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Behind The Promiscuous Woman 🌹🌻💔

Behind The Promiscuous Woman. πŸŒΉπŸŒ»πŸ’”

Please note that I'm using the word promiscuous to replace the 's' word [simply because I don't like it]. NO disrespect to anyone who has had many sexual partners, just using it for lack of a better word. Keep this in mind or else this take will seriously offend you. Thank you.

Ok, so as you all know, promiscuity, among females in particular, is becoming more and more shamed than ever. This site is only one of many sites on the internet, among many OTHER groups in real life who have an enormous problem with this group of people. Do I agree with the lifestyle myself? No. But do I have anything against it? No. To each their own.

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So why don't I shame it too?

Because I give value to the past. ⏰βͺ

a lot of people like to disregard the past in someone's life, or even their own. With all due respect, I don't believe this is a healthy mindset, because in my opinion, the past is what guides you to the present and teaches you how to approach your future. βͺπŸ”½β© Anyway...

I'd like to use a FICTIONAL SCENARIO [for anyone who likes to take all my takes literally -.-] to illustrate where I'll be heading with this.

Her Story:

Let's say one day I meet up with an old friend who used to go to the same high school as me. She was really shy, conservative, didn't talk much, and easily the most intelligent in the class. Now we're both say 23, and we've decided to catch up over coffee. β˜•οΈβ˜•οΈ

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A young woman arrives to the cafe in a revealing top and tight shorts. She walks up to me with a smile and says hey. I guess this is her. We order our drinks and while we're waiting, she says this:

"Alot has been going on. I just don't give a damn about anything really. I'm happy. I've slept with about 8 guys now, well it'll be 9 tonight. Just got tired of holding out on everything you know? It all started with this one guy who just made me feel amazing, like nothing I'd ever felt before, and I caved Eva. Haha, I couldn't help myself. So you know, one thing lead to another... he got me pregnant, but he left, the asshole. Naturally, I had to abort. I can't take care of a freaking baby on my own! Anyway, so now I'm just living my life girl. I do whatever I want. Sometimes I get it for money, sometimes just cause I wanna fuck. It's all good. It's great."

. . .

What She Didn't Tell You:

"A lot has been going on. I just don't know what to do with my life anymore. I'm not happy, and I think I hate myself. I've slept with about 8 guys now, well it'll be 9 tonight. I can't help it, I just want it, you know? It helps me feel good about myself, numbs the pain, hides it all away for a night. Like being drunk. You just... don't feel anything... until you wake up, then to get rid of THAT pain, I do it all again. I guess I just got tired of holding out on everything you know? I hated being the little good smart girl with bows in her hair, clothes that were so shapeless and showed nothing of me. I had all this... energy boiling inside me, and I knew I needed to release it. This is the only way I know how to do it best. It all started with this one guy who just made me feel amazing, like nothing I'd ever felt before, and I caved Eva . After dad left home when I was 5, I had no man in my life to make me feel like a princess. I had no older brother to protect me, or play with me. I didn't feel special. No one said anything nice about me. Just the same old "your hair, your eyes, your outfit, your body looks so good". I wanted something more. Just to be appreciated, but even my Masters in Pharmacy became useless. When Dave, this first guy, told me I was one in a million, a breath of fresh air, and someone truly unlike other girls, I swooned. Haha, I couldn't help myself. He gave me a feeling I had never experienced, and I wanted to give him something too. For some reason, I felt giving myself away was the best gift I could give him. So you know, one thing lead to another... and that's when I realised I was gifting myself too. The condom broke, and he got me pregnant. I was devastated, scared and in tears for days. I told him I didn't want this baby to die, I needed us to stay together to raise it, but he left us, the asshole. I had no choice but to abort... I don't have a job. Anyway, once I aborted the new life within me, I just entered a numbness where I just don't care anymore. I'm in this place where it's becoming a routine, so now I'm just living my life girl, to make something of it, to just deal with the fact that this is where I am. I do whatever I want. Sometimes I get it for money, sometimes just cause I wanna fuck. It's not the ideal life, but it's where I am, and until death comes or until I try to get out of this mess, this is how I'm going to live."

🌹Everyone has a story. No one is born a promiscuous person. No one is born 'emo'. No one is born homeless. Something ALWAYS happens, which turns into a chain of somethings that wraps itself around someone's wrists and tries to prevent them from living, leading them to what is perceived by society to be 'low'.

🌹No one is going to straight up tell you everything about themselves. They might give you a rough idea of what's going on, sure, just like the girl in this scenario. But, to think that you can even remotely come to accurate conclusions based on that would be extremely foolish.

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Then again, this is the problem with humanity isn't it?

We're so quick to judge. It's actually disgusting. It's unbelieveable, shallow, and just irks me to no end. We respond so fast to a photo, a line, a way of living, a choice, that we completely lose sight of just where the hell [intended] that person might have been to reach this point.

But guess what?

You don't have to be like that.

"They're all shaming that "slut" [uggghhh]. I'll do it too."

"Everyone shuns prostitutes and escorts. So do I!"

SAY WHAT? ? ? πŸ˜‘

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These are arguably among the biggest problems with humanity lately. Clouded judgement and A lack of individuality.

I get it, SOCIETY likes to "label" and "generalise". Whatever. What I'm saying is... hmm. How do I put it?

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~j.B🍌

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Most Helpful Guy

  • you make a good point. But there is one thing that still remains... you are responsible for your own choices, even when your life is on the line! that responsibility remains. you can blame your parents or that asshole or whoever. but at the wnd of the day... you still have to answer for your decisions, including being a slut.

    there ia forgiveness. but forgiveness doesn't remove consequences.

    that perfect guy might hold you no ill will for having been a slut... but he doesn't have an obligation to date you 'because now you changed and know better.'

Most Helpful Girl

  • What's the main point of this article, in, say, 20 words or less?

    I think I got you, but, I just wanna see what you put.

    • i think it's already pretty clear. take from it what u will. it doesn't really bother me.

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  • I'm not sure all promiscuous people have daddy/mommy issues, or lack of a male/female role model issues, or have more lack of direction in their life than anyone else, or feel sex numbs whatever pain they have, or just filled with so much more pain than anyone else, etc. Not sure if that's what you were implying or not.

    I understand people have a past and are not always open about it, but sex (in a promiscuous sense) isn't always related to the problems of our past. Some people can separate their pleasure, pain, and business. But, like I said, I may not be interpreting your take they way you intended.

    By the way I don't shame "sluts" or shun prostitutes or escorts. I see nothing wrong with people getting paid to have sex or spending time having sex. Humans either do what they like to do, do what their good at, or do what makes money; then they hope that all 3 line up. If people are capable of making money by having sex, then I say go for it. The problem isn't the sex, it's the environment.

    Not all the women/men in the porn industry and escort industry are in a very safe and clean environment. A lot of manipulation and taking advantage of people. Which I understand is part of most businesses, but one still needs a safe environment. As well as benefits and a retirement plan.

    Hopefully I'm not too far off track.

    • Thanks for the Upvote. I think this is the most I ever received.

  • as much as i want to agree, i also disagree to some extent.

    There's a story behind everything, but that doesn't free the person from consequenses. It's wrong of us to judge blindly without knowing, but it is also wrong to asume everybody will be okay with your choices (no matter why they were made).
    And frankly, that story is a long line of excuses and a girl refusing to care for herself. I sennse A LOT of pent up frustration in it, and in my eyes poor decissions making matters worse, and worse, and worse. So that was all on her, and how SHE chose to deal with it.

    I'm never going to speak down on someone choosing to live her life like that, and i never had. But it is not the kind of girl I want, so I expect her to respect that i turn her down for how she lives, just as I respect her as a person and her right to decide in her own life. It's not talking down on her to turn her down because i know we don't have a compatible view of sex, and because it's a way of living i'm not okay with.

    So i agree we need to shut the hell up with calling every girl and her friend for slut just because they are sexual beings and think it's okay to pursue purely sexual encounters. It's their choice. And if anyone got a problem with that, they should shut the fuck up and move the fuck on.

    BUT people should also accept that people do give a fuck about your past, present, and how you behave. So they should accept it's perfectly okay to take every factor in account when evaluating a person. And as long as no double stadards are involved (major player demanding a virgin, lying girl playing games demanding honesty, etc) setting standards are okay.

    just my 2 cents on it all.

  • AHA little lioness is an EDITOR <3 cool :D

    Awesome My Take and as usual so much wisdom - you are one amazing little girl there :) <3

    Ofcourse there are many other parameters to promiscuity and seldom are any bad in intent. However, the best part I like is your attitude towards the scenario knowing well how religious & upright you are. "Do I agree with the lifestyle myself? No. But do I have anything against it? No. To each their own" I love that especially the last part is my favorite statement lol

    As of shaming, there's a reason for it little lioness that I've expressed in more than one opinion (many actually lol) on GAG :)

    A W E S O M E My Take as you are too :) <3

  • I know you were trying to be the opposite of shamey but FYI, assuming that all promiscuous women are broken/have daddy issues is not cool...

    • Again, didn't assume. 1 scenario chosen.

    • I am not trying to offend anyone, but I think @mytakeowner is right. Why else would girls sleep around? It can't just be about the sensation of sex because women all agree that naturally they want one man.

    • @Nickswano no, not all women want just one man... most do want to settle down with a life partner at some point, and many may ideally want only one partner ever, but the average person male or female wants to have a few other experiences under their belt before settling down.. that's pretty normal. There are also plenty of reasons a woman might 'sleep around'. For me personally, I have a fairly high number of partners and I do regret some of them, and some of my experiences were not healthy, but the vast majority of my sexual encounters have been enjoyable and healthy - even the one night stands. I was single for most of my twenties but being single doest dampen ones sexual appetite. Everyone has a different level of sex drive and it varies throughout a individuals life as well. Anyways, me, I have always had a high sex drive. Being single for almost my whole twenties meant figuring out other ways to scratch the itch. Mostly I masturbated but sometimes that's not enough so now and

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  • But didn't you just explain why you would shame the behavior? You shame it because its detrimental. Study upon study have shown that it has severe long term consequences, from increased probability of depression to increased probability of divorce/cheating. So its shamed in order to let everyone know that this is not exceptable behavior that if you do this it is bad and it will have consequences. Its social pressure, guilt trip what have you to try and get the person to act differently, no different then an intervention for an alcoholic. So thats why we shame it that is why people instincively recoil from it, and thats why people don't want others to do it because they end up feeling bad and questioning their actions. So why shouldn't it be shamed? How is it any different then shaming someone for any other destructive/self destructive behavior?

    • @hellionthesage. How many partners have you had?

    • @Nerdvana one. Why where you expecting me to have more? Sex is fine but that doesn't mean it should be done without thought of the consquences. Its no different then food, its necessary for survival but that doesn't mean that if you indulge your gluttonous desires that their won't be consequences. Just because viewing sex as evil is unhealthy does not mean that the opposite extreme by default must be healthy/good.

  • BRAVO!!! Yeah, fuck society. No one should let or follow what society judges and criticize. In the end, you are not going to put everyone happy with yourself.

    I Know it is difficult, because we uncounsciosly want to belong somewhere or being accepted, but we don't have to forget our individuality, even though the others won't like it.

  • "I had no choice but to abort" is a blatant lie.

    Also, he left because she was cheating. The only thing in there that even comes close to being a sound rationalization is her father leaving her.

    This is all nothing more than a long series of very poor attempts at rationalization, that completely miss the mark, for someone who decided in her heart ages ago that she didn't care. Now, she is grasping at straws for an excuse.

    That's the mark of someone going out of their way to suppress a guilty conscience. Too proud to turn to God, too horny to give up sex even when it's not helping her, too proud to admit she has a real problem, too stubborn to accept help from anyone that could make a meaningful difference, and it's always someone else's fault.

    Her own attitude is her biggest problem, not the men in her life. The core problem isn't judging, it's iniquity. It's "I'mma do what I want, and I just don't care." That rebel exists in everyone. And is the cause of every bad thing in life.

  • i never finished a book in my life , i don't like reading stuff i find online but girl u r amazing i love what u write haha if u start writting books i ll be ur first fan XD keep it up ^^

    • haha, wow that is a massive compliment thanks so much beautiful <3

    • always welcome thanks to u for sharing good things ^^

    • <3 <3

  • Promiscuous woman is good for those who seek for easy sex, but bad for long term relationship.

    tvtropes.org/pmwiki/pmwiki.php/Main/MyGirlIsASlut

  • I get it. I have been in the girl in your story's shows before. Sort of. I have felt such loneliness that all i wanted but just simple human touch. Skin-to skin, i wanted so much to be Held, to feel desired by someone. To feel like you're not Shrek after all and people don't freak when they get close to you. I have felt all that. And i have had a few one night stands as a result to that.

    How do i feel about this? I felt low. I felt like i've deluded myself. The touches, the kisses, are all just temporary anesthetics. I felt it was not worth lowering myself to that level.

    I know I am a respectable girl. I am a decent person. I am not irrational. I am a logical girl and I have moral values. I know I'm a strong girl. So I hated myself that during my weak moments, I let myself sink to that level and let myself be used (because the guys were always egoistic since they never care about me, duh!). I know I was better than that. I know I deserve more respect than what those guys gave me. I know I am not just a piece of meat and I hated myself for lowering my own value and becoming nothing but a piece of meat.

    It's all part of my past now. I've learned that you'll get nothing out of those except emptiness.

    I fully understand if a girl shares this with me and my ears are open. I have no problem with that. What people do behind closed doors is none of my business and is not a reason I call someone a slut. In fact, if I hear a girl has fucked this and that many guys, I always think she has issues. Serious one, if the number is very high.

    When I slut shame, it's usually done towards girls who dress scantily. I think some things should stay behind closed doors and that means exposing half your boobs and derriere. I think that's not for public consumption and I respect someone less of they expose too much of themselves for the public eyes. I would think she doesn't respect herself at all, and that makes me think "why should I respect her if she doesn't treat herself like she deserves to be respected?" If she chooses to display herself as a piece of meat, then that is how I will see her and treat her as. If she wants people to see her as a human, not a fuck doll, then she should dress in a civilized manner. Don't give people too much distractions, making them unable to see her as anything other than a piece of meat.

    • Thanks for sharing this. It moved me❀️

  • I have a similar idea - I don't shame promiscuous women. It's none of my business really. BUT I would not date them either. I don't have to shame a person in order to not find them a suitable partner.

  • Amazing Take! Can't say more better. Just Thank you.

    • i appreciate it. thanks.

  • umm, some people are born homeless. I've seen homeless couples with babies. it's pretty fucked up. but it definitely happens.

    anyway, I'm not into screwing around, nor getting involved with guys who screw around (major turn off), but um also not naive enough to assume that everyone who does has a bad childhood, was abandoned by a parent, etc. yes, many people who are promiscuous, male and female, have been through some awful experiences and may be using hookups to fill some void, for the night. but many people just like having sex without any of the responsibility that comes with a real relationship. their not all emotionally wounded people. and not every person who is becomes promiscuous, many avoid socializing/relationships of any kind.

    • it's one scenario. I'm not talking about everyone.

  • I don't know if I ever said this to you before but I have a sentence for great takes and posts.
    "I completely agree - I have nothing to add"

    • well thank you for that. i appreciate it x

  • Lol @"I'm unhappy and I just want to numb the pain etc"

    They are unhappy (if they are) because they choose bad lovers, judgmental friends, and have no support.

    My personal group of sluts are the most enlightened and self actualized people I know. It's the prudes and sexually repressed that start the problems in society. Usually due to religious concepts or remnants of them. Also the (false) belief that monogamy is somehow natural, more moral, better, more meaningful than it's alternatives.

    TL:DR Sluts are the best chance at saving this world forlorn. I love them, and so should you!

    • Just because something is "natural" doesn't mean we should do it. It's only natural for animals to kill other animals. So should we do that, too? It's only natural for animals to be naked, so should we abandon clothes and walk around in the nude? You don't see animals with smart phones and televisions, should we abandon all of our technology and become more natural? We, as humans, have developed farther than other species and have learned what is right and what is wrong, what is good and what is bad. We have formed our own rules to determine how we want to live. And just because something is natural doesn't mean it is the right or best way to live. Sure, it's easier to be natural, since that's what your nature tells you (I've never wanted or had an urge to be in any other kind of relationship but monogamous, so my nature doesn't tell me to act like a animal and hump anything that moves... but whatever). Civilization has advanced and society has deemed that monogamous is "best".

    • @Mekkalyn Yes, and society is wrong. Society is also slowly seeing that it is wrong. Trends are changing, monogamy is failing with the more freedom we have, because we are becoming more human. Have you had more than one sexual partner? Have you had more than one boyfriend? If yes, then guess what, you aren't monogamous, you are lying to yourself and twisting definitions to fit your opinions and ideologies, but you actions say otherwise. And if your answer is "no" then my read on you being religiously indoctrinated is accurate.

  • Women have all the right to be promiscuous but men also have the right to have preferences. I don't like promiscuous women. If I met one then I'd respect their right to be promiscuous aslong as they respect my right to have a preference of non-promiscuous women

  • Some people aren't humans here anyway... but cold hearted reptiles.. I can see their tongues wagging when they spit shit on promiscious girls :P

    • The responses by dateless , secret porn addicts and sexless asexuals are laugheable.

  • While I totally agree that you should be careful in your judgements of others because you don't know the whole story, I'm also very sick of people not taking responsibility for their choices.
    If you drink constantly to numb the pain you might be an alcoholic.
    If you eat constantly to deal with life you might be fat.
    If you sleep with lots of men to feel better about yourself you might be a slut. You can change the label but the consequences are the same.
    And if you abort a baby because it's not convenient I for one will have no respect for you.

  • Where did you grow up? Sesame Street? A girl turns promiscuous because of the one guy she dates and woah, surprise, he an asshole. Please reach out to at least a couple more promiscuous women before you say 'fuck you, society.'
    I'm sorry bro, I'm feeling them feminist vibes from you. I'm sorry for the girl, I really am. She probably deserved better and her transformation is tragic. So instead of seeing a shrink, she decides to get laid and now you get to say 'fuck society'. Her choices made her who she is, not society. Society just be a reflection of who you are, however murky it is.

  • Is a man fucking her up the arse ;)

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