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Why Many Women Secretly Love Threesomes With You And Another Girl

Many women secretly love threesomes with a man and another woman. There are many reasons why.

Why many women secretly love threesomes with you and another girl

LOTS OF TOUCHING

It heightens the experience. She gets touched by you and another woman. It gets her excited even more as there is more flesh.

IT FEELS NAUGHTY/TABOO

The fact that she is doing something naughty gives her that sense of edge. It gets more and more exciting as she progresses through the interaction.

SHE GETS TURNED ON BY HER SUBCONSCIOUS DESIRE FOR A MAN

As in a manly man. I mean she is in a bed with a man who has two women in his bed. This gives him social proofing and makes her feel subconsicously like he is an alpha male. She's gonna get turned on by this and want to please him. In fact it feels natural to do so.

SUBMITTING AND BEING NAUGHTY BECOMES ACCEPTABLE

After all, the other woman is doing so, so it becomes more acceptable for her to let go of her inhibitions and release her inner slut/desire. She wants to follow his commands.

SHE WANTS WHAT SHE CAN'T HAVE

The other woman wants him, so he must have something desirable about him. Secretly she wants what she can't have and she wants to impress him and make him desire her.

TWO WOMEN MAKES IT SEXIER AND MORE PLEASURABLE

The fact that there is another women there touching her and pleasing her is hot. It also lets her experience being submissive to a man or even work with the other women to please him.

JEALOUSY/COMPETITION WORKS IN EVERYONE'S FAVOR

The fact that there are two women present, means that she will subconsciously want to impress him more than the other. Working together to go down on him feels naughty. As she watches the other woman give him head, she will feel the social pressures or slut labels disappear. It become normal to want to enjoy sex. At the same time, she will want to be desired more than the other girl. This creates a feedback loop of desire. Same thing with when she sees the other woman turning him on and also banging him. She will want to fuck him harder and this will just turn her and everyone on so more.

ALL INNOCENT WOMEN ARE SECRETLY NAUGHTY

They want to release their inner naughty kinky side. It becomes easier when there are other women present and it is deemed acceptable to the situation. She also gets to release her submissive side to please a man alongside another submissive friend. Or she gets to fight for domination over or with her female counterpart.

SHARE THE WORKLOAD

Sex becomes more enjoyable with less work. There is a feedback cycle of both of you sharing, taking turns pleasing each other, releasing your sexual energy, fed by competition and living out you deepest desires together. You share the workload with another woman, get double the pleasure and share a load..

MANY WOMEN FANTASIZE ABOUT MALE FRIENDS

If she's single, and he is or if he has a girlfriend, it's an easy way to get sexual with them, and allow them the situational norms to permit them to release their wild sexual side which they all have within them.

A lot of women want to experience this, just have to work out a way to get them into that situation right?

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  • I think this list went to lengths to skip
    "she really wants to touch/feel/taste another woman, and with him there, it isn't cheating"
    because not all women are bisexual, contrary to the myth, but many are. at least, there are more women who are bi or bicurious than there are guys who are.
    "she wants to put on a show for her man"
    she knows he wants to see it, and it is fun getting him so worked up
    "she wants to watch her man have sex with another woman"
    being a passive observer of what she normally sees first hand is quite different, and she is able to watch it and appreciate it, whereas when she is experiencing it, she is lost in the experience.
    and
    "she wants to watch a woman experience pleasure from the skills her man uses"
    in part, she gets off watching the woman get off. in part, it's empathic jealousy, where she sees the woman get off and CRAVES to feel that for herself. in part, its the satisfaction of knowing that the guy who is making the woman turn into quivering pile of orgasming flesh is HERS, and that she got lucky enough to win his love and affection.

    • That's very interesting! 1. Ok that's a point. It makes it easier since with a threesome, she gets to be her sexual self. So how to know if your woman friend is bi or bicurious? How to safely test that without it being awkward,, say she became single suddenly? 2. That's a great point too. Again how do you know if she enjoys this, and is there an element of loving him seeing them both go down on him and also showing off to the other woman and getting a kick out of it? 3. Is there some competition there which she enjoys? Does she enjoy just being purely sexual rather than intimate? 4. Interesting.. so she wants to watch him please them both or please the other woman? What exactly does she crave? 5. How would you get a single friend (met when she had a bf) and you (say you're single) and her hot friend in this situation? How do you actually start talking sexually to a woman in this instance or indeed experience this and then still be really good (if not better) friends after?

    • Thoughts?

    • first thought? Hold your horses. lol. I'm on a second shift schedule. I was asleep for your reply, and your bump. 1) I prefer open communication. If you are already sexual with her, ask about fantasies she's had. And if she doesn't mention it, mention it yourself on your turn. "I always thought it would be hot to see a chick with another chick." if she doesn't come out instantly with an "i would" or "never," try nudging it a little more. If nothing else, ask her bluntly, "would you ever consider other women?" and make sure she knows you are not threatened if she says yes, and you are very accepting of her being who she is if she says no. It's like we tell kids, "if you don't know, don't be afraid to ask." you're in a relationship with her, and it's sexual. you don't blurt out "wanna threesome?" but you can ask whether she's ever been curious.

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Most Helpful Girl

  • I seriously doubt men have any idea what they're talking about when it comes to what women want.

    You have no idea. Just because YOU want us to want what you want doesn't actually make us want what you want us to want.

    • right on!

    • Ok, so what do they want? And in terms of women wanting to outdo others? Isn't that true? Do women want a sexual man who displays that he wants to bang and isn't that interested in anything more versus a nice confident man who gets to know her, or befriends her?

    • @juliaanita So who do women fantasize about - nice confident man who befriends her and takes an interest in her or man who is simply sexual displaying intent to bang, but not that interested in texting her or getting to know her?

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  • I don't desire other women at all, it's because I'm as straight as an arrow. If I considered a 3 sum with another woman , it'd be purely for my man's pleasure.
    I'd have a hard time getting off without an alcoholic substance in the mix because another woman is just not my cup of tea.
    Now, if we were talking about a 3 sum with two men then that's different because I am attracted to men.

    • Would it be a turn on that your man has 2 women in his bed in the sense of him being a strong alpha man? And what if you were single, he was your friend and she was your friend?

    • No, it wouldn't turn me on at all. I guess because I like a guy to be mine and only mine. If we weren't in a relationship and were FWB's I wouldn't mind if he did this. However, in a relationship I may have a harder time accepting it or finding myself aroused.

    • Ok fair point. What about this scenario:
      www.girlsaskguys.com/.../q1905316-would-a-woman-think-about-or-consider-a-male-friend-as-a-potential

      Pls check it out!

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  • This take is fraught with generalizations and totally inaccurate statements. "ALL innocent women are secretly naughty"? Where do you get off making a statement like that? Yes, there are girls out there who like FFM threesomes, but if a girl doesn't express an interest in that, it's not because she's keeping her interest a secret. It's probably because she's not interested, because if she was interested she'd express that.

    • Would she? She'd tell the nice guy that she is into threesomes and reward him? Or would she not be sexual with him and only with a sexual man who wouldn't be around tmrow?

    • Who knows? Obviously there's a lot of variation in what people do. But there's no RULE that even girls who don't say they want a threesome do in fact want one. In general, I think it's pretty safe to assume that if she doesn't actively seek it, it's most likely not something she desires. There are PLENTY of women who would never touch a threesome with a ten foot pole.

    • www.girlsaskguys.com/.../a25746-the-friendzone-in-pictures

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  • Granted that some of your points are valid, but what many people seem to be attacking you is because they can't read. The topic says SECRETLY...
    which means its only a thought. It might not manifest itself but im pretty sure that most women are guilty of one or MORE of the above listed reasons.
    Im just listening to all these girls go "no" "no" "no", those are the kinds I stay away from, the needy, clingy, and unwilling to explore... as for the guys saying "no", i just think they should shut the hell up. any guy who would say no to a threesome and says he is a "one woman kind of guy" can not even get that "one woman", because if they have a brain in their head, they would realize a 3-some is just a sexual act, you still have your one woman, THATS how i know they don't have any to begin with. Im pretty sure if my girl were to suggest one, i'd fucking take it. (and she has)

    • Yes agreed. Unfortunately some of these people don't read!

      Dude, you are fucking lucky. Res-pect! Reminds me of a scene in rules of engagement, the lead character receives a phone call about a threesome from his wifey, the barman and all the guys in the bar clear the way to the exit and cheer him home.

      What if you are single and your female friend is single, any chance?

      And are innocent women actually secretly the naughtiest?

      Separately, can u help me out with this, since you seem to be a pretty experienced and knowledgable chap! www.girlsaskguys.com/.../q1905316-would-a-woman-think-about-or-consider-a-male-friend-as-a-potential

    • that sounds personal. sounds like someone wants a taken girl... women do think about that as much as guys do except guys act... girls think. she might have the idea but not go through until there's an action, a sign of true interest. I know, I've snatched a few. not proud of it now... and caused a few fights but still... and Yes, "innocent" women are the naughtiest... the mind/imagination is a wicked thing. 8 and a half virgins later... believe me... they are NOT innocent mind-wise. My rule is not to think about it... just do... if you want her.. go for her. chances are, she's looking for an exit anyway. you can always tell.

    • Haaa she was taken. She erm.. did ask me how to skate/bowl one day then, but I hesitated to touch her (I didn't know her status) owing to other people being present (it was a group outing). She kept in touch post uni. I like her, tho naturally respecting her status did not tell her how hot she is lol. We text and stay in touch long distance. And we visit each other cities and meet up. Now she is single tho. So I'm nervous? Did u see that other thread pls?

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  • Do you make this stuff up? It sounds great but who says it's true?

    • I guess a lot of it is deep down instinct stuff with people. It's what they want, but don't want to be judged?

  • Many?

    Hardly...

    • 1. Explain? 2. Are woman not sexual then with men who just straight up act sexual toward them and do not take an interest in their life? Versus say the guy who compliments her, befriends her and finds out about her as well as displaying attraction?

  • Maybe because every woman has a little lesbian inside her?

    Study says.

    • Yeah? Pls elaborate?

    • Do they like: 1. the fact they can let go and show off their sexual side which would otherwise be held back 2. this is acceptable given the other woman is doing it 3. the man must be desirable given the other woman likes him 4. the man must be dominant and allows her to be submissive which she wants to given he has two women in his bed 5. working with the other woman to please him (less energy) plus more touching 6. being competitive to try and outdo the other woman?

    • This is so late here. I'm about to sleep. I cannot search right now. Please remind me tomorrow by replying again, I'll show you. Thanks for your patience.

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  • I can easily tell you're the type who thinks you know what women want, like, need, and fantasize about despite women telling you otherwise cause you got lucky a couple times, then became cocky. Humble yourself buddy. Even I WOULDN'T want a FFM threesome. Or one in general. I'm a one woman guy.

    • and how easy is it for you to get the "one" woman? lol... dont worry, you'll learn. Homie might be spouting a bit of nonsense, but he does have a few definitive points. he's just reading too much into it.

    • @Tdieseler It isn't easy, never will and was. But I can't see myself being in bed with more than one. I don't think that's right. I actually find it repulsive. So yes, I am a one woman guy and if you think that's impossible, that's a you problem. I'm happy with my thing.

    • you completely missed my question/jab... most guys that call themselves "one-woman" guys... statistically can't get that "one-woman" they are referring to. so they call themselves that in some lame effort to advertise to women that they can be "committed"... Guys like me on the other hand are more honest... because we get many women so we don't see the point of advertising. Am i a one woman guy... yes... do i still want a threesome... fuck yea. If my girl suggests it... and she has... having a threesome is only a sexual act... and after... guess what Einstein... you STILL have your one woman. see my point?

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  • Um... no. If I were to have a threesome it would be with two guys. Not with another girl.

    • Girls who have been double-teamed are undateable.

    • @GuyNextDoor00 Why? And SilenRose, wouldn't you enjoy two women?

    • @GuyNextDoor00 Lol, are you freaking kidding me? Don't come to me with that double standard crap. @Asker No. I'm only into guys. If my guy asked for a threesome with another girl then he'd have to first comply to have a threesome with another guy. Most likely he'd decline and it'd end there.

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  • Right... I think you're leaning a little too heavy on the evolutionary psychology. You're not taking into account any cognitive, social, or cultural variables.

    Psych 101 all up in yo face☺️

    • Lol psch 101! Yes a lot of it is evolutionary. But I think if the social barrier/pressure/slut label is overcome, then women would actually be well into a threesome with another woman. Especially if all three people are single. Ok how about this, how would a woman who met a guy when she already had a boyfriend and now she is single, how would she maybe be sexual with the guy friend?

    • I'm gay, but either way I wouldn't want to have sex with anyone but someone I was in love with. If humans are reduced to primal instincts then all sorts of things become acceptable. Rape, murdering each other over food, mates, territory. Our prefrontal cortex is what allows us to be different from animals. We can think and reason our ways past those animal behaviors and be more civilized.

    • Yes good point. Everything must be consensual and everyone should want to do whatever is suggested. What I mean is, I think many women deep down want to partake in being a little frisky and kinky. it's just they are worried about the slut label. They shouldn't be worried to be sexual with nice guys. Don't feel it is only sexual guys (who they hardly know and won't be around later) that they can be sexual with. The nice guys would prefer them to be sexual and you'd have a deeper connection right?

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  • Yeah, no.

    • Why?

    • This is very male-centric. What you're describing is a man being pleasured by two women who feel threatened by each other. That's not an environment where a woman can relax and unleash her inner goddess. It's just a breeding ground for hurt, anger, bitterness, and resentment.

    • Or she enjoys being pleasures by a woman pleasing her and her man, allowing her submissive side to come out and also be herself?

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  • I prefer women over men (but i don't completely right them off) sexually and also in relationships... this is so ridiculous. This may be true for some, but majority? No. Women don't think this way. And for me personally, i have no interest in threesomes with men or women. Threesomes are just people soup. Disgusting.

  • Replace the many with some, many women aren't willing to share. And that's how I like it. So you ok with her wanting to do a threesome with you with another girl? What if she wanted another guy? Would you secretly enjoy it then?

    • Yes some, some women do like it though as they are more social creatures - they enjoy the sharing experience and are used to touching other women throughout their lives. And some/many like a strong man. I mean if a woman was in a threesome with another woman, would she enjoy secretly trying to outdo the other woman to impress that man? What do they want.. 1. a nice confident guy who befriends them and is interested in who they are as well as being attracted to them 2. a purely sexual man who clearly displays he wants to bang, but has no interest in her or texting her

    • Again emphasis on some.

    • Ok and in terms of the what they want (points 1 and 2)?

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  • I find it disgusting so...

    • Ok explain? If you found yourself in a situation with a single male friend and another single female friend of yours, would u be turned on how he is a man (given he has 2 women in his bed)?

    • I would not allow myself to be in that situation because I would A) never give a man that satisfaction of sharing me with someone else and B) Am not sexually attracted to women. I rather swallow nails.

    • Ok, so separately how would a guy you befriended when you were taken, but are now single, how would the two of you become lovers?

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  • 1. they are bisexual, they can't not be if they enjoy touching, kissing etc. the other girl.

    • It's more the: 1. releasing their sexual side without having to hold it back 2. it being acceptable given the other girl is letting go 3. working with another girl to please a man - a dominant one who has two women in his bed 4. the competitive factor of trying to outdo the other woman

    • And that makes them exempt from being bisexual how? they are still bisexual

    • Clarify Numbers 3 and 4? And in terms of being sexual with a man who is interested in sex, not getting to know her versus a man who likes her but also texts her and finds out about her life and befriends her?

  • Lol this was a cool post. I still don't understand women and this did not help. Off to the next

  • I love the way you think! More women should do this!

  • I like to satisfy girls during sex, and I haven't figure out how to do that with girls with one dick.

  • This kills the relationship

  • THATS YOUR PERSONAL OPINION.
    Just like most guys hate MMF, most girls hate FFM threesomes. STOP making it look like common and normal, because its NOT.
    Only those People who want to manipute girls to be horny bisexuals for the sake of threesome will give these reasons.
    No sane woman will be okay to share her man with another woman, if not that, at least touching another woman will turn her off.

    • Thank you

  • Yeah.

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