I and other virgins have come together to compile this list of things that we are tired of hearing upon people find out we’re virgins. Some people are cool about it but others like to interject these standard statements that can leave us baffled and not sure what to think. Here are a list of our things we think are not particularly the best to say when you find out someone is a virgin.
1. "You’re a virgin? Wow, that’s so rare!"
Also sometimes followed by “you’re like the only one.” Yes thank you for making me feel like some kind of unicorn. And I have had some literally call me a unicorn.
2. "You should NEVER do it!"
Why? No, really, I’m actually concerned. Why shouldn’t I?
3. "Make sure you save it for the right one."
Actually, this isn’t that bad but it’s one of those unsolicited advice things. Frankly, it’s in my hands to do with what I wish.
4. "Don’t get pregnant."
Thank you?
5. "You must be a good girl/boy."
This one annoys me. This implies that people who have sex are “bad” and those who do not are “good” when in fact sex is just a natural part of life and doing or not doing it is neither good nor bad. This also implies I live life in a bubble.
6. "Let me guess, you’re saving it for marriage?"
Maybe, maybe not. Does it matter either way? Is it somehow bad if I was?
7. "You should just hurry up and get it over with."
Woah, why, what’s the rush? Virginity means different things to different people, for some it’s too special to just “get it over with”.
8. "Stay that way, trust me."
Trust you on my personal decision, hmm…Nope, nope. And I’m not entirely sure why I should stay this way, either.
9. "Don’t worry, you’ll find the right one."
This is just a big assumption. I could already be with someone or just not at that stage in my life where I want to find someone.
10. "You’re really pure."
Just like #5, this implies having sex is impure when it is simply natural.
So that was the list of what not to say to a virgin. But hey, everyone is different. Whilst some may have a problem with hearing the above, others may not.
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