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No excuse for being a slut

No exscuse for being a slut

This is going to piss lots of people off therefore I will warn you.This is my OPINION not a FACT!!

Today I was at the bus stop when I saw a girl giving a guy a blow job.In public.

INTIMACY stays IN. Please don't stick your sex life in my face.This got my mind going and now I am going to vent.

Girls should not be slutty because they should realize they have some value.Girls you are not just your body.You are more than that.Girls should have some respect.Don't cover up because of shame cover up because of pride.

Seriously if your boobs are showing I don't he is going to be looking you in the eye.Besides what is wrong with a little imagination?

I heard it said be attractive not attracting.Make yourself look nice don't sell yourself short.Get off the clearence rack.

Look I am not the jealous type however if a girl dressed very scarcely were to talk to my boyfriend I would be uneasy.Why ? First of all I don't need him checking out your boobs.He's mine not yours.Secound of all I am worried how much restraint you might have.

I am not asking you to wear a burka or a hijab.I am asking you to have self respect.Men don't objectify women.Women objectify themselves.

A true mentch and a man worth your while will admire modesty and if you respect yourself he will respect that.

What I heard one guy say is girls should be modest in public and crazy in the bedroom.

Now I am not a fan of guys who dress imodestly or always do sex with multiple conquests.

Yet guys don't get pregnant.

I am not talking about rape or anything like that.

But I see girls saying oh I had sex with 20 guys I am 21 seriously?

Ok if it's your boyfriend that's one thing .But why brag about all the dudes.

Guys like easy girls.Yet they respect girls with class.

And yea it is slutty to steal someone's man.

Let's make it clear girls labled as sluts do the same stuff as guys .Guys should also be labled as sluts.Guys are not innocent.

But i find it degrading to me when I see another woman defile her body.

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  • ... a girl giving her boyfriend a blowjob makes her a slut?
    Hm. There I was thinking the general idea of a 'slut' is someone who has multiple different sex partners in rotation on the regular.

    Guys may sometimes prefer girls who don't have a high amount of partners in their past. However, stop labelling that as 'classy.' All you're doing is placing your self-value in your sexuality. What happens when you meet a guy and give him head, making yourself a 'slut' in your eyes, at least? You no longer have any self-value. You've been reduced to nothing.
    Congratulations. Enjoy being a 'classy' nothing. :)

    (I'm obviously being sarcastic. For the sake of highlighting how ridiculously illogical your conclusion is.)

    • No her doing in public Oosh @lovespurts am I off?

    • hm okay well in any case, you sound a bit possessive of your boyfriend. Calling other girls sluts for their choice in apparel, being upset that he's attracted to others despite being with you? You do realize you're acting out just because you feel threatened, yeah? Work on getting more confident in what you do have to offer rather than tearing down others just in an effort to level the playing field.

    • @monsters No you are right about people in general needing to show more modesty in public. I was on public transit recently and sat directly across from a couple of teenagers who made out the entire trip, plus grabbing her boobs from time to time. (I'll be honest, I watched because she had nice boobs) but it was still pretty embarrassing Another time, also recently, I sat across from a woman with her left tit literally exposed to the world while her baby fed on her milk. Again I did watch because her breast was gorgeous and full of milk which kind of turns me on. But still, couldn't or shouldn't she have put a blanket or something over herself and baby?

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  • I wouldn't use the phrase "defile her body" bodies are not sacred and sex is not a pollution.

    My problem with a girl who would give a blowjob in public is she has no manners. I wouldn't say I respect a woman more for having good manners, I respect someone or not on more substantial grounds than just manners but I don't like to be around people who don't know or care how to comport themselves. Manners make social interaction smooth and enjoyable.

    • Bodies are sacred to my religion evej sex is

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  • I agree with you mostly.

    The definition of a slut is a person who has many casual partners.
    If you have many casual partners (like that girl who brags about banging 20+ guys at the age of 21) you're a slut.

    No hard feelings or shaming, but technically it's not incorrect to call you one.
    Am I going to? No. Because it's really not a nice thing to say.
    But technically speaking, it wouldn't be wrong for someone to call a promiscuous person a slut.

  • "Men don't objectify women. Women objectify themselves." Men and women objectify women.

    And there's nothing wrong with showing a little cleavage. Showing cleavage or wearing a short skirt doesn't make someone a slut. I am totally fine showing cleavage, and I don't consider myself a slut. Wearing something that you deem too provocative doesn't make a woman a slut.

    • Topics like these always imply men can't control themselves. If a girl dresses sexy she's objectifying herself, men aren't objectifying her. Cause men can't help but stare. Right

    • @RachelBrigs no men can jerk off

    • @RachelBrigs The infamous words "She was asking for it".

  • Thank you, finally someone pointing out what all this antislut bs really is.

  • You can't "steal" a man or woman, they're not your property. And they shouldn't be so willing to leave you anyways. Why fuss over him/her?

    The rest. Eh. I prefer modesty. But I don't like calling women sluts. I don't like men getting that label either, but women get it most. And it ruins their reputation most.

    The thing I mainly agree is to not dress sexy, and then complain that you get oggled. It doesn't make sense to me.

    Also, giving sexual acts in public? Yea, that's pretty trashy. But you seem to not have cared at all that the man was participating in the sexual act as well. I think it's nasty to even kiss on the lips in public. I don't like any forms of PDA.

  • if being easy, and dressing provocatively is all it takes to steal your man...

    Your man isn't being stolen.

  • I recently read a myTake that suggested we should eliminate the word "slut" from our vocabulary, and I wrote a responsive myTake which suggested just the opposite. www.girlsaskguys.com/.../a23696-why-we-don-t-need-to-eliminate-the-word-slut-from-our-dictionary I got an astounding number of responses and most of the responders agreed with me, but the dissenters were quite angry about my refusal to see things their way. Ignore them! I appreciate you speaking up and advocating for some standards of decency.

    • Even tho your take misleadingly suggested that the myTake to which you responded suggested "banning the word from the dictionary"... which was completely inaccurate and false. It merely suggested making the choice to eliminate the word from our/your vocabulary (which is a person's personal inventory of words). In any event, I think something like having oral sex in a public place crosses every line of decency that there is. Not to mention illegal. And those people should have been arrested and prosecuted. The larger point is/was... who is teaching their children that it's appropriate to spit slurs at other people, even if you abhor their conduct? And why?

    • What @CheerGirl38139 said.

    • @CheerGirl38139 When did I ever say that I "spit" slurs at other people? I didn't, because I never have. That is something that you made up so that you would have something disapproving to say to me. Re-read everything that I have written. I never suggested that anyone should get in somebody's face and call them a slut. You should re-read everything I have said and point out where I ever suggested such conduct, or you should offer me an apology, because you are casting aspersions upon my character, and I take that seriously.

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  • i do agree with the way some girls just do the absolute most and need to stop (like sucking a dick in public. thats just no), but you do seem pretty jealous and possessive of your boyfriend, and i dont think anything's wrong with that, but you shouldn't start hating on other females just because they like to flaunt what they got. if your in a serious relationship, he won't be looking at other girls like that.

  • I have still, never in my 25 years of living, heard of a female of ANY age brag about how many guys she's slept with.

    Even girls I am CERTAIN where promiscuous, didn't brag about it. Most girls in our age group are ashamed to even mention sex. I could MAYBE see an older woman (30-40 range) being open about sex, but that's because their sex drive increases at that age.

    • You'd be surprised. It's not common but my friend's ex bragged about how many guys she slept with to him, granted it was after they dated for awhile. Another girl bragged about how public sex is always fun and told me her stories about she's been around before she even met me in person.

  • Aside from agreeing that a bj in public IS inappropriate for both the guy and the girl!, What i read here is the opinion of a very insecure young girl. Case in point...
    "Look I am not the jealous type however if a girl dressed very scarcely were to talk to my boyfriend I would be uneasy. Why? First of all I don't need him checking out your boobs. He's mine not yours. Secound of all I am worried how much restraint you might have"
    A girl can dress any way she wants. It has no bearing on your relationship with your guy. Nor should it have a bearing on how you see yourself. The way she dresses should not open her up to name calling. You have an issue with him looking?, talk to him. don't blame the girl. As for the whole "how much restraint she has..". Has a woman ever come up and snatched a man like a purse thief? Again, take it up with your partner.
    Your whole rant is just oozing immature insecurity. Grow up, recognize people have free will. Free to dress as they please. Free to have sex as they please and free to look at one another. You don't like a style of clothing? Don't wear it. You don't believe in multiple sex partners? Don't have sex? You don't want your partner looking at other women? Talk to him or leave him. DONT GET PISSY AT THE OTHER WOMEN!
    While I don't condone the public bj, I think you clearly have some growing up to do. I used the term your partner in my dialogue because he's just that. Not your man like a piece of property (a purse?) he's your partner. If you have issues in the world, you're directing it in the wrong places. Look at yourself and your partner. The rest of the worlds appearance and sex life isn't looking to intrude on you, don't intrude on them.

    • You took the words right from my mouth.

    • @QuestionMan thank you. I appreciate the like minded-ness. I was getting prepared for negative blowback.

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  • While I agree that sex acts in public are not okay, its completely up to a girl whether or not she wants to dress or act like a slut. You say there's no excuse for that behavior, but they don't need an excuse. For some people that's how they choose to live their lives.

    • While that's true, they shouldn't get upset with the consequences (being called a slut)

    • @mekkalyn its rude to call someone a slut so yes they can be offended

    • Yes, it is rude to call someone a name, that's why I don't personally do it. However, If they don't want to be called one, they shouldn't act like one. It's true with almost every other derogatory term.

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  • Damn right its not a fact: its complete shit

    "Girls should not be slutty because they should realize they have some value"

    Implying that having a lot of sex makes a girl less valuable. Not at all. Having sex shouldn't be a value calculation. You should have safe sex with the people you like without solving a sexual quadtratic to determine if you're maintaining the sex demand.

    Sluts are good, reserved girls are boring, obnoxious, and self righteous--its like they think they're rewarding you with sex for doing something good for them, rather than having sex with you because they're attracted and horny. Pay for dinner and nice jewelry? reward with sex. Its prostitution when you try to maintain the sexual value supply and demand. Its like trying to train a dog with food to behave well. Its fucked up, its prostitution, and i'm disgusted by girls who would offer sex because of some behavior they find valuable enough to pay for with sex. have sex because you want to, not because you're trying to meet a market condition.

  • I agree 100,000% Great take :)

  • I don't see how being a slut lowers your value. I agree with the public sex bit though, that is why it is illegal.

  • People are going to be treated the way they act. If a man or woman acts like a slut, then they shouldn't be surprised when others treat them like it. The only problem with slut shaming is that it is hypocritically only applied to women when it should apply to men as well, though to be fair, male virgins are shamed just as much as female sluts.

    • Well they male sluts are starting to get called fuckboys more often, but you're right it's a double standard that's not going away with male virgins being shamed and female sluts being shamed.

  • Most "men" enjoy woman who cover themselves up. It gives us a challenge and a goal to work towards the only guys that you attract with cleavage are the ones who know that you are an easy mark. There is a very distinct line between slut and sexy. The difference is that one subtle while the other is obviously open and in your face.

  • Thank you :)

  • I personally think if a girl wants to dress sexy and whatnot, she has the right to dress how she feels. If she has 2 or 22 sex partners, who the fuck even cares? Its her life. Its her choice.

    • 100% correct!

  • Why do you seem so angry and take what other women are doing so freaking personally?
    "Girls should not do this..."
    "Girls should not do that.."
    Because fuck free choice, right?

  • It's ok to be a slut, but only for your man.

    If you want your man to notice you like that more power to you, just not any man..

  • Sloots gon sloot

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