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Ugly women have to resort to being easy to get some from guys

Ugly women have to resort to being easy to get some from guys


Girls who are uglier have it harder in life. We have to work for our things. We have to make the first move. We don't get noticed when we're out in public. We don't get hit on or complimented by strangers. We're never somebody your boyfriends wants to meet. We're the ugly friend. We're never somebody a guy would seriously date. We're the practice girls. The ones who will let you do anal. The ones who have to lower their self esteem and settle with being treated like crap because you're doing them a favor of even noticing them. You would never go out in public with them, or show them to your friends and family. They are below your league. They aren't good enough for that, but they're good enough to fuck.

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  • Everyone has their struggles. It's not like being attractive or above average is a walk in the park either. You get attention at times you'd want nothing more than to blend in and keep to yourself. Often, the attention you get based on your physical appearance is not what you'd call 'good' attention either. How would you feel if you couldn't wear shorts in the summer, I'm not talking about shorts equivalent to booty shorts either, without getting ogled and wolf-whistles by just walking down the street? When people think you get everything handed to you on a silver platter because you're 'hot', failing to acknowledge the effort you put in when in reality you worked your ass off, just as much if not more as everyone else?

    Two sides to every story.

Most Helpful Guy

  • Welcome to the world of 90% of guys.

    Guys ave to make the first move, don't get noticed in public, don't get hit or complimented by strangers, have to often lower standards if they don't have any game, money or looks.

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  • I think that's a rather grim view of life.

    That suggests that the only reason a girl would:

    1. make the first move, or
    2. let you do anal

    is because they "have to" (i. e., it's necessary, obligatory, involuntary) "settle with being treated like crap" (i. e., as if those things are not normally things that ANY WOMAN would EVER want to do voluntarily out of her own free will or choice).

    I disagree, strongly.

    I think that when a woman's true self-esteem (i. e., not the act she puts on for others, and not what she consciously tells herself, but how she really truly feels inside) is "low," she is "insecure." As a result, she "needs" (emotionally) to feel "validated" by external sources (i. e., men) that she is "more valuable" than what she believes her own self to be.

    As a result, when interacting with a man, she is actually "less likely" to "have sex" with a man, because doing so would not only provide her none of the validation she "needs" (emotionally), but would rub her own insecurities the wrong way and be processed as a sign that she "is not valuable or worth it" ... and... "look at what I have to do for a guy, just so that a guy can give me what I want."

    This is the same kind of insecurity-driven thinking men have when dating a woman, "Oh, I have to do ALL THESE THINGS... just so she can have sex with me?"

    No. You don't do ALL THESE THINGS just so the other person can give you something. If that's "why" you're doing all those things, then "THAT" is what makes this whole process or exchange "negative."

    Otherwise, if a guy is taking a girl out on a date, there's nothing "negative" about that. That guy is not some desperate loser just begging to get some action from that girl later. He's just making the girl feel good around his company. He's doing that because he "wants" to, not because he "has" to.

    Similarly, a girl has sex with a guy, or "lets his do anal" or "makes the first move," not because she "has to," but because she "wants to."

    Maybe you feel that "you're ugly," and only after you first believe that belief as true... only then do you go to the next step, which is to necessarily believe that you "have" to do these things... why? Because you're ugly.. and that's just what ugly girls do.

    That's just a negative cycle of thinking, which is not even necessarily true.

    Your post was really sad to read, and I honestly hope you can find the strength to stop that cycle of negative thinking and start loving yourself.

    • I agree.

  • I empathize with you. But settling won't get you anywhere. You'll have more salt to your wounds because you will always be hurt in the end.

  • I'd rather be single then let anyone treat me like shit.

    And many women like doing the work... They still get called desperate even if it's a choice

    There are always people in the world who can see the beauty in people.. Just have to find your own Beaty and let it shine and look for kindred souls... Feeling like you're with people who don't give ashit about you is NOT the way to start your life.

    • I don't believe in kindred souls

    • Then why would you want a relationship with anyone? If people are just assholes then why bother?

    • I'm actually having difficulty understanding why you'd rategr be with guys who don't respect you than just being single? I have no idea if you're attactuve or not three no one model of beauty and there's always hooky to be someone who sees yours, though you may not see theirs so don't notice. But why be with guys you think are using you? By that point they are not worthy so why indulge them?

  • It's the same for uncharming men. Ugly people have a hard time but we can all get laid if we drop our standards. This is what pisses me off about the whole Women get laid easier debate, yeah we might be able to if we are average looking and don't have standards, same as most guys can go find a drunk horny woman at a bar at 12pm and take her home. Drop your standards and practically anyone can get laid, but men want the hot girls, it isn't fair they have to drop their standards... wah wah wah!

  • Yes, it's true.
    But since I don't like to talk in a large crowd (more than 5 people), especially with strangers, I actually enjoy this. ^^
    And taking compliments even from friends is weird, imagine it coming from a stranger. O_O

  • Sounds horrible to be an ugly girl... Now try being an ugly guy. Being easy doesn't even work... Let alone letting do anal...

  • I hate to admit it, but it's mostly true.
    The same happens to boys since many of them don't even get to have the sex part

  • Meh, better be igored than be laughed at... Which ugly girls also get by the way...

  • "Girls who are uglier have it harder in life. We have to work for our things. We have to make the first move. We don't get noticed when we're out in public. We don't get hit on or complimented by strangers. We're never somebody your boyfriends wants to meet."

    So you ge treated as an average male.

    • 95% of males get treated this way so it doesn't bother you guys as much because you get treated the same. It's different with women. If I'm out with my friends, they all get complimented or noticed and it's like I'm invisible.

    • So you don't think the average male feels the same way when they get treated as non-existant while their more attractive male friend is eating up all the female attention.

  • Wow, this was a depressing read. Plastic surgery is all of our friends.

    https://i.ytimg.com/vi/a9_MW5e0wps/hqdefault.jpg

  • "We have to work for our things. We have to make the first move. We don't get noticed when we're out in public. We don't get hit on or complimented by strangers"

    The same as the majority of the male species. Congratulations.

  • Sorry, but I've met many women that are considered below average and they're not as pathetic as you make it look like.
    Just because you are like that, doesn't mean all the other "ugly" girls are like that too.

    • I think the thing for ugly girls is the social norm is men chase women, so ugly girls have least chances to showcase her or to start a initiative. I consider myself an average-looking guy, but I have dated beautiful girls, including the current one. I think it is because I have many chances to take the initiative to showcase myself.

    • @WilliamWinslow Yeah, but they can do that too. What this girl doesn't wanna do is move her ass to get what she wants, it's pathetic. She just wants to get it handed on a silver plate like with beautiful girls. She can still get men, but she's too lazy to do so.

    • Why do you have to call me pathetic. Is it wrong to want to feel like a woman for once in my life?

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  • That's why you exercise, learn how to dress better, and learn how to use make up properly. I don't believe that most girls are naturally just "ugly". They choose not to give any effort to their appearance.

  • Saldy i agree with your completely... all of it is indeed true for the most part

    Mostly the part where they get sex but never really girlfriend material... but either way whats the question?

  • oh really? i thought they resort to cosmetic surgery first before snaring a guy big time!

  • Bitch, you do you think us men ever get "hit on or complimented by strangers"?

    You self entitled bitches have no idea what it's like to be worthless.

    • ALRIGHT ALRIGHT jesus... I wrote this out of rage because I was fucked and dumped. Looking at it from a different perspective, I guess all ugly people have it harder in life, men and women alike. I was comparing ugly women to pretty women and guys in general never crossed my mind.

  • "We have to work for our things. We have to make the first move."

    Oh cry me a river, princess! That's *exactly* how it should be. Now you know how guys feel all the time! You're just mad that you can't sit back and wait for guys to come to you.

    Maybe if you weren't such a sexist, entitled and spoiled princess, more people would find you attractive.

    • Honestly if you want to get a date, then maybe you should lose the entitled and sexist attitude, or go back to the 1950's. I hear they love blatant sexism there.

    • Damn 2 true XD You should listen 2 her

  • Your definition of ugly may not be everyone's definition of ugly. People like different races, hair length, hair color, eye color, heights, body shape etc. There is no one person who is good looking to everyone.

    • I completely agree with this dude.

  • beauty is in the eye of the beholder.. there's someone for everyone :). I feel that if someone is beautiful on the out side but horrid on the inside.. that's the worst!

    • I agree. I call that succubus or in male's version incubus :)

  • "Girls who are uglier have it harder in life. We have to work for our things. We have to make the first move. We don't get noticed when we're out in public. We don't get hit on or complimented by strangers."

    what's funny is that much of the beginning of this take is basically what a typical man has to go through most days of the week xD

    But its true though... ugly women do have it hard... harder than ugly men imho

    • I was gonna say that, that the first few sentences is exactly what happens to 99% of men xD

    • @AleDeEurope

      yeah i mean damn. This is why i made this take some time ago about women not knowing about what the typical life of a man feels like

      www.girlsaskguys.com/.../a10827-who-is-more-privileged-in-western-society-men-or-women

      i mean its pretty much a life of not being noticed unless you initiate everything

    • Exactly. They just don't wanna admit it cause then it won't benefit them. If we admit there's a problem, then there'll be change. If they keep acting oblivious and changing the topic, things will remain the same. Hypocrisy.

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