My wife and I were discussing this the other day and I thought it would be a good "My Take" so sorry if it's a little rambly but I think it's an important topic. My wife asked this question "why are so many guys afraid of angry women?" and after some thought I replied, "because most of the authority figures in their childhood were women, and it's a deep seated behavior formed in their early years"
Think about it, as a young child most of his teachers, his mother, and most other people in his life were female. Dad was in many cases missing or a vague figure who he saw briefly when dad got home from work. Day to day his authority figures were women. Then when he got older somehow he was expected to "take control" and some young men just don't know how. Yet most women want their husbands, boyfriends, etc. to be dominant. Even in the BDSM scene dominate women are a minority (about 1 in 8 from my research).
So what ends up happening is they hire a professional,which creates this interesting dynamic. He's paying her to force him into pleasing her, when her desire is being paid...
Yet it's not an uncommon fantasy. When I first heard that femdom (women dominating men) was primarily a male fantasy I was confused, what do you mean women aren't interested in a man doing her every desire? some reasons women might want a submissive man But most women aren't used to that role, and many don't even know where to start. Or as a prostitute once lemented to me "I wish I knew how to dominate men, i'd make a lot more money." Even one of the women I used to tie people up with said to me "No I prefer the guy in charge" yet I have hours of video of us tying people up and.... well....
So where does that leave a guy who just wants the simplicity of doing what he is told? A confused girlfriend, and a level of frustration. So what can be done? Any thoughts, suggestions, ideas? For the record, I switch, which in the BDSM scene means I am both a dominate and submissive man. And yes I am talking a bit about myself, but even more so, about the subject in general. Thoughts?
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