Sex. It's a wonderful thing, of love, pleasure, sensations running all over your body, the occasional moan, the gruffy grunt, and the sweet orgasm at the end. The joys of having someone inside you or being inside of someone . . . except I wouldn't know because I am a virgin. 18 years counting.
You see, most people assume that I'm a virgin because my parents are strict, or because no guy wants to sleep with me, or because I am a religious fanatic, or possibly because I have an alien growing inside me and any man who dares enters it's domain will have his member obliterated - and all of those are plausible reasons.
However, none of these reasons are what made me choose the abstinence road. No, what made me choose the abstinence road is the idea of sex its self. The vulnerbilty that happens during that moment - for that splift second when all your emotions dance on your face. Yes, I have a deep fear of intimacy and commitment, and not because my father abandoned me when I was young, or I experianced trauma as a kid. None of that.
Reason why I fear intimacy and commitment is . . . I feel like the alien will indeed castrate my partner's member, leaving him bleeding on me, and I have a serious phobia of blood. Whenever I see that shit, it terrifies me, makes me go crazy. There are reasons as to why the skin covers the flesh, and veins, and arteries and the bloodstream and organs! REASONS! It's bad enough I see it every month - I'm surprised that there's no floor bed on the bathroom floor for everytime I faint - but having an accidental second circumsion and the results of it all over my body, no way in hell am I having sex!
Now that I've wasted at least two minutes of your life, let me say, premarital sex is a choice. No person should ever feel pressured to be abstinence or sexually activate. And yes, it's true, (for all you christians who pointed at the bible) the bible does mention not having sex before marriage, but thats because people back than were fucking like rabbits, back and forth. This is what Paul says
"Now concerning the matters about which you wrote: "It is good for a man not to have sexual relations with a woman." But because of the temptation to sexual immorality, each man should have his own wife and each woman her own husband. The husband should give to his wife her conjugal rights, and likewise the wife to her husband. For the wife does not have authority over her own body, but the husband does. Likewise the husband does not have authority over his own body, but the wife does. Do not deprive one another, except perhaps by agreement for a limited time, that you may devote yourselves to prayer; but then come together again, so that Satan may not tempt you because of your lack of self-control. (English Standard Version, 1 Corinthians 7:1-5)
Now to the unmarried and the widows I say: It is good for them to stay unmarried, as I am. But if they cannot control themselves, they should marry, for it is better to marry than to burn with passion. (NIV, 1 Corinthians 7:8-9)"
Please bear in mind that Paul was a bit of a dick . . . and he basically told people to stay single because he was single, and that if they weren't strong enough to resist sexual immorality (which is open for interpretation) they might as well get married. Now I don't know about you, but it's kind of odd to me that back then, even before Christ, Kings had concubines, who they did not marry - and not just one, but the most would've been like 500. That's a lot of vagina for one dick. And nowhere does it mention that God told Paul to say that, he just sprouted it out of the blue because some poor person with raging hormones sent him a questionaire.
So let me not waste your time anymore, in conclusion, premarital sex should be up to you, not anyone else. :)
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