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Why Girls Get "Slut Shamed" And Not Men

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To really leave this myTake with new understanding, leave all preconceived notions about the double standard of slut shaming and get ready to see it in a whole new way.

Why Girls Get "Slut Shamed" And Not Men

When I think about double standards between men and women, I think about the ones that affect me. The one that gets me the most is that if a man says something to a woman and she doesn't like it, it's perfectly acceptable for her to slap him. No one would bat an eye and some people would actually laugh at him and say he deserved it. If a MAN slapped a women who said something he didn't like, if he so much as screamed at her, not even touch her, he would be condemned as a bad man for not having his temper under control. God forbid he slap her.

However, when i hear about the double standards that affect women, the one I hear the most is "slut shaming". And I can't say it isn't a real thing. Women get called sluts if they like to sleep around. But let's take a minute to figure out who is doing the slut shaming. Girls don't walk around with a piece of paper on their head that says "I'm a slut". The so called slut isn't placing the label on themselves, it's the rest of us. That includes ALL OF US. Girls call each other and guys call girls sluts.

But wait, it's not fair that a girl can't sleep around without being called a slut and if a guy sleeps around he's the man. Well I can't say there isn't plenty of truth to that statement. Girls are much more heavily judged when it comes to sex than men. But think about this, why do we come up with the label "slut". It's meant to degrade but also identify who a person is sexually. There are "prudes", "goody goody", or "f*** boys" and "sluts". There is no avoiding those labels, and a lot of these are self placed. I have been in both categories and I'm ok admitting to being labeled either of those because I know those don't define me. Anyways, I have been a prude because I used to be horrible with girls so people thought I was a prude. Then I went to college and started being more sexually successful and I got labeled a "f*** boy". But who were the ones saying I was those things? Girls.

Girls know how to hurt people, I don't say that as an insult, but it is generally true. Girls know how to get under peoples skin AND THEY KNOW IT haha. Think about it, guys don't generally call each other "f*** boys" or anything like that unless it's a guy talking to a girl he wants and she wants the so called f*** boy. It's out of jealousy. But girls call each other sluts and other disrespectful slurs to each other and place similar labels on guys.

If you want to change the problem, change yourself. You can only control yourself and it doesn't do any good to call other people sluts or f*** boys. You aren't building yourself up, it only makes you seem mean and insecure. Remember, if you don't have anything nice to say, don't say anything at all.

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  • As the great philosopher Jefferies said:

    "It's fu**ing easy to be a slut. It's fu**ing hard to be a stud.

    "To be a stud you have to be: witty, charming, well-dressed, have nice shoes and a fake job.

    "To be a slut you have to be: there.

    "There are fat, ugly sluts out there. There are no fat, ugly studs. I have met slutty dwarfs. I have never met a stud dwarf - maybe in their own realm, but none that have crossed over to our world."

    • True women have it easier to get laid. Honestly I see quite men working there ass off trying to be a stud. And half the time women just shun them. I don't get my own gender sometimes..,

    • @Gamecube Yeah, I don't either. It would explain why so many guys have quit trying, though.

    • You've got a point I suppose

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  • I'm not sure where you live. I have never witnessed a woman slapping a man in real life, and if I did, I certainly wouldn't think her behavior was acceptable. A woman who yells at her man has a bad temper, a man who yells at his woman has a bad temper too.

    • Exactly

    • I see women slap men all the time, but I've actually never seen a man slapping a woman. Just saying.

    • I've seen women slapping men.

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  • "if a man says something to a woman and she doesn't like it, it's perfectly acceptable for her to slap him."
    According to who? As far as I'm concerned only backwards traditional people think it's ok for women to slap men.

    I kinda agree with the general idea of this mytake, which is that people should just stop saying mean things altogether to each other. But you basically just keep saying that essentially, girls make up for most of the shaming. Which simply is not true. 9 times out of 10, when someone has called me a bitch or a slut, it has been a guy. Especially on here. I can't even recall the last time a girl called me a bitch/slut. But I do recall the last 20 or something times a guy called me those things.

    • I will tell you exactly why that is. Because girls pretend to be nice. I can't tell you how many friends that were girls I have that are two faced with tons of girls. They act nice everywhere, social media, face to face... except behind there back. Guys don't do that. Guys are pretty straight forward whether its face to face or on social media.

    • HAHAHA sure because guys are never two-faced. Like when a guy wants to get into my pants but pretends to only want to be friends. Yet a month later there he is, groping me at the party. :) And when I turn him down he calls me a bitch. So nice.

  • I don't use the s word and I don't think highly of people who use it to describe anyone. I think it says a lot more about the person who says it then it does about the person that you are talking about. I have a lot of theories on this. But I'm afraid if I just start shooting them out it'll be incoherent-lol.

  • Because of the double standard.
    But I'm trying to rectify that... Shame for everyone! =)

  • https://i.imgur.com/UyZZTqi.jpg

    just found this :P
    (P. S. no hard feelings)

  • This is a total lie. Ever hear of "creepshaming"? Men who are slightly socially awkward but well-meaning are unfairly lumped into the same category as men who are predatory and malicious. Women unfairly use the label on both, as a way to ensure that the socially-awkward guy has no chance of redemption and is doomed to forever be a bullied outcast - solely because she doesn't have any interest in him, and wants to scare off anyone else that might dare give him a chance to climb out from the shadows.

    Men who are promiscuous are judged on a more nuanced standard. If they merely used all those partners, and brag about that, they are called assholes. If they used all those women because they can't stop, at all, then they are satyrs.

    "Player" can also imply treachery, so it's not as endearing a term as you may believe. If a man was with that many women, but they all keep dying on him, then he's a "doom magnet," said to be cursed with "Spider-Man syndrome."

    Especially evil girls, when rejecting a man, will outright call him a "pedo," even if that's the first time children were ever even brought up in conversation. She will then go out of her way to convince everyone in his social circles that it's true. I know that sounds psychotic, but I've seen it happen. Some women really are that evil. He has difficulty defending himself against such assaults, because they're irrational. Defense requires those filled with misplaced righteous anger to set aside their feelings and be rational. Yet, the attack's power comes from irrationality. This is why Saul Alinksy loved and advocated this kind of tactic so much: because it's irrational and yet, emotionally motivating. Bear in mind, this was the man who devoted his best-selling book to the Devil - and was one of Hillary Clinton's mentors. (Surprised, anyone?)

    I digress. Not all promiscuous males are treated like heroes. And after Charlie Sheen knowingly gave a gal HIV, his reputation is worse than ever. After all, that's pretty much the same as murder.

    Concerning Paris: She deserves everything she got. Pick a woman who isn't promiscuous, but gets unfairly labeled and viciously attacked anyway, if you want a stronger argument. Consider Michele Bachmann, who never did any of that stuff but was still a target for some very demented verbal abuse. Or Paula Jones, subjected to it when Hillary wanted to cover up the fact that her husband was as bad as Bill Cosby.

  • A slut deserve to be called a slut, because that what she is, and the same with womanizers.

    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dw-eIE0pkn8

  • No man is every going to wake up one morning pregnant, and have to wonder who the baby daddy is because he has had sex with 5,6,7 different women.

    We men are not the ones slut shamming, it is women doing it to other women.

  • Am i the only women who doesn't care if she is called a slut? I've never had a female call me a slut by the way at least not in a negative way. I have had men call me it. And I call men sluts so I dont give a damn.

  • Some of this is true, but I don't really buy much into the slut shaming thing (which coincidentally is going to be my own next Take!). I still think it's guys that get more negative labels for their sexual behaviors than females. It doesn't really matter if a female is a slut or not or if people think she is or not because at the end of the day a slut isn't seen as a threat to anybody, but a guy can be seen as harmful for his sexual activity.

    If you brought 2 profiles to the police - one of a well-known slut and one of a guy who's known to "play" girls and sleep with different ones all the time - it's going to be the guy the police keep their eye on as potentially sexually criminal, not the slut.

    • Interesting point, do you have any evidence or sources for criminalizing men for their sexual behaviors (besides rape) because I have never heard this before?

    • @ksrkatie I'm not saying men get regularly criminalized for their sexual behavior, I'm saying that because a man might be known to pursue women for sex/be a womanizer, that he's more likely to be speculated as sexually criminal than a woman who pursues sex.

  • The reason is because men are too busy being shamed for their virginity. The male equivalent of a female slut is a male virgin, ironically. The reason being that both of them are shamed, teased relentlessly, and viewed in a somewhat negative light. To be honest, I don't think that people have to stop shaming us either. I feel a lot of pain and alienation as a male virgin in our society, but instead of expecting society to change I have come to live with it. I'll never fit in, and they'll never stop laughing at me, but that doesn't necessarily have to be a bad thing.

    • You're only 19. When you get to 30 and still can't find a wife, then you might be in trouble. But if you're still fairly fresh out of high school and are harassed about your sexual experience level, then those going after you are pretty sick in the head.

  • The reason why women are slut shamed maybe because compared to a dude, its dramatically easier for them to get laid.

    • Yep. It's male envy for the woman.

    • @dominiquois think about it. Even girls bitch about pretty girls who get sex.

    • I could easily have sex, since I'm pretty myself. All, I have to do is say the word and bam 10 guys lined up. I'm just too much of a snob to allow just anybody touch me. You have to be a pretty damn amazing soul.

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  • The double standard is there for a reason. A girl is not going to high five her bff if she annouces her she fucked 3 guys last night. For multiple reason. The main one being that she knows it's really not that hard for a girl to pull off.

    If she wants to actually impress her friends, she will show off the expensive gifts and love notes she received. That's how it works and girls know that to their very core.

  • Women are shamed for getting around, men are shamed for not being able to get around. Given how common involuntary male virgins are, who really has it worse?

  • Actually, most people that slut shame are other girls. because of this, when a guy actually gets laid guys brag cause they actually got laid. Its an inevitable circle sadly

  • The real problem is women act like they have no input in slut shaming when they represent 50% of the population and are responsible for 80% at least of slut shaming and men just dont care either way.

  • Dude what the fuck you do you think the whole catty fuckboy shaming thing is? Ain't nothing wrong with being motivated by sex. Just means you're virile. Anyone who shames you for that is a cretin. You don't need to talk about it, you don't need to protest it, or go on "slut walks" or demand tolerance to your sexual habits because nobody tolerates anyones sexual habits. You just need to acknowledge that they are a cretin, and then go do whatever the fuck you want regardless.

  • Yeah, I generally agree.

    Slut shaming is a woman vs women thing, and somehow they started blaming men for it.

    • It definitely started as a woman v. woman thing but guys perpetuate the idea as well. I know tons of guys who regularly call girls sluts or whores based on clothing, stories they have heard, etc. It's an everyone problem.

    • @ksrkatie You're right, that does happen. But keep in mind that a significant portion of that is learned behavior by guys trying to imitate the mean girls they're trying to sleep with. Filter that out, and there's only a small percentage of guys who have genuine malicious slut shaming tendencies, which makes up an even smaller percentage of all people who slut shame overall.

    • That's definitely true. But then also take into account the girls that call other girls sluts to get guys to take their attention off of the supposed "slut" and put their attention on her. I think it is everyone's fault because I have heard just girls together talking about girls being sluts, just guys together talking about girls being sluts and guys and girls together talking about which girls are "sluts". But I see what you are saying, it definitely has to do more with female v. female competition than anything, which is really disheartening.

  • because it´s asy for girls to get sex and hard for men. having it easy causes jealousy. that´s basically it. it´s not a double standard it´s natural difference.

  • I don't thank you know what slut shaming really is.

    • "Think" not "thank"

  • I don't care about what this culture tells me to think. I don't have any respect for promiscuous girls.

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