I recently read a myTake advocating that the word "slut" be eliminated from our vocabulary. I very strongly disagree.
1. Resist the thought police. I always rebel against the thought police. The thought police are people who have an idyllic notion of how the world should be and they would like to force all of us to conform to their standards for attaining that goal. Wouldn't it be nice if no one ever said anything mean to anyone else? Okay then, we have a new rule: no one can ever say anything mean to anyone else.
Of course, this is a silly notion, and the majority of us will not accept the yoke which the thought police wish to impose. Whether they are trying to control our thoughts or our speech, this concept is an anathema to the traditions of most Western civlizations.
The irony is that the thought police think of themselves as being loving and tolerant people and they are . . . unless you disagree with them. They are very tolerant as long as their is nothing to tolerate.
2. If a word is being used inappropriately, correct your use of the word . . . but don't ban the use of the word. The word "slut" is overused . . . and underused. The Take that I read made at least two valid points: girls get called "slut" when the word is not appropriate and guys almost never get called "slut." I have no intention of telling you how to use the word; you can use "slut" to mean "biscuit" if that is your pleasure.
Historically, the word "slut" meant "a dirty, slovenly, or untidy woman," but in modern usage, it generally refers to a woman who engages in sexual relationships in a degree considered shamefully excessive." Of course, some people will say that a woman can have as many partners as she wants. Your opinion on that subject is tied to some fundamental values that you have and there is no right or wrong belief. However, many of us believe that sex should be enjoyed by two people in a close, caring relationship and that one night stands and promiscuity cheapen the meaning of the experience when a partner shares a sexual relationship with you.
If a girl wants to have sex with all of the guys in her school or in her town, she is certainly free to do so, and I would never pesume to tell someone else how they should live their life unless they solicit my advice. However, the feedom to engage in certain behaviors does not mean that you are free to do those things without being judged by others.
Some of you will tell me that we should not judge others. I am not talking about forming judgments like "this girl should be condemned to burn in Hell." I am talking about forming opinions of others. We all do that; it is an inescapabe part of social interactions.
Just as Sally is free to have sex with 150 different guys this year, I am free to form the opinion that Sally is a slut. I am also free to express my opinion aout Sally. If others don't like my opinion, they can openly criticize me. If Sally doesn' like my opinion, she can tell me, or she can stop being a slut . . . or she can continue being a slut and discount my opinion. I have no obligation to remain silent because it might hurt Sally's feelings.
3. Men are rarely called sluts. This is wrong. Men should be held to the same standards in this area. If a man acts like a slut, call him a slut. My Take is not intended, in any way, to encourage any double standard on this issue.
4. Yes, Virginia, sluts really exist. "Slut" is a very appropriate description for some people I have known. I like having words to use. I like descriptive and colorful language. I am not willing to lose a word from my vocabulary. I wil continue to use the word slut. Political correctness has run amuck for far long and I do not wish to participate in that charade.
Peace!
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