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Why it is ok to be a slut!

Have you ever been to a party and thought: "Wow this chick is a slut"? Probably.

Have you ever been to a party and thought: "Wow this guy looks really easy to get"? Unlikely.

What is a "slut"?

We live in a society where a guy can be open about his sexuality, please his sexual desires and choose if he wants sex a lot and with different partners or if he wants to seattle for one partner. women who do the same thing are called "easy" or "sluts".

Let's think about why it is like this.

So our basic primal instinkt is to procreate. The Strategy for procreation differs between females and males though. Men on the one hand can procreate every day of the year, regardles of how recently they procreated. It´s a really minor effort and a very minor strain on the male body. therefore the male strategy is to procreate as often as possible.

Why it is ok to be a slut.

The females on the other hand can only procreate roughly once a year, assuming that you don´t want to get pregnant the day after you gave birth (i actually don´t know how long the down time is but it doesn´t matter for this rationale). in addition to that, dealing with pregnancy and having a child is a major strain on the female body to the point that you could even die in the process, especially thinking back to a time where medical knowledge wasn´t as good as today. therefore the female strategy is to carefully look for a partner that´s willing and able to care for her and the offspring in case they get pregnant.

But since we have a multitude of birth control methods, we wouldn´t need to still have those strategies right ? we could have fun without thinking badly of each other, since sex makes a lot of fun right ?

No. we still have those chains that keeping us from liberating our sexuality.

Why it is ok to be a slut!

This guy helps a lot in keeping totally obsolete standards that don´t apply to our mondern life. Don´t get me wrong, i value what he teaches about love and how people in a society should behave. after all we based our society on what he said and it doesn´t run too bad.

though arguably he had no idea about sexual behavior, especially not under todays conditions. so why do we let him dictate what we think is "good" and what not?

It's ok to be a "slut"

Today we can enjoy sex without the drawbacks of a pregnancy. it´s a wonderful thing and both men and women should not be ashamed to enjoy it however they like it. If you choose to wait until your married, that´s fine. if you enjoy sex with different partners that´s fine too! So if you´re a girl and you enjoy freaky sex with a lot of partners and they call you a "slut" for being a sexually liberated, promiscuous girl, then it´s a good word, isn´t it ?

There is one lesson we should remember from our good friend in the picture above. Be consensual. Don´t lie to people and don´t hurt or play people. just be open and honest and it really is ok to be a slut.

If people look down on you for that, they are just jealous cavemen in their mind.

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  • I don't think this double standard is fair to either gender same with the virgin/inexperienced double standard.

    It's like is a girl supposed to not have sex anymore because she's had too many partners experience?

    And on the flipside if girls don't want a guy who's a virgin/inexperienced, how's he supposed to get experience when no one will give him experience?

    I'm not promoting sleeping around but I think slut shaming and virgin shaming should come to an end. What it really comes down to is how one acts about it.

    • sleeping around sounds so mean. it´s just being open and having sex for pleasure, not excluding an intimate genuine relationship, however long it takes... i fully agree to your virgin shaming argument though. maybe it´s not a "shaming" thing though. maybe you are just not experienced enough to do what it takes for a woman to trust you and have sex with you. but yeah i suffer from it too so i wish it´d be gone XD

    • I don't suffer from it, I was just saying.

    • Not a virgin by the way

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  • Personally to me, sex is more meaningful. I PERSONALLY will only have sex with someone I love. That's why I'm still a virgin- it isn't due to not being able to get it. Rather I want to hold on to it.

    But I am adult enough to understand that not everyone feels and thinks just like I do, so as long as someone's being safe and honest, I don't have anything to say about their choice to have casual sex.

    • Respect!

    • i´d be curious if you still think the same when you´ve allready had a partner and got casual about sex. but yeah it´s a treat people need to accept others for being different.

    • a trait not a treat** xD

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  • I don't think a woman is a slut because she has lots of sex, I think that's completely ok, only an idiot judges someone else for something that they themselves would do. What I think a slut is is a women who dresses so little that they might as well not dress at all. Dressing sexually attractive is fine, just gotta know how to do it properly.

    • though you would do that too, if it brought you higher chances to score, wouldn´t you ;) ?

    • I'm sorry, but I would never walk around with my balls almost showing and a completely see through shirt. I'm not about to through away my dignity for a better shot a getting laid, I ain't that cheap. Also, let me clarify, I don't mean a low cut top or shirts that show skin, even hot pants and yoga pants I'm fine with.

    • yeah i agree though. you can be classy and promiscuous at the same time.

  • Sluts are fun for dating. Most are pround of how good they are at sex. However, I would never, ever marry one. Once a slut, always a slut. And some of them simply love multiple partners as it makes them feel attractive and wanted. At least that is what they told me. What animals they are. I love em. Then leave em. :0)

    • Then they wonder why sleeping with multiple partners at the same time makes it harder to find someone when they want to settle down. Whenever I see that I have to keep myself from laughing at their stupidity.

  • Sluts give pussy away for free. Whores get paid. That's the difference. It's in the dictionary. I sold mine for marriage, I didn't have time to go fuck around I had a future to obtain. I never had time to judge people's lives, I have my own. Sleep with whoever, I don't see why people care so much about the sex lives of others. Unless it interferes with me like catching an illness from a whore, slut, skank, cum dumpster, etc but I don't sleep around if my husband ever gave me something from cheating then he would become "that gross smell in the crawl space". Just kidding I own a funeral home, I can depose of a body quite effectively. Anyways sleep around I really don't care, only persons effected by this activity should care.

    • wow I <3 how blunt this is. I like it when people are honest, instead of just saying what everyone else does.

    • i agree with most of what you said. but i don´t like your attitude towards vaginas. yes they are part of your body but that doesn´t makes them goods to "give away". sex isn´t about doing something for another person that he should be thankful for. sex is about giving each other pleasure.

    • I like your attitude about people doing what they want and staying out of other peoples' business, but a lot of the language that you used indicates pretty strongly that you have no respect for other peoples' sexual choices. I don't "give my pussy away for free". I share my body with others in circumstances in which I want to. By some peoples' standards, I was a slut when I was single. "Pussy" isn't something you "give away" and if it feels like that, then you've got a pretty unhealthy view of your own sexuality. Sex isn't a tool to get other things you want in life - it's a shared experience that brings both participants pleasure.

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  • Anyone can be whatever they want sexually. I'm not in their bed nor should I be in their business. But if they want to be in MINE, they can't have such a high number because that is gross to me. Not judging them, but I'm not interested.

    Besides, there are some men who are the same and some men claim to do what you're doing yet only wanting women to open their legs more to them. So...

  • It's okay for a woman to fulfil her desires in this day and age. Women still have urges and men want sex too so it's a symbiotic benefit! I prefer meaningful sex in a relationship but if I get the opportunity to sleep with a model or just a super hot guy who I get along with, I shouldn't have to turn it down to avoid a stigma! Good take!

    • what if he´s neither a supermodel nor super rich but you just seem to click without having any further intentions like relationship?

    • I never said anything about being rich. I've slept with unemployed guys who live with their parents still. You guys always hold a woman to every word. I was simply saying I should be able to sleep with guys "I" find attractive without feeling the stigma. If I clicked with a guy, I probably would hope for something more so would date him.

    • XD sorry for that... but there were so many dudes on this take complaining: "doesn´t matter chicks only fuck rich model guys anyway" that i had to ask. i knew it was bullshit.

  • I see your point. But I've seen some really good looking guys who have happened to be... Easy basically. I was so turned off and the word sleezy came to mind. I think some people do see these guys as sleezy bastards and some easy women as whores.

    Society does tip in the men's favour, absolutely. But men and women are equal but different I think. A woman's respect is by far a greater thing.. those women are like queens.. not necessarily virgins but girls with standard.
    I know people won't agree, but hey, that's what I think

    • i think it´s just your preference and that´s totally ok. i mean if i want more than sex and she says she´s only up for sex, then i won´t like to deal with her either.

  • This was a really great and logical take! I love how you threw in the reminder about consent too! nicely done!

    • thanks :D i guess it´s only logical, if you agree though. the amount of hate i get for this from those who disagree is astonishing ^^

    • One thing people hate more than anything is a woman having control over her sexuality! I don't know why it's kind of sick.

  • You talk about honesty and at the same time you are suggesting people to have multiple sexual partners? It is quite evident that you to enjoy fuck but doesn't want to bear the responsibility of a relation rather it is easy for you to fuck a girl and handover her birth control pills and walk away, I think you are trying to play with mentality of girls to make them more easy and comfortable being a slut so that you can have increased chance of getting laid by disguising it as a liberal and genuine thought. after reading whatever you have written It seems like you are a hypocrite desperate teenager with dirty thought who is trying to get laid with multiple chicks.
    your several statements contradict with other statements, and are illogical, I would like to mention few of your statements first:

    1) if you enjoy sex with different partners that´s fine too! So if you´re a girl and you enjoy freaky sex with a lot of partners and they call you a "slut" for being a sexually liberated. ( seems like you are suggesting people to cheat and being unfair ) sadly all people are not like you who gives top priority to sexual pleasure above everything.

    and then next you said (contradicting part)

    2) Don´t lie to people and don´t hurt or play people. just be open and honest.

    Now tell me what is a lie? when you cheat you partner on their back and keep them in dark about reality. If you cheat then you literally have to lie isn't it? how does people get hurt when they found that their loved ones are not honest to them and are cheating on their back and how will you justify that you are not playing with people? even though you are playing with feelings of different people by having sex here and there, isn't it playing with someone? you are speaking about honesty? at the same time you are suggesting people to have multiple partners? what kind of honesty is that?
    If you remove the fundamentals of good and bad then in this world there will be no bad anywhere all will be good according to your criteria there will be no criminals people won't get judged for killing others and raping because it's their liberty for having fun and do what they find joyful.
    The truth is that people have feelings and emotions and expectations with relations without it everything in the world would be a big lie and drama. we are bounded to society & we get justified by our actions in society and you are trying to fool people not to judge on your actions be a real good if you are don't pretend to be one.

    • If you think being slutty is wrong, fucking with multiple partners here and there is wrong, cheating is wrong then don't try to justify your wrong demands by comparing yourself with a wrong person, If you think this all is wrong then put your efforts to correct it instead of becoming one, teach people about good and bad teach people about what is good instead of making yourself one of them then what will be the difference between you and them, when ultimately you have became one of them for which you have hated them for? why become one of them instead of trying to correct wrong doers? why every freedom must have to start from something bad why we can't be good? why is everyone chasing the bad things only, if a guy is slut and you hated then why you want to become one why not throw him out and teach lesson to him or others like him? do you share the same intentions of being slut like him somewhere inside you? and you were seeking reason to unleash that? huh!! hypocrisy.

  • I agree it's ok for people to be how they choose to be and do what they enjoy.

    I'm personally waiting but I want to have lots of sex and do all sort of things with one person when I start having sex. But just because that's my preference doesn't mean all women should be that way. I will never understand people who tell others how they should be just because they have a difference preference.

    • what if you found that one guy who´s perfect in every aspect but then you choose to have sex with him (and marry him if that´s the condition for you) and it turns out he actually like nothing you like in bed?

    • Do you think I wouldn't discuss sex with my future husband? i'm a virgin but i'm very open about wanting to try a lot of things and my boyfriend enjoys the same things I do.

    • well to be honest: yeah i though the ones waiting for marriage wouldn´t even discuss it beforehand. either way, talking about stuff and actually doing it are two completely different things.

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  • Personally i dont think its ok to fuck around like horny rabbits. I dont respect guys who do, neither do i respect girls who do.

    • Whether you want sex or not, is up to you. But marriage is unfair to men (due to the laws) and most of us don't want it. So, probably in your case, just stay single throughout life and never have sex.

    • I am married. And no, marriage is not unfair to men unless you are planing on divorce beforehand

    • So, even according to what you said, it's definitely unfair to men (because, any time, a woman can threaten a man about divorce, and all the life she can treat him like a slave, constantly threatening him about it). It's not only like that in the US. It's even worse in my country -- read about the stupid and unfair law -- IPC 498 A and how often it's abused, and how it literally ruined the lives of many helpless men (without even a divorce) -- you will get to know. There is no justification that it's fair. And many men these days don't want to marry exactly for the same reason.

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  • You blocked that anon girl who said
    "You just want women to view sex as nothing so it's easier for you to get laid. You ain't fooling no one"
    Haha, don't post a Take, if you can't handle negative comments.

    • yeah and i will block you too, if you imply shit that isn´t true and just not believing me if i say it´s not the case. i had the chance to have sex multiple times but as i said to another person, there were feelings involved where i had none so i didn´t.

    • I read that one. She started being really disrespectful. Id have blocked her. I welcome criticism but she was using really mean personal attacks.

    • @jjmarvin yes! if you want to insult me personally, write me a pm or something but don´t try to ridicule me by implying shit without giving me the possibility to prove you wrong.

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  • Thank you for a reasonable and respectful opinion on womens sexual behaviour. Live and let live!

    • What if someone else's definition of living is to not let you live then what would you do in such case? how you will convince them to let you live? then they would say you mean I should stop living for your sake? if what you said will be applied universally in that case people won't even bother to listen you plea if you get in trouble because then everyone will have their won criteria of living, hypocrisy and different kinds of judgement we never know what means "to live" for someone else, that's why we have some fundamentals in our society so that people can be judged for their wrong acts and can be punished accordingly. that is to maintain harmony some negative elements such be removed instead of providing them loopholes, so be honest to yourself first and then world will be a better place. god bless you!

    • at least there are "some" people on here that aren´t that close mindet... hariss: you don´t understand the difference between peoples behavior that harms others and behavior that doesn´t harm others.

    • And everybody is disagreeing with you...

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  • I really dont think numbers matter if your in a long comitted relationship you probably have sex as often and in the early stages more with your s/o than those that have diffrent partners everyother weekend or every few months right? i some people mate for life others only until the excitnent wears off.. thats their choice.
    And as long as you are in control as to have as much sex you desire whats the issue?
    1partner once a week for a year=52
    Diffrent partner everyweek =52
    Get my point right?

    Girls dont feel like yoy need to be a goody 2shoea in bed,
    Do what feels good dont be afraid to try new things throught fear of being labelled a slut , because you can't ever be too naughty with you sexual partner so long as you are both consenting to what you're doing

    Xoxo

    • i guess some people associate stds with that behavior... but you´re right in my opinion. as long as you´re save and don´t go bareback with every guy you met that day, it´s as good.

    • Its not about sex. Its about personal connection. Sharing a personal connection with one person is not the same as sharing that personal connection with 52 other people. Sex becomes part of it because it is a very intimate act. At the end of the day, I want a partner who is willing to spend her life with me... we share the same joys and sorrows of life and dream the same dreams. I want to know her biggest secrets... I want her to be my best friend and companion. It seems today some people prioritize physical attraction above all else. In my opinion that is only one of the many attributes that is needed to be considered in choosing a partner. Its how they look, what their story is, what kind of a person they are, what they plan to do with their lives, does that person have similar goals as you etc

    • you can share a connection with many people. just because you only choose one doesn´t make it better or worse. finding a partner is different from finding sex.

  • i think your message and the points u make are weak.
    only people who will agree with you are the ones who had this view before they read this.
    i love it how many women dont like the term 'slut', yet they say, "fuck this ill have as much sex as i want!"

    i dont care about how people go about their sexual activities, but if they base their value upon their sex appeal, i think they have no self respect.

    not everyone's gonna agree with u. deal with it.

    • Who said anything about basing their value on their sex appeal.. . lol

    • i did? @rachelbrigs

    • i don´t see how having consensual sex makes you superficial and lose your self respect. it´s just sex.

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  • What about virgin guys? Can they slut shame or at least fairly reject them for who they are?

    • It's your choice who it is you get with. And no I think it's not OK to shame a person for doing what she likes just because you don't like it.

    • "And no I think it's not OK to shame a person for doing what she likes just because you don't like it." That depends. What if she supports ISIS?

    • do you really no see the difference? i don´t know so much about isis but from what i hear they threaten our society and fare war against christianity. it´s ok to have a different opinion but it´s not ok to hurt people just to make them change their mind. if a person decides to have sex for pleasure without marriage, then how does that hurt you?

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  • https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3RJ44VQn-ZE

    i believe this is the appropriate place for this song, enjoy :D

    • thanks for that contribution :)

    • but damn she looks like 15 or so xD

    • Haha I love where do you find this?

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  • I've got no interest in the behavior of a 'slut'. For me, it's still not okay.

    • but you still should be able to choose without having to deal with the stigma. if you do it or not is of course up to you.

  • The double standard sucks but I won't agree with being a slut is okay.

    • So you are think, people shouldn't have sex for fun?

    • -are wtf...

    • yup, people shouldn't be having sex for fun. unless they're married.

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  • As has already been implied, being promiscious works better for women, not for men. The average woman can score much more than a man if she were to go full on fuck-fest. And she would do it with the high class guys who would have multiple girls for each while 80% of the rest of men get way less and don't get to experience the whole ''sexual liberation'' thing.

    • In my opinion the conditions you describe only exist because of slut shaming. There are more men that want sex then women because women fear the slut reputation... If it wasn't for that it would be more balanced.

    • No, they exist because of human nature. Even if women were not slut shamed they wouldn't want to sleep with just anyone.

    • i never said "anyone" guys don´t sleep with anyone either. of course if you´re a 1/10 you can´t expect a 10/10 to want to have sex with you.

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  • Who ever said its not ok to be a slut? Us guys hav ejjst said that we wouldn't date one. Apparently having a dating preference is "slut shaming". Smh 😑

    • I right there shaking my head with you.

    • you have the choice to date who you like, don´t you? then don´t date a girl that´s not the way you like girls but don´t try to ban everything you don´t like. i´m not telling you that you shouldn´t date frigid girls and you don´t tell girls that they shouldn´t have sex if they want.

    • I've never done that in my life. What makes you think that just because i won't date sluts, means that I'm going around preaching to girls to keep their legs shut?

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