Masturbation: Right Or Wrong?

[akanetuk]

Masturbation is an act used to fulfill a sexual desire. But at a point the question of the act being "right or wrong, usually rings in the mind of those involve in this act. Outside the morality of the act, have we considered the effect it has on our body? A lot of people develop the following symptoms after masturbation: weakness, headache, a sense of guilt, lack of concentration, increase heart beat, fear, lack of confidence, and lack of proper erection.

The human body with time adapts to environment, and certain habits, through the signal we send to it through the brain, when the body is used to masturbation, it makes it difficult to sustain erection when the moment of true love making comes up.

Nature is so wonderful and has showed man, how things ought to be, but despite these tips, man always depends on his intellect, and do the things that feels right to him. Sex in the real sense involves exchange of energies between two lovers, but this energy becomes wasted when we take part in masturbation. Now the question arises, how can we overcome this addiction?

Self Control: every act begins with the thought process, and what we allow into our thought process has a way of influencing us. Learn to filter, what you watch, think, and listen. Some people seek happiness by engaging in masturbation, but as soon as the feelings goes away they slump back into their sadness. True happiness comes from engaging oneself in creative activities.

Happiness comes from impacting positively on ourselves, family, and the larger society. So many people derive a sense of fulfillment by putting a smile on the faces of others. Push aside whatever thoughts that are not worth investing on, in other words negative thoughts.

Engage yourself.

The thoughts of masturbation pop up when people are lonely. So to avoid this, it is good for one to surround him or herself with positive people. Yes urges are natural feelings, including the urge for food, urinate or to have sex, but we should not be controlled by our urges but instead we should learn to control whatever urges we have. It is very important we take into consideration the manner we go about to fulfill our urges, because we are hungry, does not mean we should steal. Sex does not make any sense when love is missing, so the first step to fulfilling any sexual desire is to look for love, and love involves sharing.

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[dangerDoge]

Masturbation by itself causes no bodily harm. Overwhelming modern research points that out.

The risks of masturbation are essentially:
1.) Feeling of guilt-- This is more prominent for those with religious ideologies conflicting with the masturbating acts they've done. The feeling of a "sin" or such can lead to guilt which can have adverse effects on mental health... which can lead to physical ailments as well (if extreme distress).

2.) Over masturbation-- This is more prominent for guys from what I know. Roughly put, the pressure of a hand is generally greater than that of a vagina. That can lead to ED (erectile disfunction) problems later on, since it isn't what they the guy is used to. Masturbation won't necessarily lead to this, but it is over masturbation that can lead to it.

3.) Porn + masturbation-- This kind of goes hand in hand with number 2. It can lead to ED if unchecked due to things like unrealistic expectations. It can also cause premature ejaculation if you masturbate with the goal of ejaculating fast. I. e. if you go masturbate and orgasm within 3 minutes, guess what-- during intercourse, your body will ejaculate probably within 3 minutes. While we may psychologically tell ourselves "this is different," we can't necessarily distinguish that.

I've never heard of the other effects you mentioned (i. e. headaches), and I just finished a college course with the psychology human sexuality. Even if some do have it, I don't think it can be generalized to the overall population.

HOWEVER, if done within reason, masturbation is totally healthy. I don't think it is necessarily right to blanket statement masturbation as all right or all wrong. Urges are ok to have, and masturbation is ok to do. It's when we overdo that is the problem. It's not always an addiction is what I'm trying to say, and the physical issues aren't necessarily dangerous/harmful.

Even if we do abuse the Johnson a bit and decrease sensitivity and such, there is a relatively straightforward way of fixing it: Stop masturbation for 4 weeks. If you don't masturbate for four weeks, the body kind of resets itself.
Also, as my psychology class went over, if you switch masturbation via left/right hands, it helps with problem number 2 since you aren't accustoming the penis to a certain feeling/pressure.

[Dakota2017]

Masturbation is very healthy. It help keep things working.

[redeyemindtricks]

Leaving aside how stupid the premise of this whole article is... uh, yeah. Boys, you DO know that the more you ejaculate, the lower yr chance of dying of prostate cancer, right?

You knew that, right?

https://www.medscape.com/viewarticle/844820

Yep.

If you aren't in a relationship right now -- or, worse, if you've lost yr wife/girlfriend/partner after many years -- then following this idiot's advice could cause you to DIE sooner.

You're welcome.
<3

[Floppy]

Come on everybody let's all masturbate

[Bluemax]

"If you aren't in a relationship right now -- or, worse, if you've lost yr wife/girlfriend/partner after many years -- then following this idiot's advice could cause you to DIE sooner." PHEW! Good thing I didn't! I'll live to be over a hundred!

[redeyemindtricks]

@Bluemax hah

[Transigence]

I'll fap to that!

[IceEverest]

That case is rare... People won't die if they dont masturbate...

[gag96]

@Floppy i am gonna aim the ceiling.

[smell-my-fingers]

tell me why I should take this question seriously and I'll answer... Fair? I promise to be forth-cumming! *sigh*

[Lillypad190]

www.plannedparenthood.org/.../masturbationWhat Are the Benefits of Masturbation?

Masturbation can be good for mental and physical health. People who feel good about their bodies, sex, and masturbation are more likely to protect themselves from sexually transmitted diseases and unintended pregnancy.

Masturbation is also one of the best ways we can learn about our sexuality. It can help us explore the types of touch we like the most and help us learn how to get excited and how to reach orgasm.

Learning about what feels good to you can increase your chance of feeling sexual pleasure with sex partners. When you know what you like when it comes to sex, your comfort with sex increases. And when your confidence and comfort level are high, it is easier to let your partner know what you like.

Masturbation can enhance our physical, mental, and sexual health and the health of our sexual relationships. Masturbation may

create a sense of well-being
enhance sex with partners, physically and emotionally
help people learn how they like to be touched and stimulated sexually
increase the ability to have orgasms
improve relationship and sexual satisfaction
improve sleep
increase self-esteem and improve body image
provide sexual pleasure for people without partners, including the elderly
provide sexual pleasure for people who choose to abstain from sexual activities with another person
provide treatment for sexual dysfunction
reduce stress
release sexual tension
relieve menstrual cramps and muscle tension
strengthen muscle tone in the pelvic and anal areas, reducing women’s chances of involuntary urine leakage and uterine prolapse

Mutual Masturbation
Masturbation is often thought of as a solo act. However, many people also enjoy mutual masturbation. Mutual masturbation is two or more people masturbating in one another’s presence. In addition to the potential benefits of masturbation listed above, mutual masturbation may

be a safe way to explore sexual activity with another person with no risk for pregnancy or STDs (Because partners are not touching each other, there is no risk of infection — and no risk of pregnancy unless semen gets on the vulva.)
provide sexual pleasure and intimacy before partners are ready for sex
teach people what kind of touch their sex partners like

- See more at: www.plannedparenthood.org/.../masturbation

[Sara413]

Masturbation is healthy and normal and can actually help you feel better physically and mentally.

Like anything, too much can be a problem, but it's a normal and healthy part of any sexually mature person's routine. It has the added benefit of helping us get to know our bodies so that when we are with a partner we can get off easier and better.

[YourFutureEx]

Had hundreds of questions, read thousands of articles and tried millions of ways, but came to only one conclusion...

Masturbation is the key to success.

[Jxpxtxr]

I loved this, it's almost satirical 😂 Hilarious!

[capsteverogers]

ikr ?

[erandal]

I masturbate alone a lot, I have a very loving family, lots of friends, good self control and a pretty good sex life. In short I disagree with every single point raised and like others it does seem to be implying that "masturbation is a sin".

However I will always respect the opinion of others and I would like to thank you for making yours known.

Now where did I leave my dildo...

[Azgeda]

It's not masturbation : Right or Wrong.
It should be masturbation : Right or Left or Both :P

[justagirl5]

I recently started masturbating and I don't think there's any problems with it. It's better than going out and having one night stands while risking pregnancy and STDs. I'm young and at an age where sex drive is probably at its highest. Would I prefer a partner? Yes, but I've yet to be in a relationship and who knows when I'll get into one if ever. If I never have a partner, I'd say the safest and most moral way to relieve sexual desires is masturbating.

[PrincessofNohr]

This article reeks of a religious view masquerading as psychology. Time and time again, science has found masturbation has no ill effects unless it is done nearly non-stop, which I imagine chafing would happen before anything else. In fact, it can be very healthy since it can help you find what works for you in bed, thereby increasing your pleasure during sex. This especially goes for women, since orgasm generally isn't as easy as just vaginal stimulation.

I also find it a bit condescending to imply that someone who has the urge to masturbate is lonely and/or a shut in. You're making a snap judgment about a large percentage of the world's population with that statement, implying that there is something wrong with them if they even have urges. My case, for example: I am single, work full time, and am not in a position to desire a relationship. I also have many friends, so being "lonely" isn't an issue, and I do not desire to hook up at the risk of becoming pregnant. Is it wrong for someone in my position to get off once in a while? Or am I simply too lonely or not "engaging myself" enough? Either way, I think you need to keep your religion in check before giving condescending advice.

[ChayD]

Bit of a non-article, it's like posing the question "Breathing, good or not?"

[Valkyrie1]

The only reaon a guy might have a harder time cumming during sex because of masturbation is if they have been squeezing their dicks too hard. Doing too much of anything can be bad for people but masturbation is totally normal. There was once a study made that said female masturbation was bad for women but it was poorly done and the scientist who did it was horrible biased (if I remember correctly) so it was a dud. And disproven multiple times.

[fr4nk]

Actually I think a guy can have a harder time cumming during sex because they can become accustomed to the rapid movements you can make with your hands.

[Valkyrie1]

@fr4nk Maybe its both I read something about the sqeezing the hand tighter than the vagina...

[Floppy]

I didn't even read your take. Masturbation is normal and fun and fine and healthy

[ClassicRocker]

It's neither. Question answered. When you masturbate you are committing an act that is neither morally grand, nor morally reprehensible.

[Ruff2muffs]

masturbating isn't a drug, it's just a natural release of stress. Sure some people will rub a nub till it falls off but again, here's where the common sense comes into play: everything in moderation.

You're sending the message that masturbating is some kind of evil to be avoided at all cost, and the only sexual pleasure that's "good" is what's had in a loving relationship. I don't agree with that. I think if you're horny, then your body is telling you to release some endorphins. Can it rule your life? Sure just like food if you let it, but it doesn't mean you have to ignore hunger because eating is bad.

You mentioned depression so I'll add to what you said. Getting off does not in any way cause depression and 99% of psychologists have agreed with this, it's even in their textbooks. What can happen is that you could use masturbating as a coping mechanism and then it becomes your only source of relief from a stressful life situation. That's when someone could possibly get addicted to it.

As far as erectile disfunction, studies showed that over 50% of the cases researched showed that men who have ED still get nocturnal erections, meaning that the source of their condition is psychologically based.

Got the information from a high school psychology textbook written by David Meyers. Tenth edition.

[anonymous83]

Masturbation is fine in moderation, and as a human I feel no guilt whatsoever. If I wasn't supposed to engage in sexual activity, then I would not be made to feel desire. Also, I happen to live in a place surrounded by drug addicts. So you can bet I'm going to Masturbate before I risk catching any of their nasty diseases.

[chintita]

hahahahaha

[redeyemindtricks]

ikr?

[ThisDudeHere]

The question of masturbatian being right or wrong is being asked incorrectly. The question should actually be whether it's the right or left hand that we use.

[Bluemax]

"A lot of people develop the following symptoms after masturbation: weakness, headache, a sense of guilt, lack of concentration, increase heart beat, fear, lack of confidence, and lack of proper erection."

Don't forget hairy palms.

[abundantlyrich]

It's natural part of discovering yourself sexually. Once in while, a person needs to release those energies that builds up from the stomach (stress). In some religions, they teach people to suppress it completely but this creates more problems that will manifest itself emotionally and physically. And the worst of all? That sex is dirty and sinful.

[oddwaffle]

Exchange energies? Dude you are going into some of those crazy neo spiritual cult. Stop stealing words from science and use it for some crazy cult.

Energy, in layman terms, is either the stuff that make stuff moves or the stuff that moves has energy. It has nothing to do with your spiritual stuff.

The thing about erection and masturbation is also wrong. If you masturbate too much then there is a chance of you getting a delayed ejaculations. That means you can get it up but you aren't shooting.