Double Standards of Sexism

Sexism towards women has always been very widespread and extremely limiting throughout history. Tides have turned and this has now begun to involve men as well, though we're only just beginning to see it.

Double-standards of sexism

Women are expected to date up, men are expected to date down unless he wants to be seen as a 'sexist prick'. A man is expected to be taller, smarter, more athletic, and earn more than his female companion. There's also a gender-specific ageism at play (preference for older men, and younger women).

Violence? Yea, that's fine towards men. Towards women? Nah, not allowed, people would call it "sexist" 90% of what I watch, could be a program, or even a movie, there is some form of sexism towards men, a man gets kicked in the nuts, audience laugh, What if it happened to a woman? Probably wouldn't even be allowed on t.v.. In movies, you see a woman beat the crap out of a bunch of men and the audience loves it.

Double Standards of Sexism

‘She’s so badass!’

The other way round? Again, probably wouldn't be allowed to air on any sort of medium.

Men are, in general, stronger than women (cheers evolution). So when a woman hits a guy it's usually greeted with ‘wow, she has the guts and the strength to do that’. Does that mean it's perfectly okay to smack or hurt your man in any way? Essentially making a human punching-bag out of him because you 'couldn't really hurt him anyway'?

A young boy raped by a woman can be forced to pay child support to his rapist if she gets pregnant.

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If a woman cheats then it’s usually going to be greeted with excuses as to how she was drunk/sad/feeling neglected. With the blame often shifted onto the guy for her slipping onto another fella's dick. That he didn't treat her 'well enough' or some variant of that. But when a man does it, all hell breaks loose. He's basically put in social isolation, blacklisted by the entire social circle for lacking self-control.

Upon asking a man who's been coerced, intimidated, or physically forced into sex with a woman whether or not he's been raped, he's pretty likely to say no. Once researchers figured out that only if you rephrase the question and ask whether or not he has been "made to penetrate" another person, they're more likely to respond in the affirmative.

Double Standards of Sexism

If a woman is in a relationship that feels to be abusive in any way, beit sexually or emotionally, there are women’s shelters set up specifically for that reason. To provide shelter, a way to get away for women in such situations. Perhaps some counselling/therapeutic services until the victims feel strong enough to rejoin the real world. Men who feel that they are being abused? Those sorts of claims will generally be disregarded as them just being ‘not manly’ enough; made to be the bitch-boy of their girlfriend, treat her like an ‘independent, real woman’ yet getting the bill at every restaurant among others things.

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Light forms of male subservience are labelled as chivalrous and gentlemanly and widely expected (imagine seeing women open doors and pull out chairs for men). Female subservience in terms of washing the dishes, cooking dinner for her family and tending the house once in a while? Oppressive, overly conservative.

&My own personal favourite, being the gym-rat that I am:

Double Standards of Sexism

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  • Sexism was never really an issue for women, historicly speaking. In fact one can prove quite the opposite. Any and all claims otherwise are from the very people who profit from the notion. For instance the claim that women couldn't vote, conviently neglecting to mention that men couldn't either. Did men get the right to vote before women (as a whole, prior to unversal suffrage rich men and women had the right to vote, no one else)? yes they did, a whole seventy years before women. Why did they get it? Well they argued that they contributed to the government and country because they where drafted into bucket brigades (before fire departments) and into war against their will ergo they should at least have a say in how things operate. Women actively opposed women going to war and only excepted a womans right to vote when it was assured they would not be drafted as men where ie privledge without the responsibility. In fact common "knowledge" is full of these conviently ommited bits.

    • It sounds like you have a better understanding of history than most people.

    • @heavensgift2girls Well I just look at the facts. When one group has an incredibly one sided argument that portrays them as complete victims and completely innocent then chances are its a lie or a lie of omission. So you research and see if its true or not, which as I said, in most if not all cases it isn't. Its actually kind of strange that we are in the information age yet people are so ignorant of so much.

    • Those men who couldn’t vote were not stopped because of their gender. You’re comparing sexism to a class issue.

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  • What is wrong with the other two chicks who've commented so far?

    This is an actual problem, why do people not understand that?

    • ugh I know right? Kind of ironic because they do seem to only encourage the 'double standard of sexism' with their ranting, kind of helpful towards the point I was trying to make here. :P

    • And yet if this was a take about sexism towards women they'd be all for it and cheering you on. The mentality of some people just irks me.

    • Never said it wasn't a problem. Just pointing out the inaccuracies in her myTake. The mentality of the people here irks me as well. Also Kayla I like how you say I'm promoting the double standard of sexism when you're the one promoting victim hood. "My cut is bigger then yours" mentality at it's finest.

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  • good take, thanks for sharing.

    violence should be a last-resort option for both genders. that said, if a man has reason to believe that his life is at risk, he can (and should) hit back... and he will have my full support.

    if any of my male friends came to me and said that he was being abused, i would take him seriously and have his back for sure.

    (as for that last picture, people should be able to wear whatever they want without unwanted attention)

    -von

    • thank-you. Agreed about how hitting should be acceptable for men to do to either gender with reason, especially if in self-defense (Regarding the last picture, I agree that anyone should be free to dress as they wish to the gym, including girls who want to go in just their sportsbra or whatever. That meme was more poking fun at how girls who choose to wear that are not really in a position to complain about the additional male attention they know that will garner, whether wanted or not.)

  • true

  • Definitely agree that there is a double standard. It's rather aggravating, especially being a mom to a son and daughter. I would never want anyone to think it was ok to be abusive towards my son nor have him feel less like a man for coming forward about it. Same with my daughter. And I would never want them to be abusive/disrespectful towards anyone.

    • Yes agreed , I'm a single dad to a son & a daughter too. I'm glad my daughter no longer watches TV , as I've noticed girls are fed anti-male propaganda by the " media " , the TV is now my PC monitor !!

  • I'm going to touch on the broad idea of jokes/things for laughs.

    I think it's more acceptable for groups that have been marginalized/oppressed to make jokes about the people that did it because well... we can at least give them that. Let me explain it more, it's generally more acceptable for a black comedian/hispanic comedian/etc to make jokes about white people vs white people making jokes about other groups because white people have been playing the ultimate joke on these groups for forever. So, it's the same thing with women being jokey violent to men (I'm not touching on the slapping thing-I'm saying in movies, etc)

    And when it comes to shelters, there need to be shelters for everyone. I think women's shelters are more advanced/more available because women have been battered by men throughout history and often it was ok/not challenged-so there was a dire need for those facilities way more so than battered men shelters. And if there is a nationwide lack of shelters for men, you would be far more convincing (credible) if you actually included studies/data instead of memes. Just saying, haha.

    • Do you really need studies or data to back up how few men's shelters there are? It's pretty obvious No. Women have equally battered men throughout history, and men just kept their mouths shut about it so we didn't get shelters. Your assumptions on history are very incorrect in this regard

    • @M_A_X I don't need data to back up that women have been battered by men throughout history much more than men have been battered by women. Women had the much shorter end of the stick. But this isn't a competition, as I said, everyone needs a safe place to go.

    • What are you talking about? There are literally NO shelters for men of the kind that there are for women. (for DV) Zilch. Zero shelters. Zero money going towards it. There is fucking NOTHING for us out here if we need help. Unless we need to be counseled AS ABUSERS.

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  • You bring up a lot of good points. Points modern feminism keeps trying to deny, which is why so many men now support equality, but refuse to identify as feminists.

  • Thank you. It's good that intelligent women like you take a stance for true equality. We all know what happens if "misogynist males" like myself would bring up this issue.

    • no problem, glad you enjoyed. You're perfectly right though; my writing something on this topic but from an angle differing from how it's usually presented graced even myself as being called as misogynistic. But alas, progress was never made without a bit of a struggle. :)

  • I agree with these. the sexism agaisnst men shouldn't be ignored and not everything is sexist against women. so many things are exaggerated or swept aside. but for some reason tho on here on this website i see way more hate on women than on men. guys here are extremely hostile about discussing any female issues. i dont get it. why can't we talk about both u know?

    • Yea I suppose maybe guys will express more hate on women than vice versa online because they'd have a much harder time getting away with that in rl?

    • goodd point. i dont really hear anyone talk about male issues irl. not even guys. its kinda weird the contrast but anyways good take!

    • No, I think there's much more hate towards guys on here, the difference is that people train themselves to only notice what's done to women. If you haven't noticed, the women here get way more traction and responses to their Takes and answers than guys, even if both write on the same subject. Last week I posted a Take about the myth that it's harder for guys to get sex and mine was only promoted, but a few days later an anonymous female posted her own Take on it and hers got featured and got loads of responses from both males and females. There IS a bias out there towards guys, most people just don't want to notice it.

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  • very good take! i agree with pretty much everything you said here because there are a lot of issues that need to be addressed as a society. however i really hate it when you get guys on here who claim that they're being oppressed. which i find to be stupid and annoying.

    • I think it's stupid too, but then I also think it's stupid for girls to complain about being oppressed when they don't even face the shit women in the past did, and don't face racist inequality if they're white.

    • @ManOnFire yeah they're just as bad. in north america no one's oppressed. it makes me want to rub in their face about people who have survived actual oppression. the only exception i would say in the the case of women is if they're activly do things for women who are actually oppressed in different parts of the world

    • Oh, I'm not being oppressed. If a woman hits me I hit her back, like a rational human being who doesn't give a shit what society thinks. Blame things like Disney movies. They make girls want to be princesses instead of queens. All princesses have to do is look pretty and don't have any big decisions to make except who to marry. Queens actually have to develop fucking skills that allow them to be good decision makers.

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  • Do you REALLY hate it when guys look at you at the gym?

    • hahaha nono, I don't hate that nor does it really bother me, especially when I happen to be doing a stretch or whatever that puts me in a position similar to that girls'. I know that meme is kinda poking fun at the issue but I think it's pretty accurate too. It's a fact of life that you can't put yourself in situations like that and then complain that a guy will be caught glancing at your boobs! :P

    • If you had your choice of guys wanting to look or turning their heads and looking away. . . I know what most women really want!

    • of course I'd prefer them looking than looking away. I think most women as well as men would feel the same way. There's nothing degrading about feeling desired in one way or another.

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  • I agree with a lot of this myTake. But I do find a lot that bothers me. First is that it generalizes too much. It takes the approach that "all" men are a certain way. I agree that I find even some of your worst examples of behavior of men are true in a lot of guys, especially on here. And I do not think that you believe all men are like that, but your myTake does tend to give that impression.

    Your meme about "sexism ended" points to the continued need for feminism (not feminazis), yet your images of the guns to the head states that feminism finds it okay to do that to men. I disagree. Most true feminists would never find that okay.

    Overall, I enjoyed reading this. :-) And as I probably made clear in a comment already, if I saw you at the gym like your last picture, I sure would be looking.
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    • I don't see how the meme about sexism ending points to the need for the need for continued feminism? Sexism goes both ways, at times being a disadvantage to men similar as to women. Most people seem to be focused primarily on ending sexist discrimination against females, often even denying that it can and does exist against men, hence the double standard. Perhaps there's a bit of generalization in the take but I'm not really promoting those generalizations to be true or anything; just saying to being outraged against anti-female generalizations yet freely using them against males is a bit of a giant hypocrisy. (Fighting for equality of females then saying a guy 'throws like a girl', for example.)

    • That meme shows that sexism no more ended than racism ended. You are pointing out that sexism is aimed at men often. Though I see some of that, the things I see are are usually tougher on women. Like the cheating thing. Men do not take it as tough as women. Often they are "high-fived" and congratulated for getting other women. Just look at all the shaming on here against women who fail the "faithful test" and not so much the men. Many on here are constantly expressing how giving women the same treatment as men is coddling women and giving them preferential treatment. And a lot of hatred against women shows up on here. I see that as a need for support for women and better treatment. And that is what feminism aims for. "Throwing like a girl" also denigrates women, by the way. I have seen many women that can out-throw men. But I also see your point here.

    • I've never seen or heard of a guy getting congratulated for cheating or getting with other women! If they're in a relationship already at least, I think they almost always get the short end of the stick compared to women. A guy cheats, he's automatically a jerk who thinks with his dick. A woman cheats, her boyfriend takes the blame by proxy for having neglected her, or some variant of not having met her needs sufficiently. I don't believe in negating the prejudice some groups may face because others get it worse. It's all equally bad in very different ways. I'm just saying that men face some sexism as well as women.

  • Fuck yes. I wish I could give more than one up-vote. I'm getting so sick of the idea that women's rights have to come at the expense and with the exclusion of men.

  • Asker is right. Most of these Anon women are the same woman who has blocked all responses to anything she had to say after she made some harsh comment not based on facts, but her own butthurt feelings and manipulations.

    So I'll just put this here

    *There* are shelters for them, and no, there really aren't.

    "You're such a joke. I didn't fucking deny anything. I know that there are men who are abused but they're ARE shelters for them. And they don't look like what you posted. Fuck, you act like you're 3. Either that, or you're really a misogynist male posing as a woman."

    There are a few, but even google doesn't know where the fuck they are.

    Try typing "men's shelters" into google maps. No results except some HOMELESS shelters

    Change it to "women's shelters" 2000+ results

    You're the one who acts like they're 3. I'm sure you won't admit you were wrong about the shelters. I'm sure you'll just keep prattling on about the same childish bullshit that you have, and then liking your own comments

  • You posted this on a site with a bunch of man-hating bitter women? Ooo you gonna make some women angry, I'm already seeing them cowardly posting "opinions" xD

    All what you wrote up there is true. You see these girls in the comments saying it's bullshit cause they're probably sexist themselves. It's like a misogynistic man is not gonna accept he's sexist against women even when you put the facts in front of them.

    I'm glad you made this Take just focusing on sexism against men. Not that I'm ignoring the sexism against women, but we know it's there, they talk about it every day, we're all perfectly aware about it, but no one talks about sexism men suffer, cause we DO suffer from sexism.

    Anyways, nice Take, and I hope to see more of these man-hatting women commenting on how this is bullshit, I'm waiting for a few of them I know to come by, though they probably just go anonymous...

    • lol yes. I definitely knew I'd get a lot of hate from women as soon as I posted this but hey, who am I to avoid that kind of attention when I believe the grounds to my argument are strong enough, and in this particular case, women like that are actually the root of the issue? My point was to highlight the double standard and at a certain point, I was wondering if there are that many truly confused females blind to the fact that they're basically a big part of what's causing the problem being highlighted, or if I'm in the wrong. I think it's become much clearer now, though. Glad you enjoyed. :)

    • I think a clear example of double standards of sexism is the movie Magic Mike XXL. Not saying the movie is sexist, but people's approach to it was. Would you imagine if instead of men those were women? xD I bet it wouldn't have been released and women around the world would be yelling sexism... but it wasn't. Those were men, and women around the world were drooling over them, just like men would have done and would have been shamed for it. I think today people yell sexism (against women) way too fast, so they don't stop and think, reverse the roles, they just call you sexist. I'm glad we're more aware of sexism against women and that we're trying to stop it, but you can't just turn the tables and now be sexist against men. You gotta burn the table and end with sexism against both genders. Sorry for the rant xD It's just that it irks me when people don't realize there are certain issues, and they don't want to accept there's that issue.

    • yeah, I agree about Magic Mike. Not that sexism is always detrimental and sometimes can actually benefit the individual, but I make a habit of posting. gifs of a scene from Magic Mike on posts made complaining about why women are always objectified. Of course I'll pair it with a bit of text saying yeah, objectification can be degrading in many cases but often-times, it'll be beneficial. &That it's not solely directed against women, as showcased by how successful Magic Mike was for basically the sake of all the lead actors permitting themselves to be objectified by the female audience. :P

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  • Indeed, if you do ANYTHING differently towards others just because they're of a particular sex, then you're being sexist. People need to get over their whole gender war agenda, trying to decide what "men" and what "women" can do and are allowed to do and should do and are capable of doing.

    • Yes!! 👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏

  • I like:"It's no us vs them". I feel like some of the gender debates are influenced by personal bad experiences and bitterness and are not about actual social issues. And what I also noticed is that some people (not all, I'm not trying to insult everybody ;P) may love gender politics because they love the idea of beeing a victim. All your personal failures are not your fault it was the system that fucked you over. That might be a very comforting idea for some to have in the back of their heads whenever they're feeling down.

  • Is this a joke?

    • nope

    • Why would this be a joke? All of those things are very real.

  • Great post, and it's always good to have people see this, especially when a woman can admit it. However, it isn't that we've just begun to see it as a society, it's that most people don't want to. Society pretends that sexism towards men doesn't exist, and we'll only admit it if we can justify it ("well, men have it coming") or blame men for it ("men are the creators of sexism"). This new systematic sexism towards men is even very popular online and on sites like these. The difference is that few care to really realize it.

  • Very nice take! I'm glad that I'm not the only woman who sees it this way.

    Forget about the butthurt female anons here, they're just the dying cries of sexism.

    • lol thank-you! Glad to get some more positive feedback from another female. yeah... those anons are quite annoying. I have a feeling it's all the same person as random anons after I block them on this post after one too many notifications or them pouting about how I'm 'sexist'? Bah. I guess you can't please everybody. :P

    • You are sexist for pointing out that women could ever be wrong about anything, even though most of those same women will point out problems with men, but how dare you~

  • Haha I have just realized how much I like gender roles... Which may be taken as "sexism" by some.

    But "A young boy raped by a woman can be forced to pay child support to his rapist if she gets pregnant."

    If this shit is true, thennnn... Oh well. 😬

    • which ones do you specifically like and why?

    • The masculinity of men and femininity of women which means that men and women would behave differently in some situations and feel differently about others... This is the main one. Also that men pay for dates, you know this has to do with the type of culture I grow up in, I mean I like the idea of "not letting my girl pay anything". I like a few others too but these are the ones I can think of right now, but I also do realize that some gender roles are really dumb. For example that men don't have to cook or clean but women have to. I like the fact that the majority of men won't take this "sexism" thing too much to heart to a point where they would point at the silliest thing and claim they are signs of sexism. Just exactly like what female feminists do.

    • yeah true. Not all forms of 'sexism' are necessarily a huge disadvantage, nor views like that by all. I guess my point here was just to show that it can exist negatively towards men as well as females.

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  • you sound like the perfect girlfriend... . ehhem i mean sociology teacher. definitely wouldn't cut it as a gender studies professor. but excellent take over all i think a lot of the country thinks the same way i just think things are the way they are.

    the last point you made in part is that the girls who dress that way dont want to seem slutty and want to act reserved but they actually do want to be seen wearing that. there's no way a strap that thin is conducive to exercise lol

    • haha thanks. Oh and yeah... the last one is a bit of a joke but I think you're spot on. I can't imagine a girl going to the gym dressed like that or at least getting herself into such positions, especially facing the weightroom area that's usually filled with guys, who doesn't want a bit of male attention in the slightest.

    • guys do the same thing and certainly are not ostracized for it,

    • maybe. Not to the same degree because guys don't have cleavage or curves to show off liek girls do. Though I've certainly heard a lot of snickering about guys who go in muscle shirts and/or pretty tight sweatpants...
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