Dating A Bisexual Individual Doesn't Mean They'll Cheat On You

Like seriously, sexual orientation has NOTHING to do with loyalty. I'm bisexual, and sure I joke with my female friends about dating them but my boyfriend knows I only have eyes for him. I read this mytake titled "How being bisexual almost ruined my marriage and my life." and I got PISSED.

Between loyalty and sexual orientation, there is NO correlation whatsoever.

Dating A Bisexual Individual Doesn't Mean They'll Cheat On You

Personally, I was very pissed off because she made it seem as if being bisexual is such a terrible thing. But that's not what being bisexual means. It doesn't mean women will always crave vagina and penis, it doesn't mean they're never loyal etc. That woman, was just a cheater. The only reason she even almost got her marriage ruined was because her husband found out about a tape her and her mistress made together.

She wrote well, but what she wrote? Complete idiocy. A sexual orientation will not affect how loyal someone is. A cheater is a cheater. A bisexual is a bisexual. Just because she cheated with a mistress doesn't mean it's bad cause she's bi, it means she's a fucking cheater. If it was with a male it would have been the same damn scenario.

If you date a bisexual person it does not mean they'll fuck you over. If they like you, they'll be loyal to you. If they don't, then they won't. People cheat who're straight, and people are loyal who're bi (such as me for example). If you ever blame cheating on your SO on your sexual orientation, then there's clearly something wrong with you. If you blame being cheated on on your partners orientation then you clearly have no idea how sexual orientations work.

As @Blonde401 said in a comment "It's not like 'oh I fancy a woman today or oh I fancy sex with a man today'. It's not a switch we flip on and off. If we're with someone, we choose to be with them because of who they are not because of what genitals they have." It's so very true. Bisexuals are with the person they're with out of love, not for whats in their pants.

If you cheat, regardless of orientation, you're a cheater. Cheating does not affect one orientation, and cheating is not something to be blamed on anything but yourself. Don't blame anything or anyone but yourself, and accept the fact that you done fucked up.

Dating A Bisexual Individual Doesn't Mean They'll Cheat On You

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  • i think the situation you're referring to was obviously a specific one, so dont let it get you all fired up. I believe she was writing from personal experience. Sure, maybe some of the audience was swayed after reading it, which I'm guessing is why u wrote this take. However, as u know, some people just like to come on and rant, which is perfectly fine, especially since they are recounting a personal experience. it could happen to anyone, as u said.

    as for the correlation between sexuality and loyalty, i can understand the view that it's more likely, but i dont necessarily agree with it. what i do agree with though, is people having a right to form their own opinion. if they want to eliminate based on sexuality, let them be. if they dont, they won't. to each their own.

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  • Lol, you are disillusion. A survey of homosexual men revealed that almost 95% of homosexuals report they had sex with someone other than their "exclusive" partner during their relationship. 95% is pretty damn close to all of them. (Sources:Laumann, The Social Organization of Sexuality, 216; McWhirter and Mattison, The Male Couple: How Relationships Develop (1984): 252-253; Wiederman, "Extramarital Sex," 170)

    And yes, homosexuality is different from bisexuality, but you claimed sexual orientation has no effect on loyalty and that is just a bold faced lie.

    • Interesting. It would be nice if there was an update to the study.

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  • It has been awhile since I read that mytake you mentioned, but if I recall the commenters also realized what you said too and basically called her out on it. Stuff along the lines of "it wasn't the fact you were bisexual. It was the fact you were a cheater."

    The bisexuality was a convenient excuse to cope/blame it on.

    Even if the stereotypes were somehow true, the myTake that was described did a poor job of attributing it to sexual orientation if I recall correctly, because one could have easily replaced the girl, aka the side fling, with a dude... Nothing would have changed. Likewise, similar cases to that have probably happened before in heterosexual couples.

  • I LOVE YOUR MYTAKE. 200% TRUE!
    FUCK THE HATERS.

    What you said is completely trueee =) and I also read that mytake from that other woman, I surely believe it was a false story to get readers! LOL
    But you're totally on point and DEFINITELY 3000% RIGHT! :) :) :)

    You Go Girl! Keep telling it like it is! may the new generation bring a new set of eyes along WITH IT! ;)

  • thanks for sharing this.

    i'm not bisexual, though i do agree that the points expressed in that other take were absolutely ridiculous and that the writer's sexuality was simply a scapegoat for her disloyalty.

    as i said in my comment on the other take, i'm pansexual; so, by her logic, i guess i should be screwing anything that moves. but i am monogamous and have always been; i'm fiercely loyal, sometimes to a fault. if i'm with someone, i treat commitment seriously and will stand with that person until the very end.

    in all, very well-said. it makes me so happy to see that there are intelligent people on this site, lol.

  • This was a very nice take, and I also read that other take you referenced and was thinking to myself that sure, she had sex with a woman while in a committed relationship, which as you pointed out makes her a cheater more than anything else. The whole thing behind the act of cheating is it is an act of betrayal, and in my opinion doesn't need to be isolated to the bedroom, I say this in the sense that if you and your partner are working together to meet a certain goal and either one of the partners strays from meeting those goals intentionally then this is a betrayal and falls into the category of cheating, because yes it wasn't sexual but hurts no less. To be sure sexual infidelity is a pretty big deal, but again I feel there were other issues at work here (as there almost always are) when it comes to a partners willingness to betray their partner.
    I applaud your assessment of the whole cheating scenario! Good for you, I must also confess that you have identified this at an early age which is also good. I suspect it will end up paying off for you in the long run as you go through and experience relationships in the future.

  • You're did a good job by writing this take.
    But I would never date a bisexual guy.

    • *You

    • Thank you and why, if i may ask.

    • You're welcome. Because I would feel insecure. I would keep thinking why he was with me, when he could be with a guy if he wanted to.

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  • There is no such thing as "orientation." That's a 1940s myth. There is honoring your design, and there is rebelling against it for any number of self-serving reasons, sometimes pertaining to mental illness.

    All that being said, it's possible that a man can date a woman who has done abominable things with women, in which she will not cheat on him with either a man or a woman. But since the bisexual movement is BUILT on a foundation of promiscuity, it DOES increase the likelihood of cheating.

    Again, it comes down to choices. Do "faithful" bisexuals exist? Perhaps. I would consider it Russian Roulette, however. When I learned my one ex was not only bisexual, but also into dogs, it really, really grossed me out. And didn't surprise me that she was with other men the whole time she was with me. And left me for a woman. Only to cheat on her and go back to man she was with before she was with me.

    Disproportionately, bisexuals tend to be very unstable individuals, more so than the instability of the general population. (Which is also way too high; I won't deny that, yet two wrongs don't make a right.)

    • your ex was not bisexual she was pansexual. bisexuals are not sexually attracted to dogs. while pans could be

    • You've nailed it, great answer.

    • Dude, where are you getting these "facts" from?

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  • I think that you can only relate cheating and being bisexual in terms of chances for a cheater to cheat. For example, if I'm bisexual and I tend to cheat I will have a larger number of people I can go with but that being said, as you wrote, a cheater is a cheater and a bisexual is a bisexual and a straight is a straight and a gay is a gay.

  • Thank you! I read that too and couldnt believe it! Blaming someone for cheating based on their sexual orientation is bull sh! t. Im bi and never cheated on anyone I dated. Most people dont even know Im bi unless I say something. If you are a cheater then you are a cheater its as simple as that. Dont assume a bi woman or man is going to cheat on you left and right. Are there statistics on who actually cheats more? That I would like to see.

  • Don't bisexual girls think it's doesn't count as cheating to sleep with girl while being in a relationship with a man?

    • No that's the point, it's cheating. If its two girls, two guys etc. It's cheating.

    • Not all of them think that and the girls who do don't even consider themselves bisexual.

  • 👏 thank you!!! I read that my take too and I was super pissed as a very loyal bisexual woman. She cheated because she's a cheater, her sexuality was just an excuse. Thank you for making this my take in response.

  • To be fair there hasn't been any research done to prove it's true or untrue. The belief that bisexuals are more prone to infidelity stems from peoples personal experience. I'm sure not all bisexuals cheat just like hetero and homosexuals. However, I'm sure the likely hood is increased. I have read articles of women leaving their husbands after "X" amount of years after realizing they want to be with a women (or convinced). I couldn't believe the people praising the women for leaving their spouse. One left her husband for the nanny. It was unreal. If it was a man leaving their spouse for someone else the comments would have been savage. In the cases of bisexual men they either cheat on the "down low" or convince their partner to have an open relationship. Research has proven that bisexuals prefer open relationships.

  • I wouldn't date a bisexual girl cause she could leave you for a boy or a girl, by making sure she is straight i cut out half the competition. How can i as a masculine man beat a feminine girl, i cannot bring to the table what she can. Whatever the case im not doing it

    • Then you;re just not confident in what you bring to the table.

    • @kat_gran... or he refuses to be feminine just to keep said woman.

    • @Prof_Don he doesn't need to be feminine to keep a bi woman. he just needs to be loyal to her

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  • It's almost like xojane will publish anything that's clickbait.

    I've never seen data on it. It wouldn't surpise me if bisexuals are more likely to cheat, for two different reasons:
    - in women, bisexuality is associated with higher sex drive.
    - for males, cheating is heavily influenced by opportunity, and i suspect there are a lot of opportunities for casual gay sex.

    Anyway, whatever. Asexuals are the least likely to cheat on you, but dating one is a living nightmare. Fear of cheating can't run your life.

  • So I wasn't the only one who found that myTake incredibly offensive? I hate when people tell me that I'm going to cheat on my boyfriend or have loyalty issues, because I'm bisexual. The trick to not cheating is just keeping it in your fucking pants, regardless of sexual orientation. It's not that hard. Seriously

  • "Between loyalty and sexual orientation, there is NO correlation whatsoever."

    Well you can't say that for sure. I haven't seen any studies that compare infidelity rates among different sexual orientations.

    So we can't say for sure that they are more likely to cheat but we also can't say for sure that they aren't.

    I really don't think its that much of a stretch to believe it's possible they cheat more.

  • While I feel the mytake "how being bisexual almost ruined my life" was probably the work of a troll, and a complete fiction, I respectfully disagree with your MyTake for three reasons. I apologize in advance for not quoting sources, but I'd only be willing to do that work for a MyTake of my own. In any case, Google is your friend, and Google Scholar is your EDUCATED friend LOL.

    First, and most obviously, you say there is no correlation, when if fact the correlation between cheating and bisexuality (if any) is unknown.

    Second, it is clear from numerous studies that OPPORTUNITY and EXPOSURE are large contributors to cheating. High school teachers for instance have higher rates of divorce and infidelity presumably due to frequent exposure to their preferred type. Since bisexuals are exposed to (roughly) twice as many opportunities, their rates should be correspondingly higher.

    Third, there have been studies that show that bisexuals have more partners and are more promiscuous than non-bisexuals.

  • I don't tell the guys I am dating that I am bisexual. I dont do threesomes in serious relationships because a few times it ruined the relationship.

  • #preach.
    True. You'll can't just assume we all cheaters.

  • yeah this isn't a surprise to me since a straight man or woman is just as likely to cheat as well (it's just that they are more likely to have an heterosexual affair). to me, all of this is just common sense and basic logic but I guess some people are very ignorant.

  • Well, if she is attracted to you and a woman then she will most likely go with the woman. My friend is bi and her expectations for a man, I know because I liked her before she said she was bi and when she said it I immediately lost feelings, are way higher than what they are for a woman. Her expectations for a woman are normal. Meaning, more women fit her bill then most men do. So if she finds a man who fits her bill, she will be with him. However, she will still be more likely to cheat based off the amount of available and ready female partners.

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