We've gone from a time when it was completely shocking for someone to say they weren't a virgin before marriage, to a time when sex has become this thing people trade with one another like text messages. I'd like to offer just a bit of support to those that are choosing to wait to have sex for whatever reason as I don't think they get to hear it that often.
I would venture to say these days that it is pretty rare to hear someone say out loud at least, that they are a virgin by choice either because they are purposefully waiting for marriage or just choosing to abstain until they find someone they really love and care about to have sex with. In a world where STD's are passed to and from person to person and unplanned teen pregnancies are celebrated on MTV, and so many regret rushing into having sex or feel pressured by their bf/gf to have sex, why do so many ostracize those people who choose to abstain from sex?
Having sex does not make you an adult or any more "normal," than the rest of the population. You cannot see someone walking around and tell if they are a virgin or not. They've actually studied elderly virgins, and there are no health risks associated with not having had sex in ones life. Your virginity is not everything that you are in life and doesn't determine the whole outcome of your life. It's actually very strange that so many people seem to care about whether you lose your virginity or not seeing as how one cannot choose to lose someone's virginity for them or have the experience for them.
The thing about it is, if you truly want to abstain for whatever reason, you have autonomy over your body. You can decide what you do and don't want to do with it, and just like with any belief you have, people are going to challenge it and you constantly. It is up to you to remain strong in your beliefs and to defend against those that are trying to lead you from your path for their own personal gain.
Don't believe the hype either that everyone is having sex but you. So many people lie because they are ashamed of their virginity or have been made to feel that way. Your life isn't a scripted teen movie where everyone loses their virginity at prom or even by the end of college. Life just isn't like that.
Sex is an experience like every other in life and when you are ready for it and can handle it or are within the bonds of marriage, then you will find the right time and person to go through with the milestone.
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