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Why it's ok to not sleep around!

I decide to make this mytake because I notice lately (mostly guys) make me feel bad about not sleeping around online or off. I'm tired of it! I want to make people who don't like sleeping around to feel ok about it and here are good reasons to do it. Keep in mind I'm not going to put anyone down and if my grammar and spelling sucks I don't care. Also I'm only doing pros keep that in mind.

Pro you won't get pregnant or get a sti.

Sure you can get a sti or get pregnant by your long term partners but your long term partner would be there to support you if you get pregnant. If you have a faithful long term partner who is clean to begin with (because they can be born with a sti) chances of having a sti is 0. But with people who you barley know they could have stis or get you pregnant sure you can wear a condom but condom can still break. A lot of people forget these things. Plus the risk of getting sti and pregnancy with mutiple people would be higher then 1 person or with none.

Pro you don't feel use or get emotional damaged by it.

Partically girls, when they sleep around with so many people they feel "used" and can get emotional damage by having so much sex with people because they could "love" these people and these people were just want the sex. Even if the girl who sleeps around a lot doesn't feel use she can get name call like "slut","whore", "used up" you get what I mean that can lower she self esteem, turn into bullying and she can go into depression because of it or the worst case suicide.

Pro you won't fall in love with someone who just wanting sex because you are not looking to hook up.

Mostly people who have friends with benefits one of them usually falls for the other person while the other person just wants sex. A pro here is that you won't be in love with someone who just in it for the sex because been there done that it was painful knowing the person only wanted sex (never slept with them). So knowing that I won't fall in love with a person who seeking sex is the best because no broken heart at the end of the friends with benefits or hook up.

Last pro you won't have any drama.

I think this is one of the best pros is that you won't deal with drama about this type of stuff. Rather its about if the person loves you or not. Or its more than sex its just better knowing that you are not having sex casually so you won't be put into this position.

Why its ok to not sleep around!

(this picture is for girls who "whore" around and except Prince Charming when they let anyone in their castle).

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Most Helpful Girl

  • I think everyone can have their own private sex life. Humans will be humans, we will always judge and disagree with each other. That's because everyone is different.

    Once in my past, I had multiple partners one after the other in a shorter period of time. But I was safe about it and very simple. I had no drama, I protected myself well, I was able to detach myself from the emotional attachment that people usually experience. I'm someone who doesn't end up regretting anything because I accept it as my past, and I move on from things easily.

    Presently, I've moved on from this part of my life, as I am now in a serious relationship with the most gorgeous, charming, caring, and loving man. I like to keep myself cute, cozy, or classy, and be a slut for my beloved in bed, hehe. ;)

    But my point is, people shouldn't judge others for their sexuality. That's their business, and although some guys are being rude to you, it's their body and their choices, after all.

    • I know its their choice and their body I don't comment on it I just say for example on my profile not looking for hook ups or casual sex and I get messages with "why not" or "come on baby I show you a good time" like they don't get I don't want that and these guys read it and still try with me like they don't care about my opinion of the topic and I feel people make me feel shitty about not wanting casual sex.

    • Well that's basically the whole internet. There'll always be creeps and pervs lurking around through the screen because they're weird. Anyone can use the internet, no one said people here were actually smart. There are a lot of stupid ass people on the internet. I don't even reply to anyone who says anything mildly flirtatious. I'm happily taken, and all advances towards me are pathetic and without hesitation, blocked, because they're dumb. You really can choose to not let it bother you. I didn't say you had to just ignore it, because if someone's provoking you, of course you can't ignore it, but you should just scoff it off like "bitch you ain't worth my time" and slam that virtual wall between you two by blocking him. You feel?

    • I do that anyway with certain ones but how men are today about just sleeping around and anyone who doesn't do that is weird I find is abnormal you feel?

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Most Helpful Guy

  • Those guys are jerks. They are only making you feel bad so that you will sleep with them, especially at your age. The truth is for relationships men WANT women who don't sleep around. Past behavior is the best judge of future behavior, its true. I love the e card you have "If you want a prince, Try to act like a princess... Not like a whore."
    Couldn't have said it better myself!

    • I'm glad a lot of people agree with me on the matter.

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  • Absolutely agree with you ! Those girls who are promiscuous tend to miss the boat of a true love relationship they desperately wish for very much so by the time they are thirty. It also goes for guys on a psychological level. They are scattered after some time.
    If people are trying to bring you down, it only means you are above them.

  • That picture makes no sense historically though, basically all royals had affairs and slept around! Like Marie Atoinette and Axel Von fersten, Marie of Romania and Prince Barbu Stirbei. And Queen Elizabeth I "The Virgin Queen" called so because she never married. She was said to have had an affair with Robert Dudley who she called her "sweet Robin" and then when he died she started having sex with his STEPSON! Since she was a queen she could lead any woman's husband into her chambers right in front of his wife! Because the wife would not dare question the queen so she'd have to stand around knowing that her husband and the queen were having sex in there, and she'd have to be thankful that her husband was one of the queen's "favourites". Because she'd often act as a sort of sugar mommy for these men she fooled around with, giving them higher titles and more land to gain taxes from. Royals often had arranged or otherwise unwanted marriages, so often they'd agree to let each other cheat because they didn't really like one another anyway. And they had the power, status, and money to be able to convince most anyone they wanted into having sex with them so it was a free for all. Many of them were not even that discreet about it.
    So technically many many princesses were also commonly engaging in casual sex.

  • I don't think people should be shamed for their sexuality, whether they sleep around, or not. Although I find it odd to hear about men shaming a girl for not sleeping around. I have never heard about that before. If anything that is the opposite of the complaints I hear women making.

    If you are extremely vocal about your opinions about how people shouldn't sleep around, maybe the guys are feeling like you are shaming them for their own sexuality and feel the need to insult you back.

    • I know its weird its like they trying to make me change my mind no thank you

    • But I'm not I don't mention what I do other then my profile saying I don't do hook ups.

    • So its the guys online that are doing it? Being online will attract trolls that will find anything you stand for, and try to use it against you to get you upset.

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  • Well said Girl. ❤️

    • Thank you! someone had to say it!

  • The human mind was not meant for the promiscuous lifestyle. Real shame comes from realizing one has done so anyway, to their own detriment, and has only themselves to blame. The Bible forbids that lifestyle specifically to protect us from winding up in that very situation, and not because God is trying to be a killjoy.

    That's also what sets it apart from legalistic man-made religions.

  • I agree with 80% of your basic premise. What offends me is that a girl whom CHOOSES not to subscribe to these theories, has to be labeled ANYTHING... much less a whore. You could have gone on all day making a legitimate case for being monogamous without labeling other women or calling them names.

    www.girlsaskguys.com/.../a23675-why-we-need-to-eliminate-the-word-slut-from-our-vocabulary

    ^^^ The same applies to the word "whore". If a woman is a actually prostitute, you can simply say..."she's a prostitute". Otherwise, who are we/you to label her?

    • I just use that picture because its only one I could really find and because I found it funny.

  • Lol so a girl who has casual sex isn't worth a good guy who treats her well?

    I personally don't want to sleep around or date someone who has, I understand anyone's choice for NOT dating someone who sleeps around, but those who engage in casual sex are just as worthy as a virgin angel of a loving partner

    • I don't think that way I just choose that picture because I like it and it was funny also the picture implies to I'm assuming to women who sleeps with more then 20+ men. If you slept with people under 20 I don't think they are whores.

    • Yes people who sleep are worthy and like I stated in my mytake I'm not bashing on anyone.

  • Prince Charming would not have such a hard journey just to get an common slut, that already have many men on her, sluts are simply don't worth it, they worth only an one night stand, one of the main virtue of Princess Classic is her purity. :)

    tvtropes.org/.../PrincessClassic

  • FYI a whore is a slut that is looking for financial reimbursement. So a girl that says, " you have to buy me dinner first" is a whore. While a girl that just comes up to you and says, "let's f*ck"...(causal sex with strangers/one night stands) is a slut.

    • What is this nonsense? Are you a slut shamer?

    • @AndrewTroy Just informing the uneducated as what the true definitions/terminologies are. And I don't have respect for either of them since they don't have respect for themselves.

    • Did you just brought that up because of the picture didn't you?

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  • Agreed. A lot of these girls lie to themselves that they are okay with having casual sex but end up emotionally damaged, pregnant, or with an STI/STD.

    • or men too I know I can't handle banging random guys so I won't do it.

  • I can't force people to do what I want but I just feel that women should be respected regardless of sleeping around or not. This is basically setting a double standard for people to think it's okay for men to do it but not the other way around. Either respect both sexes or disrespect them both, I would go with the latter. When it comes to dating that can be different but I'm talking about in general.

  • The only reason I think people won't accept this is because what you have propositioned asks people to change themselves. Most people would rather try and change everyone else. They will say, I shouldn't have to change who I am, you should just stop using the word slut and whore, and while I agree that these words shouldn't be used to describe sexually active women, I have learned that you can not change anyone but yourself. People are always going to find someway to bring you down with words. If those words get to you then the only option you have left is to change how they see you. Which can only be done by changing yourself (or in the case changing your sexual activities)

    • I just want to say everyone who thinks I call women whores no I do not I use the picture because I found it funny and its the only really one I could find that was related to my mytake.

    • I did not mean to imply that you did, my apologies.

  • Hell yeah! :)) I totally agree. Brace yourself, accusations for so-called 'slut-shaming' coming through... Too bad though. It is what it is.

  • So it's better to get married and realized the guy snores loudly and you both don't like the sex at all? That's like a recipe for cheating. Well, that's how lawyers get their businesses. Helps the economy and all that.

    • Of course not where did you get that idea? I meant have sex with people you want to sleep with not with people you don't want to and be comfortable I am not comfortable with idea of sleeping with just anyone on the first date that's now I am.

    • Why would you even sleep with people you don't like? Okay maybe you are drunk or may on the rebound or something but it makes no sense sleeping with people you don't like! Prostitutes get paid for sex and you don't! That's just painful.

    • Don't put words into my mouth then because you just assume I waited for marriage talk about someone who thinks they know someone when they don't.

  • Well, ain't this a touchy one. You've very solid opinions, hard not to agree but ultimately you're letting a girl picks what she wants, who she wants. If the girl is independent and more importantly self reliant. I don't think these things matter. She gets to choose, but if you're talking about damaged goods. That's another story entirely. I'm not saying sleeping around is fine, but hey, that's my personal opinion. Its a free world. Girls have a lot more choices these days. As for guys, that's another story, and sometimes a very liberating sexual experience is just what a girl may need. There are no such things like slut, whores or whatever. Its just a heavily masculine view in a male dominated society.

  • I didn't read the article, can't be bother to do it but what is the people's problem? I would say mind your own business and to be honest with you I don't even know why the slut shaming exist in the first place... There's just no use for it if you ask me.

    • if you did read the article you would know its not about slut shaming in any way. No point commenting if you don't know what your talking about in this context.

    • haha you are funny. If you don't see a connection between sleeping around and slut shaming... eh why I even bother to explain it?

    • There a difference I was not slut shaming if I was I would say something like "whoever sleeps around is a hoe with herpes" or something like that I never said anything like that its just the pros and cons of not sleeping around I barley mention negative things about sleeping around.

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  • Con: Sexual frustration.

    • Porn is the answer to that or you could get to know someone and get in a relationship with them or friends with benefits.

    • Wait... What makes friends with benefits different than sleeping around?

    • Woah woah woah woah TakeOwner. You've just said how everyone should be faithful and then said to cure sexual frustration the answer is porn. How exactly would porn be made if we were busy being Virgin Mary's?

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  • And the one who is worth it will wait

  • There is only one pro required: YOU WILL BE TIGHT!

    #lies4days

    • I don't get it. you mean my vagina will be tight how is that good?

    • You make me loathe myself in ways I didn't know possible.

    • Oh sorry but why is being tight a good thing thou?

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  • That pic, love it!

    Also, women should bear in mind that plenty of guys out there can act like a prince charming, but in reality are very far from it.

    • Exactly I don't like man whores either but I can barley find pictures like the one I use for men double standards here.

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