Welcome to Debunking Social Norms, where I do my best to debunk and overthrow old social doctrines and show that some social taboos are, in fact, perfectly acceptable. In this week's Take, I am going to explain the difference between Bisexuality and Polyamory.
A topic near to my heart (I am bisexual), bisexuality is often one of the most misunderstood sexualities within the LGBTQ community. It's not just the general straight population either, many within the homosexual community are ignorant of what it means to be bisexual.
Bisexuality vs. Polyamory
In terms of misunderstanding, this has to be the biggest ignorance that people have in regards to bisexuality: bisexuals are not inherently polyamorous, and polyamorous people are not inherently bisexuals. Those are two completely different categories. Bisexuals do not have a quota to fill: just because I like girls and guys doesn't mean I need to date both. I am content with one and only one. I will not want another person when I am in a relationship in the same way that any monoamorous person will not want another person while they are in a relationship.
Sexually Confused
Nope, I just am less picky than monosexual people. I like masculinity and femininity. Both are attractive to me. Too many times, I have heard from gay men, "So, you just can't make up your mind?" and other belittling statements and questions. From the straight camp, bisexuals get, "You are just confused." We are not confused. We know what we want: man or woman is acceptable.
I Am Not Gay, Nor Am I Straight
If I happen to be dating a man, that doesn't make me gay, it just means that I am in a homosexual relationship. If I happen to be dating a woman, that doesn't make me straight. I am bisexual because I like both men and women. That is really the only qualifying factor of bisexuality.
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