In a hypersexualized society, pre-marital sexual abstinence may seem like a very unpopular or unfavorable choice. However, I believe there are numerous benefits to pre-marital sexual abstinence, especially when both partners are virgins before marriage.
1. You Will Have No Other Comparison
Men are often anxious about their penis size and whether they can still please their women with the penis. This assumes that the women already have experience with bigger or smaller penises and already have their own preferences. However, virgin women have no sexual experience whatsoever, so they won't be able to tell whether it's too big/small. Although they can certainly read about average penis size measurements, they are less likely to be judgmental when a man comes with a 3-inch penis or a 7-inch penis. They may just assume that that's how sex is.
Virgin men may not be able to ascertain whether their women are "good at sex", and the virgin women may not be able to ascertain whether their men are "good at sex". This is a good thing. It means they both start at a novice level and improve their sexual skills together, tailoring their skills to fit each other's needs and wants. If something works, then it is kept. If something does not work, then it is rejected.
2. Virginity Is Never Something To Be Ashamed Of.
No one, male or female, should be ashamed for being a virgin on the wedding day. Instead, virginity on the wedding day means that both partners are ready to commit to each other, and marriage will be consummated. Sex is just an act of consummation of marriage. Therefore, to have sex within marriage is something to be proud of, because pre-marital abstinence is an indication that a person has taken control of his or her life instead of being led by the whims of human behavior.
3. Having Sex With Only One Partner For Life Means That You Treat That Partner More Importantly Than Anyone Else
Casual sex has no commitment. Relationship sex has more commitment. Marriage sex is the highest level of commitment. Having sex with only one partner for life means that you treat that partner more importantly than anyone else. That one partner is beyond compare, your one true love, your significant other, your other half, etc.
4. You Adapt To Each Other's Sexual Needs
By being virgin on the wedding day, you start with an empty slate. School does teach sex ed, but how Tab A is inserted into Slot B is not important and not mentioned. And you do not consume pornography or sexual services, because they are not respectful of women. Thus, you have no knowledge or expectations about sex. This is a good thing. It just means you and your partner can learn from each other. Just turn off the lights, sleep in the same bed, and allow nature run its course. Somehow, the penis will find its way to the vagina; it just takes time. People come with the innate ability to be sexually aroused when they are touched intimately, and the process will escalate to full-blown intercourse.
5. You Are Setting Up A Proper Example For Your Children And Grandchildren
You are showing to your children and grandchildren that it is definitely possible to be abstinent until marriage, and that pre-marital sexual abstinence is worth the wait.
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