The first time a girlfriend whipped out a sex toy during foreplay, I was stoked. I mean, in the porns I watch, it’s hot as hell when a chick goes at it solo.
And now it was about to happen to me, in real life.
(Side note: The following picture may or may not depict the toy featured in this story.)
The experience was not disappointing. Quite the opposite.
So when I heard a buddy say he was intimidated by his girl’s vibrator (not in those words, of course, but it was fairly easy to read between the lines), a huge question mark formed over my head.
What in the world could be intimidating about bringing sex toys into the bedroom (or kitchen or den or…)? They’re called “toys,” for God’s sake. They are things to be played with.
I pressed and bugged him, and finally he came out with it: “I read an article that said vibrators can make chicks lose sensitivity…and she won’t get off with a dick again.”
First Point: Don’t Believe Everything You Read
It’s been said for years now that a vibrator can cause a woman to “lose her orgasm.” (Which would completely suck, but onward...) On the other hand, it’s been said for years now that vibrators do zero harm.
So which is the truth?
The Daily Dot did some research earlier this year to find out. Short story: There is no evidence that vibrators can cause a chick’s lady parts to become desensitized.
Second Point: Grow a Pair
If you’re so insecure that you think a thing that runs on batteries will steal your girlfriend away, you probably don’t need a girlfriend to begin with. You probably need a therapist.
Grow a pair of metaphorical nuts (assuming you have physical ones—if you're missing a testicle for some awful reason...I'm sorry)—and some confidence while you’re at it.
And for the love of all that’s holy, don’t let a piece of plastic (or metal or glass—whatever she’s into) have power over you.
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