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Women, and the irony of receiving oral sex

Women, and the irony of receiving oral sex

All my sexual life I have been deemed as peculiar by women.

Leaving them bemused when I would decline the offer of oral sex by insisting on ladies first and orally pleasing her. Self-consciousness and reluctance ensued with few able to fathom why anyone would want to perform this act. Let alone be insistent on it with so much enthusiasm attached.

With the reluctance or flat out refusal centering around a woman's self-consciousness over her body. When it involves her vagina, it verges on hysterical with her obsession over its appearance, taste, odour as well as anything, and everything else. Mortified of grossing anyone out, all while developing an aversion of cunnilingus in their minds

A differing viewpoint exists in the mind of the potential giver containing a delicious irony. With all these aspects that so worry women representing a huge turn on.

When the woman permits, a feeling of intoxicating delight immerses your very being as her scent corrupts you. Leading to captivated awe as you fully disrobe her and take in her majesty with her vagina resembling a snowflake in respect to its unique perfection. Lastly, hours after, one craves the remnants of her taste on lips and tongue.

Delving further into the irony is women often equate a feeling detachment verging on loneliness when receiving oral sex. The stereotypical view is the woman with head on pillow detached from her lover who is 'way down there.' A feeling alien to a womans yearn for connection and involvement in any sexual act.

Contrasting this is is rather than detachment it further attaches by fully engaging the woman. A simple switch in positions by kneeling between her legs as you please her allowing you to keep eye contact and hold her hands means so much. Letting her pull you up for a brief moment for a passionate kiss and further drawing her in as all of her is over your lips and tongue.

Putting her at complete ease, as she relaxes and allows herself to shed all her inhibitions. Confidence, replacing her initial reticence, seen in her indulging more actively by gyrating her hips into you or assuming full control by riding you.

When she shudders with Climax making her body tingle all over the irony is complete.

With her savoring this feel, without probably ever knowing her change of mind was the reason.

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Most Helpful Guy

  • Great article. As a man who shares you exact feelings I find it so disheartening when my girlfriend becomes so self conscious over this topic. To all women, please don't be self conscious about it. Any man who dare say anything derogatory about the taste, smell or appearance is just a ducking moron who in all honesty is undeserving of your love. By being self conscious it can makes men who love giving oral sex feel uneasy about doing so because (in my experience anyway) some women are so del confident that they just cannot enjoy it.

    • Well said, Sir :)

Most Helpful Girl

  • Pretty sure you just wrote a better book than 50 Shades of Grey.

    • ty for your kind words :)

    • Agreed.

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  • Through my entire sex life I have always enjoyed pleasuring the lady I was with orally much more than the brief photoflash moment of my own orgasm. To be able to provide pleasure to a lover until she begs “no more” is to me the ultimate pleasure in my life. This is especially true now that I am in my senior years. Actually my first sexual experience was with an older girl. Her step father had taught her about the pleasures of giving and more importantly about the immense pleasure of receiving oral sex. As with most molested children she was all too eager to pass that knowledge on to her playmate. Sad as it is, I was a good student and I too passed it on to other girls. That is not to say that I victimized other girls but I never turned down an opportunity to pleasure a girl. Strangely I was almost 20 before I had penetrative sex. But I had lots of “gal-pals” that enjoyed my company. I dare say there would be very few that would ever speak ill of the attention I gave to them and many would say that they have never been treated with such respect and caring while a man is doing the deed down there.

  • I've never been self conscious about my area. However I have had a few partners that gave me no sensation when recieving oral. I thought it was me, until It took the guy im with now to have me to relax and enjoy the sensation. He did it right and with passion.

    • It is usually the woman being self conscious at it or the guy having issues with it or no clue about how to do it

  • i think if all women have received oral from someone who puts as much thought/effort into it as you and enjoys it as much as you do we'd all want it all the time.
    for me personally, i think oral sex is super super intimate. even more so then sex, because like you said there's a whole lot of insecrutiy floating around in the back of our minds.
    but you make it sound like the best thing ever. kinda exciting to read, to tell u the truth.

    • ty for your kind words- means a lot :)

  • I've only had oral done to me once by my boyfriend (we're long distance) and I was highly self-conscious about it. I don't like anyone looking at my private. Shrugs. Anyway, I did end up enjoying it.

    • im sure your 'privates' are sincere perfection like every womans 'privates'

    • Is it horrible of me to not want to queen my bf's face? He really wants me to and told me he wouldn't mind it. I told him no. All i can imagine about it is that I'm suffocating the guy i love with my pussy, just so I can feel great pleasure and orgasm like never before. I couldn't 😟

    • It is the hugest turn on a woman riding your face. you should try it

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  • Love receiving oral and don't feel detached (no issues with feeling insecure about my vulva) quit surprised that some women feel detached. To me oral is so much more intimate... also when receiving.

    But nice take though ;) Love men who love to devour pussy haha

    • i am truly addicted to it- hugest turn on

  • Wow very poetic I love the way u described everything :)

    I'm married now but my husband rarely goes down on me, I love giving and reciceveing oral. its just not his thing to go down on me. I don't know if its me or he just isn't into it. He likes receiveing oral though

    • ty for your kind words As for your hubby, you should ask him why? Not only for you, but the lad doesn't know what he is missing out on

    • Damn that sucks he don't. I love giving

    • I have asked, he just doesn't really like it. The taste. Plus I'm on the bigger side so its harder to stay groomed :/

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  • Beautifully written :) and quite accurate too I think.

    Myself, I took a very long time to be comfortable with it and only one man, my current partner, has ever given me any pleasure from it - but that was my hangups, not strictly their fault. My case was a little different from just being self conscious though and stemmed from a very odd experience as a child... but the detachment you have spot on, it feels very lonely if done wrong! Up there all on your own!

    • Thank you so much for your kind words and so great to hear you are with a man now who rocks your world in this regard

    • No problem, I look forward to reading more from you.

    • ty, once more :)

  • I cannot climax from oral. Literally EVERYONE has told me that "he's just not doing it right", but that's false. I can only climax on my back thighs touching, or on top with him sitting up in a chair or on the couch. There's also an issue of roughness. No human tongue is capable of both the pressure and intensity that I need to climax, not simultaneously. So why get all hot and worked up knowing that it will only give me a build up and no release? It's pointless, and that's why I don't enjoy receiving oral.

    • great post- thank you

    • I bet I could fix that

  • Damn, you weren't lying when you said you write erotic prose. Even though this is all about giving a woman head, you provide a beautiful description.

    • ty ma'am

  • Beautiful My Take. Very well written and definitely conveys the passion and desire you have. It was a pleasure to read.

    • Thank you for your kind words. Giving oral sex has been a passion of mine since my sexual awakening

    • Any woman would be very lucky to be on the receiving end, I am sure. <3 ;)

    • i am told i am very talented :)

  • I'm self conscious about how I smell, taste and look down there. I don't stop my other half doing it but I don't make him and rarely ask him.

    I love oral with him though. He used to say to me that oral is the only reason to date him. And he was not lying, his oral skills are out of this world. I've never enjoyed it as much and I love the fact when I look down he has an erection. My ex always lost his and said it was boring pleasing me...

    • It is great hearing a guy enjoy it as much as your man does :)

    • Aye :) I don't make him do it often because it would get boring for both of us and his favourite thing is teasing me. Making me beg for it. But at least he knows how.

    • It is great to hear, and as much as he makes you 'beg', he would be begging as well

  • I dunno dude, been with a lot of women, and none of them were surprised, bemused or self-conscious about me going down on them.

    • you have either made great choices, or been lucky

  • I am a very oral person
    It is important to me to be able to eat her out to get true sexual satisfaction. I dated someone in January that only wanted intercourse for sex. I broke it off as that is not something I want. Even if she does not enjoy it, I need to be able to eat her out to be truly satisfied. Luckily, I have not found a woman that didn't like it.

    • Same, Sir :)

  • I'm all about making out during oral. It's a highlight

    • it is a key to pleasing as well

  • I love going down on her first. Yes it is one thing to give a woman an orgasm with full intercourse, but to give her an orgasm while you are down there is like being on the front row seating for a firework show :)

    Love it. love how they all smell differently and tastes differently too.:)

    • Gospel Truth ^

    • Amen brother.

  • Followed the link :) you share the same views on this subject as my boyfriend. I wish every guy was like you two. I'm just lucky to have my man go down on me every day, sometimes more than once.

    • I am addicted to it- no greater joy ;)

    • @MissMickey I'd consider him luckier though ;)

  • Well, I have no fuckin clue what you were trying to say with this, but it looks like SOMEONE found the thesaurus.

    • lol- nah , i am very animated and expressive over this topic

  • I remember being super self conscious about my pussy. And then I had a guy, who only wanted to eat me out. And I was confused, but allowed him too do what he does. BEST DECISION EVER. I love giving oral (a hobby of mine) but I also love receiving. And I find myself continuously arguing with potential sex partners about there selfish ways.

    If you don't want to eat my pussy that's perfectly fine, but your dick will not be going in my mouth at all. Men need too stop being selfish.

    • giving a woman oral is the greatest joy

  • White knight.

    • aww, someone is "jealous"

    • Aww someone is trying to project shame and think i have ulterior motives.

    • I think you're just jealous from all of the positive attention that someone else is receiving.

  • well written! I love being eaten out but rarely have it happen.

    • it is the hugest turn on :)

    • I love to eat out girls

    • Why is it such a rarity for you?

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