Sexual Relationships 
Sexual Health 
My sex life was one of the many highlights of a 22-year marriage.
Intense lust, always simmering, a blink, lurching into the boil with us morphing into hellcats. Ravenous for each other, as well as regularly delving into sexual adventures such as threesomes, with us both bi-sexual, role play, partner swapping along with acts of greater depths of perversity.
Strengthening our sex life by adding the tantalizing sugar and spice of sexual fantasy to our norm when most would view it as undermining and ultimately fracturing it. Open and honest communication facilitating this with us both feeling ease expressing our craven fetish's, living them freely supported by each other
Few couples would approach the sexual deviance we did with 'fantasy' relative, but the reflection makes me laud the role it can play in a couple's sex life. One with a fine line between pleasure and pain asterisk attached.
Key is in the ability to separate the fantasy from reality. Allowing it to enflame the known shared with renewed passion, intrigue and adventure rather than have it intrude, or fracture. There is often a sense of inevitability in the failure that goes with delving into fantasy. With it being so pervasive and giving you such a buzz, ultimately derailing your reality. Self-awareness coupled with complete honesty with yourself and partner allows the context to the fantasy.
Key also is extolling the cliche of 'there is no I in couple.'
With too many, feeling pressure by relenting to the living of a fantasy for the benefit of a partner. The classic example being the one partner hounding another for a threesome to live out their fetish without taking into account the real feelings of the other. Often the man is the eager one wanting another woman to indulge in with the woman feeling pressure to do so, often yielding.
Feeling resentment, insecurity, and bitterness as its legacy.
Rather than eyeballing him and exalting 'NO!', or putting him in his place by saying:
' Ok, you can have your threesome, only after I have mine by adding another man to our 'fun time''
In the process, enjoying his hypocritical response as she witnesses his jaw hit the floor in response.
I will leave you with this, and the accompanying realisation of having your voice heard, and listened too when involving in anything sexual.
What Girls & Guys Said
1 2I think you have to want to go on the adventure together, with that person specifically. If you want to do it with or without them it's often more risky for the relationship.
You are a very wise penguin
Ha, just call me LoveLace (the penguin, not the old porn star, ha!)
Ok LL ;)
Sexual fantasy is lust, and lust is sexual fantasy.
I fantasise about having a threesome of any kind witn my girlfriend. Maybe I should ask her. I've always wanted to try stuff with guys and girls that isn't my girflriend. she's been my only lover ever.
honesty is the best policy