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I have spent years dating, in monogamous relationships, and in marriage, and I never cheated on a partner. Not once. But I would never claim that I couldn't be tempted to cheat. I don't want to cheat, I couldn't face myself in the mirror if I did that, but I am not so arrogant to think I'm better than everyone else so that could never happen to me. No, I am careful to avoid situations that could lead to cheating, such as having lunches with a woman and no other person present, going out for a drink after work with a female co-worker, etc.

COULD you cheat under the wrong circumstances? DO you rely on your moral character to avoid cheating? Do you avoid situations that could present a temptation to be unfaithful?

(If you believe in polyamory or open relationships, please do not respond to the poll. I am interested in the attitudes of people who at least profess to prefer a committed, monogamous relationship.)

There are questions posted about open relationships, polyamory, swinging, and other non-traditional types of relationships, and questions which bash marriage as a failed institution, but not as many questions about the virtues and desirability of traditional marriage or a long-term committed and exclusive relationship. I think this is caused by people in non-traditional relationships needing to seek validation for their choices while people in traditional relationships don't have that same need. The result is that some users seem to perceive that traditional marriage and long term monogamy have lost their popularity because they don't often hear it being discussed in positive terms.

SO. . . you tell me. The question is not whether you want to get married or find a long term relationship immediately. If you are 17 or 18 years old, I wouldn't recommend that; date for a while and become familiar with the range of people available for relationships, but. . . eventually, do you want to be in a relationship that leads to a long term monogamous commitment or marriage?

As in, can you dislike something, but still think people should be allowed to do it in a free society?

For example, on my end; I VEHEMENTLY dislike fake lesbians who con and screw over (simp) men, aka 'bisexuals.' But people should be allowed to have that choice in a free society, even if I find it disgusting and treacherous to men (and open lesbians) who get swindled by lesbians who act "straight" when they need some money from you. Or to the gay men who don't like being called "gay" even though they're clearly into dick. They're mind-screwing women who think they're with heterosexual men, but are actually dating gay men "who don't like labels." I really dislike both of these kinds of dishonest gay people. But I wouldn't try to make their lifestyles illegal or anything.

Same exact views on polyamory/open relationships, and transgenders. You can be trans or be an adulterer; I just don't personally agree with it. I would fully vote for laws that allow such freedoms (that didn't interfere with other people's rights), and vote against laws that tried to suppress such freedoms, but I personally don't agree with these lifestyle choices.

The same also would apply to marijuana. I can't STAND stoner culture and think it's one of the biggest signs of a loser in society, but if smoking and alcohol are free in society (which are just as bad as pot), why shouldn't marijuana also be legal?

So I am referring to things like this. Think about hot-button issues like abortion, gay marriage, etc. Can you separate your personal feelings on something from whether or not people should be allowed to be/have them or not?

Whichever it was when either, or both partners are allowed to have sex with others, as long as it's "all physical", casually, etc.

Nothing emotionally of course.