The word "older" is perception based, and changes every several years according to the age I meet. In other words, what I considered older over a decade ago, I most certainly don't consider it older now.
For example, when I was 16 years old my definition of older was anyone over 21.
Now as someone who recently turned 30, my definition of older is anyone in their late 30s and up.
Please keep in mind, I am speaking about "older men" from the perspective of when I was a teenager and as a young adult.
As far back as I can remember, I've mostly always dated older men.
I didn't sit back and carefully select who I wanted to date, things just sort of just happened that way.
Sometimes the age gap would be wide enough to where it is possible the other man could be my Father.
As a younger woman on a guy's arm,
I've heard things like....
-She's with him for his money (Well thanks, you might as well just call me a prostitute in this case).
-She's with him because she's missing a Father figure (Lets get real, not every single woman that decides to date an older man, suffers rom a severed relationship with her actual Dad).
I will acknowledge the fact that stereotypes come from keen observation. There is a fair amount of young women who do seek older men for those reasons.
The offense that's taken here is that, those reasons are applied to each and every single younger woman--older man relationship. I am here to say, that is impossible and hardly the truth. Each and every relationship has its own uniqueness and cannot be compared.
If you don't know the people involved in the relationship on a personal level, all you will do is jump to a conclusion of what you think.
Is what you think always the truth?
As much as we'd like to always believe we are right, the answer to that question is no.
I love older men because of their confidence.
I love a man that is authentic, genuine, smart, funny, and confident. I place high emphasis on someone's personal characteristics because the reality of it is, we all will age. I want the person that I choose to be with for the rest of my life to have a great personality.
I need to have the ability to relate to someone on every aspect.
I need to be able to love the personal attributes they have to bring to the table, to me that weighs heavily over the physical appeal a younger man may have over one double his age.
A great personality has the power to make someone visually attractive in my eyes, even if they are not.
Older men usually approach me in public settings when I am out. They know the worse thing that can be done, is me saying "No". Through any aspect in life, rejection is a possibility. I know, it never makes any one feel any good, but does that change that it still may happen and you should prepare yourself for it? By a certain period in their lives, older men have been through many rejections and are able to quickly move on from that situation when they are. Younger men on the other hand, may sit and dwell on the one hundred reasons of why they were possibly rejected. It is almost as if the world is over for them at that point. They lose all hope.
If a man has confidence, no matter his age, he has most certainly caught my eye!
This is why someone's birth year has never been any of my concern.
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