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Girls, Men have feelings too

Girls- Men have feeling too

When it comes to sex not many of us women are used to being turned down only to have that swiftly followed by our partner turning his back to us in bed (literally). So when this happens we tend to be, confused, feel rebuffed and sometimes angry without considering the cause. We are taught that men always want sex and if they don't then maybe they are cheating. So not true.

News- Just as you don't feel particularly intimate if you are still stewing over something he did, the same often goes for him. The only difference is that women are given a free pass by Western Society to air their 'feelings', where as, men aren't. Depending on the guy you may have to pull it out of him.

This is just my quick take giving a heads up to someone wondering what is going on in the bedroom when he isn't into it. He might not be cheating your guy may just need to discuss something. So ladies help your man out by providing him the window to discuss it by seeing what's wrong. Trust me if you wait for him to start it you could be waiting through a couple of weeks of coldness and silly arguments over a simple misunderstanding. Try not to let something minor drag on because you aren't picking up on the signs and he was raised to believe feelings are for sissies. Scratch mine I scratch yours kinda thing. He'll be there when you need help with others things if you pick up on how to help suport him in your relationship.

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  • Very good take. It works both ways, too - don't just say 'no' and turn over if you're mad, ladies. That is a hugely upsetting rejection.

    • So true! Talk it out with him. Why ignore the guy who loves you?

    • well, most women do that

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  • Great take!

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  • What a lovely take, and so true. I have to 'pull' stuff out of my boyfriend, I always know something is up, because he goes quiet. He is not a talker, but I persist and its normally a really trivial thing (maybe not to him). After a chat his beautiful smile returns and all is well.
    He can't help being that way and I know a lot of men, don't like to show emotion or feelings. You just have to persist :)

  • Naw, we are just unemotional assholes that have no feelings when we dump women (sarcasm) good tak!

  • I'd also like to point out the thing about turning over in bed so your back is to your girlfriend. I've been in relationships where I did this but the only reason was that I sleep pretty much on my side. And I was on the side of the bed where when I did that my back was toward my girlfriend. I never wanted her to read anything into that that wasn't there.

    • Well yeah of course that's not the same thing at all. I have big boobs so I usually sleep on my side or with pillow under both of my shoulders. My boyfriend doesn't like it when I use the pillows though because it feels like I'm putting a blockade between us. 😛 I don't do it to often anymore but yes when we started dating he was confused by it. Same thing with him sleeping on his side when we very first started dating. He would cuddle me but eventually turn his back as that is how he sleeps. Now we usually sleep facing the same direction both on our sides. If I turn over he turns over as do I if he does. Either way couples know their partners sleeping habit week enough to know when they are being distant be it turning ones back when that isn't how they usually sleep or not returning an embrace. I certainly know the difference between my boyfriend turning over because he is mad as opposed to just going to sleep.

  • Of course men have feelings.

  • Well they're human beings as well.

  • thank you sis!

    finally female who not only understands that we men are humans too but also understands that not all of us men are the same. not all of us are sexually deprived losers that put pussy on pedestals.

    the world needs more women like you

  • Actually, yes, this one is spot on.

    • Wow this is an old post. Thanks and Happy Christmas!

  • I don't believe we're raised to believe feelings are for sissies, that's an archaic idea to me. I think we believe the outcome will be poor if we express ourselves, but we aren't afraid of the feelings themselves or the expression of them like the sissy thing implies. We don't trust that we'll be received well and it's not a good risk to take.

  • yes, couples should always talk.. but if my boyfriend rolled over and said no, that would be hilarious to me. I'd love that.

    • I will like to say "no" often to my girlfriend about sex because i dont always feel for it but in reality i have said no only once. Do you know why only once? becaue after that i did.'t had the courage to say no again. LOL. She took that to her ego.

    • @James19 she got offended?

    • Yes she felt insulted and offended

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  • Do we? I would never have guessed.

  • Also he may deny anything wrong at first. Pull it out of him

    • Yea some guys are like that. I'm almost never like that and yet there's an almost in there

  • He probably still wants sex even if he is angry he just wants to punish his wife.

    • Don't think she means just married couples.

  • The thing I think girls get used to is their guys tolerating their behavior, even their bad behavior, so, eventually, they'll take it for granted. All I'll say is don't fall into the mentality that if hasn't complained about it, then it mustn't bother him. It bothers, he just won't say anything because women in this day and age are taught to be argumentative and dismissive of their partners' feelings. This is how break-ups happen. Committed guys don't appreciate the apathy. If he knew it would end like this, he'd still be playing Call of Duty with his buddies.

  • This post made me a little less bitter on the inside. Thank you.

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