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5 Reasons Why Being A Virgin Doesn’t Suck

1. You aren’t rushing things
5 Reasons Why Being A Virgin Doesn’t Suck

Sexually active men are considered "winners" and women "experienced," while someone who saves him or herself in chastity is taken to be a prude, sexually incapable, or repressed by the Church. Despite what you see on TV or in movies, sex is a big deal. When you have sex with someone, you are physically and emotionally saying there is no one else you would rather be with in that moment. This goes back to patience. The saying is that love is patient and kind, not quick and convenient.

2. You are desirable

5 Reasons Why Being A Virgin Doesn’t Suck

The girl or boy you are dating or talking to should want to have sex with you. They should have to work for it. What makes them so deserving of your big night? There is nothing sexier to your partner than saying that you waited to have sex with the right person and that person is them.One of the reasons to remain a virgin for as long as you can is so that when you are ready to have sex you can be proud of your decision and know that you are making the choice because it is what you want, not because of peer pressure, guilt, nervousness or uncertainty.

3. A self-gratifying feeling for yourself
5 Reasons Why Being A Virgin Doesn’t Suck

Being able to say that I’m still a virgin for my own personal reasons and being able to stick to them makes me feel so good about myself. With all of the temptation, persuading and weak moments that I may have had, I didn’t give in.

4. It increases the repertoire of ways to show affection
5 Reasons Why Being A Virgin Doesn’t Suck

The couple who practices abstinence finds new ways to show affection; they must use inventiveness and ingenuity to have a good time and to demonstrate their interest in each other. The relationship becomes stronger as they have more opportunities to get to know each other’s character and habits, and learn the ways to maintain the relationship.

5. My first experience will be with my husband!!!

5 Reasons Why Being A Virgin Doesn’t Suck


5 Reasons Why Being A Virgin Doesn’t Suck

The truth is, sex is binding. Within a few short moments of sexual contact, our bodies release a powerful neurochemical that facilitates emotional bonding with another human being. There’s something physiologically intimate about that, but more so, there’s something emotionally intimate when two people connect as one. Anyone who is really interested in you in the long-term is going to be perfectly happy with waiting a little longer. If it’s a dealbreaker for them not to do it in the first few dates, they weren’t someone you should be seeing in the first place.

Psychologists found that couples who waited until after their wedding night rated the stability of their relationships 22 per cent higher than those whose physical relationships developed earlier.
Those who practised abstinence were also found to have 20 per cent increased levels of relationship satisfaction, 12 per cent better communication and 15 per cent improved "sexual quality".

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  • ... you're desirable?
    You realize that yeah, you may be making guys 'work' for having access to your pussy. But what's the motivating factor in them staying with you?
    What's between your legs.

    Not that different from girls who are sexually active and not-virgins, but you try to come off all innocent and as if you're elite to anyone else, when really you do the same things, just in a manipulative way. It makes you feel powerful to pretend like remaining 'pure' is beneficial to you, when really you're only buying into that whole patriarchal idea where a woman's hymen being intact would make her a more desired child-bride and such.

    • Guess what? Hookup culture is prevalent and thriving on most college campuses. Most guys can easily get laid. But my legs will always be a no-entry zone outside the confines of marriage.

    • lol I hope you enjoy putting the main value of yourself, in guys' eyes, between your legs. You've clearly got a lot of maturing left to do if you think that guys won't be interested in staying with you long term without sex.

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  • I just had to see this... i was surprised it was you @sparkly-crystal... seriously? the only thing i saw in there that has even an inkling of truth in it is #4
    the rest are total huey. if you want to be a virgin, be one, its a hard choice, respectable too but these reasons are not it.
    1. you aren't rushing? neither people that can't get laid...
    2. you are desirable... who lied to you? this isn't 1870, being with a virgin now is only for bragging rights. lets not even talk about the inexperience.
    3. Self gratifying... so will the repertoire of sex toys you will have when you reach 35 and are still a virgin because no one would want to permanently take on someone with sexual inexperience.
    5. First time with husband.. this is the worst of the worst (refer to number 2 and 3 as to why)

    I talked with you earlier, and ur sweet so im just going to say im not being an ass, i totally respect virgins who want to stay that way, its just the reasons that im against.
    i will even ask @the_rake who sort of shares my thoughts... sort of, if im being a little harsh with my expression.

    • @Tdieseler It's not for me to say personally, I just get sick of many of these self-righteous threads about the wonders of voluntary celibacy, especially if it's coming from somebody that's 17. Don't get me wrong, it's a GOOD thing you're still a virgin at that age since sexuality is not something you should be experiencing 'early' in life at any means. The other side of the coin would be 17, 18 & 19 year olds that think they are losers because they aren't keeping up with all their friends yet - it's a sad state of affairs when so many people are creating pressure on teens in such an insidious manner. But most people do not want to be celibate even into their twenties and late twenties (pushing into their 30s) because looking around here on GAG it is a lonely state of affairs. Voluntary celibacy is a slightly different phenomena but it requires a different psychology / mindset altogether but what if you don't find 'the one'? ...

    • [PT2] What if 'the one' comes along and you find out you are not sexually compatible (after marriage?) And as a side note - you may or may not agree on this - why should all the sexually frustrated involuntary celibate have to stumble on takes like these promoting the so-called virtuous wonders of late in life virginity when s/he has no such desire and no religious motivation to do so? This kind of person might already feel like a loser and now teenage brats are writing mytakes about how they should stay like it and how virginity has so much glorious motivation when the involuntary celibate knew that there was never this kind of moral incentive in the first place. I know the mytake owner did not intend this article in such a way but for those guys, it's just another way of adding insult to injury.

    • @the_rake 👂👂 "hear hear".. well said. regardless of how they seem to want to come off, thats on them. i only just voice my reasons as to why i think its a totally bad idea. Being a virgin by choice is not a bad thing, but being a virgin with some kind of incentive... holding it hostage in order to get something else, thats what bugs me. I think a girl on here asked if guys would wait till marriage for sex... and this is the kicker..."if they knew it would be great"... the things people would say to justify lol. as for those that are involuntary virgins, well.. they have my sympathy. Those that hold their virginity for "the one" usually tend to either give it to the wrong "one", or become so desperate later (about 31-35) that they are willing to give it to anyone really. this happens in 1st world countries mostly.

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  • Great my take. I'm glad that there are more moral my takes on this site recently. 😃

  • i am finding the responses to this incredibly interesting. there's a lot of defence and attack happening up in here, when what we should be doing is respecting each other's choices.

    • When somebody is preachy, it's obvious they'll be attacked.

    • @Deconstruction I'm not preaching anything.

    • well it means less sex for guys... so yea a lot of them will try to fight it and make it seem like virgins are a joke lol

  • I don't care/mind that you want to stay a virgin, but the reasons you mentioned here are bullshit. It makes you desirable... Mouahahahahah !

  • Fuck doing it with the right person I don't want to become a wizard I want to do it as fast as I can so i don't act autistic when I do it with someone I like.
    There's nothing to be proud with being a virgin and if anything it shows your less desirable.

    • Um, no. It actually shows that you have morals and you respect yourself.

  • Good for you😊 No really whatever makes you happy is none of my business whatsoever...

    Weeeeeell, since this IS an opinion site, allow me to share my thoughts:

    1) just because someone has sex at an earlier point in life than you approve of doesn't mean they are rushing things. When I lost my virginity I was comfortable, ready, and I don't regret it because I didn't place the burden of expectation on the experience.

    2) I'll bet you my left tit that trigglypuff is a virgin, but I don't know why guys aren't lining up to fuck her because being a virgin automatically makes her soooo desirable. My sarcasm speaks for itself.

    3) self gratifying feeling? That's called rubbing the bean hun😂. Jk like I said whatever makes you happy, but don't think that being a virgin makes you the only one getting some gratification😉

    4) you assume non virgins go straight to the sack every date night? Well fuck there goes my hymen now my brain lacks all capacity for creativity. Nice grain of logic there👌

    5) hey that's great. I'm glad you want to only be with your husband. That sense of monogamy and infinite value placed upon marriage is probably what will make your marriage strong. No garantee it'll be a good marriage, but at least the psychologists agree it'll be a stronger marriage.

    Don't take it personal, I just was in a roasting mood😊 Best of luck in your old fashioned values, they are sometimes truly the best.

  • None of this applies to men. Being virgin for too long only works for women.
    And I still don't get the sex only after marriage thing. I mean, isn't having sex ONLY after marriage kind of like signing a contract where you exchange sex for commitment? It's like an advanced level of prostitution.
    What if the man who loves you wants to have sex but is no yet ready for a life long commitment? How is it fair to expect the ring from him if he wants to be intimate? What if you two are incompatible?

  • Ya but you're only 17 this won't last

    • I plan on getting married in my early 20s so you might be correct.

    • Actually it can. I have a friend who didn't have her first boyfriend until she was 26 and it wasn't because of her looks. She is a very pretty girl and i have pften been jealous. She was one for saving herself for marriage. She just never found the right person and was more occupied with her studies and work. Now she is 28 and married.

    • I have her ig and fb in case ur curious lol i mean if u dont believe me.

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  • I used to want to wait for marriage but pushing 45yo here. Young gals can say they will wait all they want but is it cute to be 60 and never married AND never experience love in a commited relationship? Not sure this model is holding up for long. And believe you me I was a good church girl but honestly after women in my church were virgins and married guys who not only cheated but also had many lovers before marriage it made me wonder about the double standards in the church at least. #justsaying

    • everywhere there is the good and the bad and remember that church is the place where the sick goes seeking god to heal spiritually. Don't keep your eyes on the people at church keep it on the alter.

    • @serebro I don't go to church anymore. I don't have a desire to either, I always had a strong opinion about people who didn't go to church but now that I am on the otherside I understand. Church for me is not necessary to have a vibrant or fulfilling spiritual life. Quite the contrary. It is stronger. God is with me :-)

  • I'm a proud virgin :D

    • @Seneya me too!

  • I feel like i'll see more of these virgin takes from 5 other teens in the next couple of months.

  • Being a virgin is not that bad. But we don't have to be obsessed to keep virginity. Having sex when you want to do is the best.

  • clearly written from the female perspective. guys however its awkward, and no line of girls lining up round the block to "break him in"

  • It's really only desirable if you're a woman.
    Most girls prefer experienced guys, even the virgin girls. They may tolerate a virgin guy but it's not considered ideal.

    Also do you have a link for the stat about the increased marriage stability?

    • I would honestly love if my future man was a virgin. It might not happen and id be okay with that because after all the past is in the past and its not like he knew me before closesly. But ideally i would love if he was a virgin.

    • Actually, majority of the virgin girls prefer virgin guys

    • I prefer a virgin guy also but that seems soooo impossible, so doesn't really matter that much to me. But I would love if he was a virgin too.

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  • Guys... any of you notice that almost all vegan posts (Why you should/ why it's good etc. etc.) are always coming from girls who think they know it all?

    • Whoops, wrong post :P

  • Being a virgin by choice is great but the virgins who are virgins because they can't get laid will beg to differ.

  • 1. You aren’t rushing things
    You also aren't having sex, and sex is awesome.

    2. You are desirable
    Uh... By whom exactly? I mean, I don't find a virgin any more or less desirable, I am not immature enough to consider that to be a factor whatsoever.

    3. A self-gratifying feeling for yourself
    ... and sex is gratifying for two people.

    4. It increases the repertoire of ways to show affection
    What the hell? You suddenly have magical powers when you're a virgin? You can do everything without being a virgin, if you don't, you just aren't inventive anyhow, you shouldn't have virginity FORCE YOU to show afection differently.

    5. My first experience will be with my husband!!!
    ... and then you'll find you're sexually incompatible and your libidos don't match, on top of that, he suddenly wants some kinky stuff you'd never do because you were too stuck up in the whole virginity thing. Plus, where's the source for the "Psychologists claim" study?

    • I'm not preaching anything. You are just an internet warrior with no life. #blocked

  • bla, bla, bla... come back in 5 or 6 years if / when you still have not lost it.

    • What happened to respecting other people's choices. Its not like HER own choice affects you in anyway and if it makes her happier then all the more power to her.

    • @Fitness_Freak218 If she thinks being a virgin is such a great virtue then I will take her more seriously after she has prevailed the test of time.

    • I actually have a beautiful friend who remained a virgin until she was 27. But then again she never actually got a boyfriend until she was 26 haha. And she isn't ugly at all. I have her fb and ig if ur curious. And she actually has a sister who had a similar situation except at 19 who is still happily married now at 17 years. Its not for everyone but it can work

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  • Meh it's acceptable at your age but a bunch of blue anons in their 30s use these kind of takes to cope lol.

    • It's okay, they just haven't found the right person for them yet.

    • I respectfully disagree. I think if a man in his 30s and hasn't lost his virginity yet then he is pathetic. Sex is an important part of life.. it's healthy and pleasurable. After sex you release a lot of feel good hormones and connect with your partner. If you have failed to attract a woman enough to want to have sex with you 30 years throughout your life then that person is pathetic. I laugh at all these guys in their 20 mid twenties treating their virginity like it's some precious gift.

    • There are a ton of different variables that affect how much we're attracted to someone including personality preferences, cultural trends, societal pressures, and available potential partners. Sometimes it's beyond the guy's control.

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  • I agree, nice take.

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