Let's look at a scenario here:
We have Brian. Brian is a good looking guy who is 6'2 and is kind to everyone.
Because Brian was born with good looks people would want to socialize with him more and be friends. By making more friends Brian gets access to a wider pool of girls that would notice him and consider him for lover/boyfriend.
If Brian is kind and decent to everyone then that just makes him even more appealing and girls can rationalize and hamster in their mind that Brian is such a good guy because he's a great person with a lovely character. So they can convince themselves they aren't going for Brian due superficial reasons but because he's such a wonderful person.
Let's look at Jamal (IB4 Male gagers talk about their male friend who is ugly and short that slays mad pussy but will never post up a pic and think that their friend's experience is the same as everyone else)
Jamal is a 5'8 black guy with average face. Jamal has nothing physically that stands out about him and has a smaller pool of friends compared to Brian even if he actively tries to make new friends people put him as an acquaintance level at best and he gets less opportunity to hang out with girls from other social groups.
So Jamal gets a smaller pool of girls who notice he exist and and even smaller pool of girls who want a relationship with him some of which might be down right ugly and total slobs.
But you know what we get demonize by women when we want to have standards and not force ourselves into a relationship with a girl we don't find attractive. Many women in this day and age think they should have a right to determine/tell a man what kind of girl is worthy of him while they themselves are allowed to hold onto their standards and hold out for mr. perfect. If a man tells a woman she is delusional expecting to get a certain guy when she doesn't even bring fraction of that to the table he is labeled a misogynist.
Despite Jamal being a decent guy and kind and helpful to everyone, no one gives a shit. Girls who are better looking or on his level of looks thinks he's nice because he wants to get into their pants and demonize him as a "nice guy'. Especially if Jamal gets a little bent out of shape of them only wanting to talk to him when they need something but never giving a shit about him after they get what they want.
It's funny women say they don't like guys who are push overs and bend to their will but will attack a male if he no longer wants to be her slaves/app service and continuously do favors for her while getting nothing out of it. It's the same with male friends who realize the relationship with women is one sided and stop helping their female friends over and over, women attack them as nothing being truly nice and only being nice because they were trying to get into their pants.
So girls demonize him as a nice guy and the other guy as a good guy. The difference between the 2 men is the social status, and looks each men were born with.
Granted there are assholes/players who pretend to be good guys to get into a girl's pants but the vast majority of guys are good by nature because you would want to treat others based on how you'd like to be treated.
Yet, people have this "I don't owe you anything mentality" today and are veru solipsistic. They can't see the reason behind someone no longer wanting to help them if you are disrespectful piece of shit to them, don't care for them, or only want to use them.
They can't seem to figure out why a person who is good by nature would get tired of going out of there way to help a person who only want the benefits but never reciprocate and they always try to rationalize it by saying the person wasn't really nice they were just being nice to get something from me and they come to this conclusion because they are users and that's how they think. They can't fathom they were being nice because they wanted to treat others how they'd like to be treated.
The whole perception of demonizing one man and thinking the other is a great guy all come back to disney movies. We see the handsome prince is usually some dashing handsome, tall male. So women associate that men who are good looking and tall must thereby be a good person by default.
It's one the reason why male players who are good looking can fool so many women and they are left crying questioning their view of the world when he uses them for sex.
Meanwhile while a woman will not outright demonize an average/ugly as a monster off the bat because that would be looked as less than PC and make them look shallow.
They will use any instance of any negative sign that they would of excused the handsome guy for to demonize and attack their character (creep shaming), and get confirmation that they are bad person. Basically they are just looking for any little excuse to justify you are a monster.
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