Ok I need help with something, My boyfriend likes to wear adult diapers as a security

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I think its disgusting, he wants me to accept them and let him wear them, but I told him no. what should I do? I love him soo much!

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Simply stated: Those who mind...Shouldn't matter...As those that matter, will never mind.

This is not a fetish, it's a coping mechanism. Why? Because if you did a little research, you'll probably find that most people with this desire, had or developed it long before reaching puberty or becoming sexually 'aware'. Typically, it's associated with some type of serious childhood trauma that may not even be remembered. It's like this: A small child becomes, in some way, traumatized by events that have taken place within their own home or surroundings. Keeping in mind that children have a tendency to live in a world of fantasy, make believe and imagination; imagine a child who sees the baby next door (for instance) consistently being loved, held, coddled and receiving continuous, unconditional love from its mother. Now imagine that child imagining...No, 'fantasizing' that he or she could 'trade places' with that infant...To be loved, held and cared for like the infant next door rather than living in the hell, failed situation and trauma of their own life...As if an escape or a means to cope. As that child grows older and develops sexually, the two cross paths with unique and unpredictable results. You have a woman interested in nothing more than perception, who's own selfishness is interested in nothing more than what others make think. Long lasting relationships last long because of one word: "compromise". For every woman that won't 'accept you', there are 100 more that will. Dude, it's time to move on. We all must be true to ourselves.There are 'thousands', probably hundreds of thousands that feel just the same as you. Should any of you not believe it, here's a good place to start you're research. Take note of the number of members here and keep in mind there are many, more sites such as this one. www,diaperspace.com

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Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Hi Everybody, I am a 38 year old male and am perfectly healthy, have good hygiene habits, and have a good job... and I am also married to a wonderful woman and and have two kids. That being said... I also enjoy wearing adult diapers and have for many years. I don't wear all of the time but do when I feel the urge. This is not new for me and actually goes back to when I was about 10 years old and first tried one on and liked how it felt. I do feel a sense of comfort when I have one on. Does my wife know? Yes she does and has been very accepting of it. While I don't always wear around her, I usually tell her when I have been. In her words "there are a lot worse habits" that I could have. I don't smoke and drink every once in a while. Wearing a diaper does not hurt anybody. It is really just a practical pair of disposable underwear. Here's something to think about... I have heard of pilots, doctors, truck drivers, astronauts, flight attendants who all wear them... they are also quickly becoming popular in Japan and countries where public washrooms are not available or clean. There are also just people who enjoy them and wear them for convenience reasons. I think that this is the what is happening with the boyfriend from the original post. I don't personally think that there is any medically wrong here. Based on my experience I don't think that he is going to stop anytime soon like when they get married. If there is something that makes you feel good, it is pretty hard to ignore the urge... and if it is not hurting anybody then when should he. My advice is be open minded about it, talk about it, be supportive and enjoy life knowing that you have found one of the good men to marry. Good luck!

bethany1991 · Accepted Answer

well I wudnt reli b happy with acsepting them either ask him why he wants to wear them so much maybe its a fase he is going threw or maybe he has a problem with wetting or sumething and is imbarrased to admit it sit him down and talk to him and b sensative to his feelings but remember to keep yours in mind aswell

IGuessWeHaveAMess93 · Accepted Answer

well if he's aftraid of having an accident at night. have him set his phone alarm or some form of alarm that wakes him up in the middle of the night, so he can go to the restroom then he won't have to worry about having an accident.

just an idea :]

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

whooaaaa that's pretty weird.

Littletad · Answer

Did you know that it's quite common for people in Japan to wear these? Especially those who commute to their jobs via train? I'm not trying to defend your boyfriend here, but the difference is that these people are in a stress overload, crowded with people and it probably takes a while to get to work. Your boyfriend on the other hand, is just using it for a "leak free" night. He should be talking to his doctor if he has prostrate problems rather than wearing an adult diaper.

Teovanth · Answer

To be completely honest with you 1 in 3 people actually enjoy wearing diapers now 1 in 3 of these 'diaper lovers' have liked it since child, another will make up an excuse for them because they are not yet completely comfortable in them and the last one won't actually tell you about it until it's too late to turn back I'm not saying your boyfriends making excuses I'm just saying that if you really love him then the best thing you can do is get over it I'm mean seriously you obviously don't have to help him so all you really have to do is to continue going about your life and let him do the same but the worst thing you could possibly do right now is dump him. And I know because I'm in the same situation as him except I wet the bed every night and I buy the thickest diapers available to me and still soak through them so your boyfriend isn't alone no matter why he wears them.

GwenTheAnnoying · Answer

Wow, that's weird, that's totally not normal at all.  I think you just need to tell him to go see a doctor. Adult diapers are for old men who can't control themselves anymore, not for young people who can't get out of bed.

kevin15776 · Answer

Are you sure it's not a diaper fetish?  If he needs to wear them because he really has accidents, there's not much you can do about it unless you want him to wake up in a wet bed.  It's not the worst thing in the world.

diapermeplease · Answer

I live a perfectly normal life. I cook clean run my own business have great friends my life is awesome. I just like to wear diapers. There is nothing wrong with it try it thank of the benefits  if you enjoy wearing diapers. No more Having to use port a pots those things are terrible and smell horrible at the movies got pee no need to get up just wet you diaper long road trips just wet your diaper. They truly can be a life saver.

The-Dude-Next-Door · Answer

Jerking off once every 2 weeks will eliminate wet dreams. And don't let him drink anything 2 hours before bed and make sure he goes potty right before he goes to sleep. If he wants to claim that he is not potty trained, then treat him like a toddler.

emohearts · Answer

u should let him  because if you "love him so much" you should be willing to let him do what makes him happy  because its about you both sacrificing things for each other not just one way

mormongirlmichl · Answer

Gosh, it is a bit weird, but really, who cares... if it makes him comfortable, you'll have to live with it. If you love him enough, it won't matter... good luck.

SavannahBanana · Answer

Well I've heard if you wet the bed after the age of ten its considered a medical problem. Suggest a doctor visit?

iamtheanonymous · Answer

thats a little strange.. but if you really love him, you would stick with him no matter what...

Emilymarie77 · Answer

Does he have a job?  Is he a good man?  Is a cheater, a hitter or any type of abuser?

stevo · Answer

Very dependant on what the problem is, just let him do what he wants to do-------you're entitled to think what you want obviously, anyway, good luck~

Anonymous · Answer

Pretty sure he has a diaper fetish, and he's too embarrassed to fully open up about it. I had one myself until i was a teenager, and i just sort of grew out of it.
I feel bad for both of you. He can't help what he's into, but it's totally understandable that you'd be weirded out by it.

ltachii · Answer

I'm sorry but I bursted out laughing upon reading the title.

iLuhvK0tt0nKandii · Answer

if he's having accidents he should go to the doctor's bcuz there's a problem. that's not normal!

iSmiley16 · Answer

Well as much as you love him its just gross. But don't break up with him. Go to the doctor because he might be able to help. Or if its "security" reasons gradually comfort him into not wearing them. :)

Dill1 · Answer

That he wears or desires to wear diapers was formulated in his mind long before you became involved. That facet of his being developed long, long ago. You have a choice, love him for the man he is, or break it off. Diapers are on the putsid3

fluffylala · Answer

He has an adult baby fetish. Spank him until he agrees to cut that out.

Anonymous · Answer

That is disgusting. Sounds lazy and with bad hygiene.  I think you know you can do better.

unspoken4 · Answer

i would just tell him not to put them on one night and just wake him up asn ask him if he's got to go to the bathroom

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