Well if you think this other girl isn't just a fling and you are willing to give up what you have with your girlfriend for this other girl then take that chance. But end it with your girlfriend RIGHT NOW before you say one more word to this other girl. The fact that you have let it go on this long with this other girl is really unfair to your girlfriend. If you do decide to breakup with your girlfriend for this other girl then I'd really take some time to process things and get closer to this other girl before you jump into something. Take into consideration you have been with your girlfriend for 5 long years. Are you willing to give all that up for this other girl? How long have you known her? If she's willing to almost have sex with you already when she knows you have another girlfriend will she really be that great of a girlfriend to you? Are you willing to give up your gf? Chances are you will lose her forever if you do this. If you do decide to breakup with her be honest and tell her that you don't feel as in love with her anymore. Don't go into detail about the other girl. That will cause anger and added hurt that she doesn't need. I will tell you losing some of that spark tends to happen after you've been together for so long and people often do seem very appealing, but there's definitely ways to get that spark and love back in your relationship.
Honestly I think the best thing for you to do would be to leave that other girl be for a while and if she's worth your time she'll understand considering you have a girlfriend and she'll be there if you really do decide to break up with her. Then go and talk to your girlfriend about this "loss of love". Chances are she may be feeling the same way and you two could look up ways together to work on your relationship. Its very common for that to happen to couples. If you guys try to work on it and it doesn't work then at least you gave it a shot. And you can end it if you feel necessary. That way it is a fair shot to the both of you. If you try to keep this other girl while working with your girlfriend then of course its not going to work out. You have to want to try. If you do decide to end it then my best advice is to just take it slow with this other girl before you jump in. I don't think she sounds like a great person honestly considering she's gettting involved with a guy whos been in a 5 year relationship. So id warn you about that. But take it slow so you don't really hurt your girlfriend (would be ex) and you don't jump into something that you aren't sure about. I hope that all helps. If I didn't make sense with something I said just ask. I really don't want to proof read this. Haha. Goodluck.
ok. first off, I want to say you're a jerk.
lol sorry. just coming from a girl's point of view,i feel for your girlfriend. Did you fall out of love with your girlfriend before or after you started hanging out with the other girl?
If you started falling out of love with your girlfriend before, then there's a big explanation to this. You and your girlfriend may had been lacking a certain feeling or vibe that you two used to have and now unconsciously you've seeked it out between you and
the new girl.
Personally, I wouldn't let five years go because of the "thrill" another person may give me. Remember when you and your girlfriend first were together?
Didn't she stay on your mind like the girl YOU'RE CHEATING WITH does now? trust me, if you let go and pursue a relationsip with the other girl, the same thing will happen to you and her too.
If your girlfriend knows about this or when she does find out, imagine how much heart ache she'd go through.
Whatever is currently missing between you and girlfriend, you two should work to get it back. Its THERE. hang out more, argue less, explore things with each other. The relationship with this other girl is like an illusion of what you think you and your girlfriend should be like. You haven't love this girl for five years by mistake. Whatever is going on between you and this other girl, call it off. What also could be happening is, your girlfriend may be starting to see signs of uninterest. She may be suspecting you of cheating (emotionally or physically) and her self-esteem may be declining causing her to seem unnoticable or less desirable which makes the other girl even more favorable to you. This isn't about what's fair to your girlfriend, you have LET yourself turn away and fall out of love. Unless you and your girlfriend's love for each other was false to begin with, I don't see why you would let a simple girl you've been hanging out with take that away.
Ok so you have been in a relationship for 5 years the question is why do you feel like you love her but not in love with her did your girlfriend do something to make you feel this way you should of explained a little better about your situation I can say though if you have tried multiple times to work things out with your girlfriend and it's going no where then maybe you should try seeing where it goes with this other girl just take things slow but you would need to make your choice before this other girl gets away if this girl is all you think about and you both can't keep your eyes off one another that has got to mean something to you and don't listen to people when they say oh this girl knows you have a girlfriend that girl is bad news NO if this girl really cares about you then maybe she does want to be with you and is waiting for you to make a choice but don't string her along to long because if you don't she might get sick of waiting and you will loose her if she is the one you want to be with but if you want to stay in your 5 year relationship then leave the other girl be if this girl makes you happy and shows how much you mean to her maybe she is a keeper because women who just wants a fling isn't going to put effort into wanting to be with you or tell you how they feel there just gonna want to try and get you in bed take a chance life is to short to wonder what could happen when you can just take that chance I say GO FOR IT with that girl if she makes you happy good luck!
5 years, this is the time for the symptoms of the "7 year itch" to shows. For many, the reason is simple, Boredom. Try eating your favorite food (from hotdogs to caviar) every meal for 5 days and see what happens. With relationship, the norm is 5 years, resulting in "eruption" at year 7. Sorry, not a very "lucky 7" in this case. (For details, please search "7 years itch" on the internet.)
What happens if you go for the other girl ? Well, in theory, give it another 5 years, same thing. But, since you have experienced your first "7 year itch", the "bad" news is, boredom sets in a lot sooner. Because you have ALL those 5 years of experience IN you, and if you shift from girl #2, to #3, 4,5,... you will find Less and Less "interesting, curious stuff".
The root cure ----- find out where the source of boredom is, and "kill" it there. Where does boredom comes from ? The mind. It abhors similarity. Education, especially Western education, has to held responsible (at least partially if not fully) for this. Teachers (who were taught that way) encourage students to notice the differences between objects/people. Rarely is the mind encouraged to look for similarities. Guess what's one negative effects of this is ? War. "You are different, you must be like me"... now that is the time to talk about "similarities" --- forced similarities.
If you can spend 5 years with your dear girlfriend, you have a lot in common. Just that you call "commonness" as "boredom". See ? Shift your angle.
Solution #2. Head for the heart. Let your heart (note, not sex drive which comes from your body) rule your head (mind). Many people got the master-servant relationship the other way round; 99% atrocities throughout mankind's history, in my opinion, comes from this "simple" mistake. Got the roles wrong.
You said you care for her. You still love her, that is what your hearting is telling you. It is your mind that is your enemy, never your heart.
Have you heard of the saying, "The longest journey in life is the journey from your head to your heart ?" Get into your heart. :)
Break up with your current girlfriend, hook up with this new girl for a couple of months, and when you realize you made a mistake, call your old girlfriend and maybe she'll take you back. Just do all of this now and get it out of the way because that's what's going to happen anyways.
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I am guessing that your girlfriend does not know about the other girl. If I were in her shoes I would consider this cheating. After 5 years together do you want to throw away what you worked hard to build? questions to ask yourself: 1. Do I see myself marrying my girlfriend and are my thoughts of not being "in love" something that will passover? 2.Do I see myself with the other girl besides as a hook up? Is she really someone who is marriage material if she is knowingly helping you to cheat?And if she is doing this with you then what's stopping her from doing it to you (cheating on you)?
I'm trying to be honest and helpful, but if I was your girlfriend I would feel hurt betrayed by you (plus a lot of other emotions)
I was in the same situation. I left the guy because I just realized my heart wasn't in it anymore. It got messy and he didn't want to break up. I just knew I had to cut one of them out and the truth was it felt harder to cut out the new guy. (Well he wasn't really new.. He had been my best friend for 4 years). I had feelings for him for 2 years before anything happened. I pretty much did cheat because it was emotionally cheating.
But yeah it's been about 2 months now. Things are definitely different and he still doesn't leave me alone, but I'm with the new guy and things are going well. I know deep down that this is gonna be a long term thing so I was alright with leaving behind 3 years of my life.
I am very big on doing what makes you happy without sticking a knife in someone's heart. If you have tried to work it out, to no avail, please do not keep wasting each others precious time. There is such thing as the 7 year turn yes but if you've tried to get the spark back and its not there, it probably won't ever be, or at least at the moment. Relationships can be tricky. Dont be fooled by people telling you to keep trying cuz its been 5 years. No, that's never a reason to stay unhappy when you know its not right or the feelings are not there, and people usually know this in their gut,. However, meeting a girl and leaving the girlfriend just for her is also not a reason. You have to look at all aspects, before the new girl came along. Especially if she's someone you dont know well. Sometimes people fall out of love, its human. Its not a bad thing and peoplle have this tabboo that u are evil if u do... no, u just need to be honest with all parties
well stop cheating on your girlfriend and have some feeling and don't hurt her ... you should listen to your heart and choose one of them because that's not fair
you have to choices here?
1- stay with her and please don't cheat on her and forget about the other girl.
2- break up with her and give her some respect that's better then cheating on her !
All you're going to do is cheat on her too once it hits 5 years , so what do you need our advice for? damage already done. u know I'm gonna start charging men seriously. charging for a conversation, charging for advice, charging for pics, charging for a kiss , charging to hug. my time is too valuable to be wasted 😂
I'm in the same situation. I'm dating this girl and I love her I really do but I can't stop thinking about this other girl. I mean I just can't. I don't know why but I'm Maddy in love with her we talk all the time and she's always making up excuses to talk to me I don't know what to do.
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