very dangerous cause you two will have to have enough will power to hold back.
I know first hand how hard it is to stop when you are fooling around and in the heat of the moment. You MUST have a tremendous amount of will power if not then don't even fool around. We almost couldn't hold back a few times. We almost didn't stop one day and I got it all wrapped up and almost put it in her before we stopped. So yeah it's hard to stop, but doable.
Another reason is that he is just after you for sex. IDK, but if you are a virgin then that could be his drive. He wants to have sex and never speak to you again. It could be that he just wants you for a boody call. You need to set some ground rules for your relationship NOW and yes make your all's sex life part of the rules.
Hope that helps!
As dar as measurable states of arousal go, women have more erogenous zones but the feeling from them is not as intense as those few that are on a man. Also arousal in men comes in intense spikes, were in woman it is kind of like a wave. Women also take more time to become aroused if they start out in a non-aroused state. Many women will report that they will start out uninterested in sex, but if the guy takes time to try to get them aroused it usually works.
So basically what happens here is a guy feels a spike of arousal, so it is dominating his thinking, and the woman is not in the mood... so he will try to get her in the mood. The key here is that it works often enough to reinforce this approach by men. So despite the fact it might get him slapped or shut down, the reward of getting laid far exceeds the negative of p*ssing the lady off.
Hope this helps.
First off - a guy can't MAKE you do anything sexually unless he rapes you - did he? If he didnt, then even if there was form of persuassive tendencies, you still had sex of your own free will. Whether now or at the time thought you should or not.
Now, I don't agree that guys shld succumb to this tactic but they will stick with a true method that gets them what they want and it apparently works.
Women around the world shld know that guys think with their penis and 90% of them will try whatever they can to get ya to bed down.
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Agree with the other poster, however it sounds it's not an excuse for that behavior. Peer pressure is tough, sexual pressure is Harassment and you should FIRST say NO! and SECOND if he is still are putting pressure on you get help to stop him and get away.
People use coercion to try and guilt people to sleep with them or do things for them. A common phrase "blue balls" may be used.
Don't let people manipulate you to do things you don't want. Especially sexual. It's at best harrasment and worst RAPE.
ive been in a few situations where it was reversed. 2 girls I've dated have tried to pressure me into it before it was ready. and I've never done it with a girl. bear that in mind.
Because for guys the sex drive is generally a tremendous amount stronger than it is for girls. That's simply biology.
Many guys don't, although most do. Guys that don't are almost always more mature and deep than the others.
Scientifically speaking, guys have stronger sex drives than girls.
not all guys are assholes
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we understand you are mad but no need for the CAPS
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some girls are assholes as well
Because they want it. Why do girls pressure guys into getting married? Because they want it.
Because most of them don't respect consent.
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