No, I will not send you nudes!

[helithchambers]

I bet that 9 out of 10 girls have been asked for their nudes.

You go online, perhaps you find yourself a new community and as soon as you reveal that you're female, guys swoop down from above and ask for confirmation. If you're really lucky, they'll ask for your nudes. (Psst! It means they like you.)

It's like they expect you to have them. You tell them off and get called the worst sorts of things. You're suddenly reduced to a boring old prude.

What exactly is wrong with guys today? The social medias have turned our love for oversharing selfies into a weapon against us. Our privacy is at risk, our lives are only interesting if we have enough followers and we find that our self-esteem depends on how many likes we can get.

If you do not have any pictures on your Facebook page, you're weird and you have a low self-esteem. I've more than once been asked why I don't post pictures on my Facebook and the question is simple; I value my privacy. My friends know what I look like and if they want to see me, they can call me up anytime. I don't have any desire to take a picture of me performing some ridiculous ritual (duckface!) and post it online to see how many people will approve and baptise me into their ranks. I don't want to and if that makes me weird, then so be it!

The fact that society has pushed the male gender into accepting their most basic nature; well honestly it's great that they embrace their gender stereotype, but is it really necessary to stoop down to the caveman level? I thought the time of men posing as women was over. Does it really happen that often? Guys, please stop asking for nudes.

[teawrecks]

I do not, and will never, see the harm in sending a nude picture to someone. But that's because I'm AWARE of the potential risks and downfalls. I do it because it's fun, it strokes my ego, and 99.7% of the time it turns the guy on. Which brings us back to stroking my ego while he strokes his dick.

I'm a consenting adult above the age of 18, I have a fully functioning brain that helps me decide whether something is worth it or not after weighing pros and cons.

- Could they be leaked onto the internet? Yeah, sure absolutely.
- Will it have a potential negative effect on any chances I have at future employment / relationships IF the nudes are leaked? Yes, absolutely.
- Do I fully trust the person (s) whom I'm sending the nude/s to? No, not fully.

Sending nudes and expecting them to be kept private and not spread around the internet just sets you up for a Bad Time because you'll spend the rest of your life wondering if that person ever did such a thing or will, yet, in the future, do it. Sending nudes and accepting that there is at least a 70% chance of them being posted without your knowledge is a lot less stressful.

When you decide to make the decision to send someone your full frontal nudies, you're revoking your right to keeping those pictures private and secure. The faster people realize and accept this, the quicker we'll get over the drama of sending nudes.

People also need to realize that there is free porn easily accessible to whomever wants it. Meaning, your face and body probably aren't THAT amazing for someone to dedicate time out to plastering your shit all over the place. Yes, there's always the chance of them doing it if you piss them off... but why would you send them to someone you know is malicious enough to do such a thing if you make them angry? That's on YOU.

TL;DR: Send nudes, accept potential consequences, have fun.

[mickylad]

Comment of the week !!

[teawrecks]

@mickylad Entirely not surprised at the female downvotes

[helithchambers]

I'll actually upvote this because I'm impressed and because I respect your opinion. I'm not attacking anyone at all, I'm just sharing my perspective. You know the risks and that's great. And if it makes you feel good to show off your body, then go for it! Quite a refreshing opinion.

[Red_Arrow]

To people on here, I have often advised on the need for caution. Who are they sending it to, keep the possibility of identification down (no faces, tattoos, pictures in background, etc.), and realize that it may make it to others if you send them. In fact, I believe that most guys will at least show them to others, even if they do not send them anywhere. But you are one who is aware of the "dangers" and have made an "enlightened" decision to send them. You get a certain enjoyment out of doing so, and you know what guys will use them for, and that also makes you happy. Those are things that I actually respect and like in you. If a guy is going to enjoy a picture from you, you are happy to send it. It does not change who you are or bring you bad things to share the pictures of yourself, so you do it. If you had a different attitude on the matter, I would feel differently about it, but you don't. And yes, I have received nudes and sent them. (Though I NEVER pass them on).

[teawrecks]

@Red_Arrow Well, I appreciate your respect. :)

[teawrecks]

myTake Owner - I wasn't implying you were attacking anyone, but this subject is definitely one that gets a good bit of heat because people who don't do it or don't like doing it don't look at it from another person's perspective who doesn't mind it. And I think men get too much heat for supposedly always asking. If I like or am attracted to the guy, he only has to ask me once and then I'll periodically send him some. And every single guy who has asked me for nudes, has been polite and backed down if I told them "no".

[QuestionMan]

I don't want your nudes.
What kind of a weak ass pussy asks for nudes?
If a guy wants to see a woman naked he should see her in person.

[Roostah]

or just watch porn.

[QuestionMan]

@Roostah That too

[bloodmountain1990]

Vice versa applies too. If a girl I didn't know asked me for nudes, I'd say if you want to see it that bad you'll see it in person. Not that I got asked for nudes lol but one time I had a girl I met off POF offer me nudes but didn't ask me back nor did I offer because here's the thing, once you send nudes to someone, it's in THEIR possession.

[Trenbolone123]

I ask for nudes and sometimes get them, bitch.

[Trenbolone123]

I'm also not a pussy.

[mgbeauty21]

Haha EXACTLY

[mgbeauty21]

To the opinion owner lol

[QuestionMan]

@Trenbolone123 Why not just have sex? That way all you're left with is a picture to masturbate too.

[QuestionMan]

@mgbeauty21 :)

[Trenbolone123]

Because I'm at the District of Columbia and my hometown is in northern Illinois. Put the two together. Kill yourself.

[QuestionMan]

@Trenbolone123 Hahaha Get a girl in DC then. Oh wait you can't cuz no girl in DC would want an asshole like you.

[Trenbolone123]

I'm actually still too poor and not quite "plugged in" as a "transplant" if you will. Close calls but no cigar so you're on to something. Will be soon fingers crossed and then I'll get me a banginnnn' blonde. Thanks for the compliment, bruh ;-)

[Darkfairie17]

I seriously do not understand why people feel entitled to nudes. Even a picture of someone. I go on Whisper a lot and sometimes I get guys messaging me. At first they act like they want to help with a problem I am having. But then it turns into "send a pic?" as soon as I do that, the conversation stops. Or they ask for nudes. Seriously?

Apparently you're not a person unless you are good looking and send nudes... didn't know that! :P

I totally agree with you. I respect my privacy. Why does a stranger need to see what I look like before they consider helping me or even talking to me?

[Clairehunti]

Thank you! I love this take.

[Stacyzee]

I agree with you 100 percent.

You don't need a ton of photos online and a lot of likes to have self worth.
I know someone real life who is unattractive but looks good in photos. She feeds off of the attention she gets off of her social media and constantly posts pics.
It's pathetic in reality.
A lot of people are like that.
They validate their self worth by how they are treated online , I don't need that. I have self esteem.

A while ago I had to quit a site (I had my pic up) because I was constantly being asked for nudes. It got annoying. I realized I wanted no part of a perverted community.
it got old rather quickly.

[bloodmountain1990]

I hate when that happens, mainly on dating sites, when I've met women who use misleading pictures and appear very attractive online but when you meet them in person, you're not attracted anymore. I mean I'm not a superficial person but looks still matter to an extent. It's like if I'm not physically attracted to the person in real life, I can't say it without coming off shallow or like a douchebag.

[GoodManDave]

"Send me a pic with extra clothes! Layers, baby! Oooh, yeah! Look at the cardigan and scarf on HER!"

You know, I've never asked for nudes. I've also never screamed "show us your tatas!" I'm boring, I guess. If I wanted nudes, I'd go get a Playboy or (well, now go online to ANY site practically), or have a real relationship with a woman. I doubt I'd even want nudes of a girlfriend on my phone - too much chance of getting hacked. Not interested in passing out pics of my girlfriend to friends (not that they'd be the type who'd be bugging me for it. I can brag about a girlfriend in a lot of other ways.

[MaskedSanity]

The reason these shitty men go apeshit over being refused nudes is because they're infantile and can't handle not getting what they want. And of course, guilt tripping tactics. The younger the girl, the more likely she is naive enough to fall for that bullshit.

I can safely say I have no nudes of me anywhere on or offline (unless some stalker took pics of me in the shower or something, lol).

If my boyfriend wants to see tits and ass, he's more than welcome to get a live show. I see absolutely no point in having tangible imagery of it.

[mishiii]

I totally understand your point of view. Is nothing wrong with it. In the context of Western civilization one must understand that right or wrong good or bad juice of the new female body have been exalted since the beginning of time. Forgetting the Phoenicians and all of those let us begin at the Renaissance where paintings of nude women were exalted and commonplace. At various times in our culture they have been exalted or criticized. Guys like to look at new girls. Modigliani, Picasso and so many others paint new. If they had texting and iPhones they wouldn't have become famous

[sjoes006]

I'm so glad to hear a younger person say this! Once they are out there you never get them back even if you never send them if they are on your phone they are on the cloud.

[Jbbhaze449]

It's funny. I've NEVER asked for nudes or rarely even pictures from girls online. But I've had several girls just randomly send me pics of their tits or just naked. Like "hey check this out" "what do you think of my boobs?" and I'm like "uhhh wtf? They're nice obviously."
But I've certainly never asked anyone for nudes. I wonder if exhibitionistic girls are like this to everyone or if they just like me cause I'm nice and it doesn't occur to me to ask a girl for nudes.

[martyfellow]

Good for you.
This frenzy about nudes is just media driven showing off by mostly teenage boys.
It's good you aren't contributing to these stereotypes.

[jimin]

I see so many bitter men on here. Probably got turned down when they asked for nudes themselves.

[GirlsLie]

lol, that's exactly how I feel about social media. The amount of attention that grown people require these days is really disappointing. It's so narcissistic- look at me, look where I went, look what I had for breakfast...

My friends have my number and Skype, text me or Skype me, everyone already knows what I look like. I'm not adding a bunch of random people as "friends" so that I can pretend to have an exciting life to impress people over the internet.

There's no way i'm sending nudes to some random guy over the internet and if they ask me, I just stop talking to them all together. I've had lots of guys I play games with ask and lots of girls in games send nudes to guys as well. It must be sad to need the approval of e-dick that bad.

[DaniaMQ]

THANK YOU. for writing this!!! I agree 100% 😌

[PurpleT]

Nice take on the subject! :-)

I had my ex ask me for nudes of me. How inappropriate is that?

[mishiii]

Not giving out nudes is nothing to do with self-esteem. Why on earth would you not give out new? Big deal. That's what guys are into. Girls don't understand. If you have self-esteem you should give out new be proud of you so. But no we have interjected high technology in modern times with old-fashioned Taurean Puritan crap. I dance naked for a living well not for a living but to get some money to pay for my education. Anybody want new just ask

[Red_Arrow]

lol. As old as this question is, I stumbled across it again only 30 minutes after you posted your opinion, and find that a woman down voted you. To have that happen so quickly on an old question or myTake, it almost HAS to be the Asker/Take owner. There are different morals and beliefs, as well as different levels of knowing what you are "getting yourself into". You are an adult who can make her own decisions. And you obviously are aware that others may see the nudes that you send. But since you entertain nude for a profession (for now at least), it does not bother you. And so I think your attitude and acceptance of nudity is great. So I will up vote you if for no other reason than to counter the down vote. Hope to see more of your opinions. They are refreshing.

[mishiii]

@Red_Arrow there is something wrong with today's society. Take this website. It is appalling to people that they should send out nudes. Yet, the same website has 15-year-old girls asking for better ways to suck dick. And other various questions. I'm 24 and soon will be 25. Certainly I am no prude I'm at the Crazy Horse in San Francisco in addition to well I will not tell you what university I go to.. I am certain you get my point. I would like to see teenyboppers send out naked pictures of themselves in preference to having sexual intercourse when they don't even know the names of the parts.

[nymous1234]

Take this website. It is appalling to people that they should send out nudes. Yet, the same website has 15-year-old girls asking for better ways to suck dick... Hahahahaha LMAO!! that is so true you have such a point there. it is almost maybe hypocritical

[helithchambers]

@nymous1234 what exactly does this website have to do with my take? Good, you have such a great relationship with your body and you dance naked, that's really good! Sadly, not all feel the need to flaunt their fannies and melons down the street. The world is a little bit more complex than that and some of us feel that the body is something sacred. I value my body and want to only show it to someone whom I trust. Is that bad? No. So I should definitely not share it with strangers who's only agenda is to exploit it for their own sake.

[helithchambers]

@Red_Arrow no, I didn't downvote her opinion right after she posted. I downvoted it later. 2 others did.

[Red_Arrow]

"what exactly does this website have to do with my take?" What are you really asking? Because the only thing this website has to do with your myTake is that this website put you myTake on it. And I will not dispute your right to hide your body, even though it is almost identical to half the population and therefor pretty much everybody knows what it looks like. Modesty is fine for some people. But body openness is fine for others. I generally fall more on the openness side. I have been to nude resorts and beaches most of my life, and do not find the human body to be something that needs to be hidden. But I do not dispute your right to choose what to do with your body. I think the point this opinion owner is making is that you seemed to attack the self esteem of people who are more "body open" than you. She wants to dispute that point. Just because she does not hide her body does not mean she does not value her body! If she is typical of dancers, she values her body highly!

[Red_Arrow]

She probably takes care of it better than most people with proper nutrition and exercise. So it sounds like she is responding to your attack on her self esteem, and now you seem to attack her values about her body. The two of you just see the concepts about others seeing your body differently.

[helithchambers]

@Red_Arrow I'm really not attacking anyone, you should read my replies and this take with a nice mix of sarcasm and humor. Of course she has her right to do as she pleases, but today's mentality and regard to the human body is the exact opposite of the olden days where nudity was frowned upon. There's no balance, no acceptance of both sides, you're either a prude if you don't take nudes, if you don't wear sexy lingerie, if you don't do this or that or you're a complete and utter slut, throwing yourself at men and there's absolutely nothing more to you than your body. Bottom line, there's no balance. I believe I value my body just as much as she does but in a different way. If I'm nude, I feel vulnerable and exposed and it makes me extremely uncomfortable. My clothes is my second skin. Her dance is hers.

[Red_Arrow]

This last response was very balanced and expressed respect for her beliefs. And you are right that you both value your bodies, just differently. That is healthy. I do not imagine there is really any reason you should feel vulnerable and uncomfortable when nude. It is common for many people to feel that way, but their bodies are usually just as beautiful as the next person's and they have no reason to feel uncomfortable. I do not feel anybody is a prude for not sharing nude photos. That is personal choice. But I tend to think of people as prudes when they get upset over other people doing so. Of course, there are boundaries. The young age of some on here is very wrong in my opinion, because they really are not mature enough to make those decisions. And posting them in the open on here is wrong.

[LittleSally]

Some women actually send them... so they think there's nothing to lose by asking for them - especially if they don't really care about their potential relationship with the woman - just their naked body.

[Jxpxtxr]

OMG preach it girl!
I do post my pictures on social media and sometimes it's quite creepy how my instagram or lookbook pictures spread around the internet but it never happened in a bad way and I would NEVER EVER post anything revealing or close to a nude, I even make sure I mention it multiple times, YET, I keep getting tons of guys (about 1-2 per day!) asking for nudes like who do they think I am? I even had some guys on here block me and call me a "slut" because I refused to send them nudes like wth lol
Just go back to your porns tbh...

[bloodmountain1990]

Wow being called a slut for NOT sending nudes? That's bizarre. Usually people will call a girl a slut for sending nudes, especially to strangers.

[MaskedSanity]

@bloodmountain1990 It's the number one insult guys tends to throw at a girl that tells them "no". I can't count how many times I've been called a slut for refusing a guy's advances and saying no to nude requests. It's a ridiculously common practice among entitled men.

[bloodmountain1990]

@MaskedSanity It's hypocritical really. There's guys who will want to have sex with a girl right away and if she doesn't then she's a prude but if she puts out, she's a slut. I mean while it is way easier for a girl to get laid, doesn't that make the guy a slut too? It takes two to tango after all.

[bloodmountain1990]

Then there's also girls that say why can't I find a nice guy and get in abusive relationships a lot and then when they find a nice guy, and by nice I mean genuinely and respectful, not a self proclaimed one who does shit to expect something in return, they end up leaving him only to go back to an abusive ex/new guy only to complain again. And the cycle continues.

[MaskedSanity]

@bloodmountain1990 I tend to distance myself from such people. And I honestly don't get women that stay with shitty partners, then bitch about them to other people.

[bloodmountain1990]

Yeah I made that mistake of dating a girl like that. I was really naive at the time, but I started dating this girl who just got out of a relationship who was very manipulative and got me attached quick. But long story short, she'd been dating this guy on and off for 6 FUCKING YEARS, and she had so much baggage that she asked me to make fun of him for his baby dick in case we ran into him. And then once I showed interest back in her, she left and posted on facebook saying why can't I find any nice guys with tattoos? Is that too much to ask for?

[bloodmountain1990]

She ended up going to that same guy she complained about and I gave her a taste of her own medicine by using her babydick remark against her and then she victimized herself said I'm an asshole and how I need to be a real man and move on. I said to her, well I'm more real than a person who uses someone to get back at her ex. She said nothing afterwards haha.

[Takada]

I never send nudes to anyone, because it requires an insane amount of (undeserved) trust. What prevents a guy from showing my nudes to all his friends? What prevents him from putting it on the internet for everyone to see? Nothing but sense of decency. And I have to trust a guy to just have that? Nope.

[AbbyKay]

Yeah you are so right. im not even super pretty and I've gotten 3 requests for nudes in one day before. i can't image what it would be like for the really gorgeous girls! oh and you forgot dick pics AH! i don't want to see that monstrosity and its not flattering or anything. i dont like that kind of attention like some guys keep insisting. this one guy once sent me three dick pics to me and a video of a girl masturbating saying that he wished that he could see me doing that instead and he got blocked so fast!

[undeadRobby]

I can understand a man asking for nude pics from his long-time girlfriend, especially if they've talked about it and have seen each other naked before, etc.
But weirdos on the internet hounding girls they've never met for nudes? That's pretty gross.

[LovelyDisquiet]

Honestly, I don't see why asking for nudes is a problem?

Just say no. Problem solved.

[helithchambers]

Right, because that's totally not what this entire take is about.

[EnglishArtsteacher]

Usually, when I see a myTake written against one particular group of people, I dislike it.

However, with this myTake, I couldn't agree more. The only time I asked for nudes was when I was a teenager on www.teenspot.com, but that was because there was a certain room for "horny" teens you could go on (those were the days lol).

Other than that, I've never randomly asked a girl for a nude.