An Honest Look at Whether or Not a Person Should Pay For Sex

This myTake is a response to 5 Unarguable Reasons Why Prostitutes are A Good Option for the Average Guy

@goldfinch23 @NoFcks2Give

Let me begin by saying I believe prostitution should be legal since I believe in the right to private property.

The person's body is their private property and they may do with it as they please so long as no one is hurt as a result of the person's actions.

I also believe that the government's view of the economy should be summed up as follows:

If it moves, tax it. If it keeps moving, regulate it. And if it stops moving subsidize it.

This is a paraphrased quote by Reagan which I doubt he would approve the use of.

As the world's oldest profession it only makes sense to legalize it and regulate it, especially since it helps fight human trafficking and ensure prostitutes have regular check ups.

An honest look at whether a person should pay for sex

The case for getting a prostitute boils down to a few basic points.

1. Sex on demand for anyone willing to pay regardless of their looks and personal failings.

2. Getting any kind of sex the person (or people if it's a couple hiring a prostitute) wants.

And Finally

3. A desire for nothing more than sex.

If sex is all the person cares about then I think them getting a prostitute would be best for them and it would prevent hurting the feelings of others that want something more.

However there are several factors to consider before getting a prostitute.

1. The Cost (in money)

Yup you guessed it, sex doesn't come cheap. In the US the cost can range from $200-$600 on average. There are some that will do it for a lot less and a lot of others that will do it for a lot more.

An Honest Look at Whether or Not a Person Should Pay For Sex

It is something that can become very addicting and costly.

By having a girlfriend a guy saves a lot more money on average since you don't need to spend money on the girl every time and it is highly unlikely that a middle class guy would spend $200+ on a date. $200 will probably be spent on 6 dates if the guy pays for both himself and the girl and knows how to spend effectively.

2. The Risk (STDs/STIs)

An Honest Look at Whether or Not a Person Should Pay For Sex

Although prostitutes may claim to be free of any STDs there appears to be no regulation set in place on how often they are tested. From what I could find in my research, once a month tends to be the standard but there's no one to oversee that it happens.

The prostitute you could be with may not have been tested in 2-3 months or could have just caught an STD from a previous client.

3. The Cost (in mental health)

This goes back to the number 1 reason people get prostitutes. In most cases it is because they can't get laid. If a person can't get laid by conventional means then this is their only alternative.

The problem with this is that a person can very easily become addicted.

Now let's say money isn't an issue, the problem then becomes that the person is embracing their flaws instead of working on them. The person becomes more closed off and depressed.

Sex to that person will be no different than alcohol for an alcoholic, since this will be that person's way of dealing with stress, depression or any other issue.

An Honest Look at Whether or Not a Person Should Pay For Sex

4. The Rejection of Love

Perhaps the person is too lazy to work on themselves and wants just sex. Eventually the person will realize that just sex is not enough. They'll notice their friends getting married, having kids and feel like they want that feeling of belonging. Most people whether they know it yet or not deep down want someone to care for them and for someone to care for. That is something you don't get with a friend. Sure you could have some beers with your buddies, play pool, go hunting or do whatever it is you do with your friends but at the end of the day you all go home. It would be nice if there was someone waiting for you at home. Someone that cares about your well being and supports you.

Someone that is there for you when you're sick or hurt for whom you would gladly return the favour.

That person won't always be your mom or dad.


There you have it an honest look at whether people should pay for sex.

I honestly hope it gets legalized but even if it does most of the issues with it still remain.

At the end of the day it's your choice, so choose wisely.

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  • 4. The Rejection of Love

    I agree with this, but I believe this realization goes beyond guys seeing their friends getting married, and having kids, and such.

    I'd replace "rejection of love" for "lack of female validation". Guys who go to prostitutes do it as a last resource thing, because they simply can't get laid. But eventually, they'll feel empty because they do not receive any sort of physical, and emotional validation from a woman. Male nature is conditioned to protect, and support females, and in return, men expect validation and appreciation for it (which mostly, men seek through sex). So rather than feeling melancholy, or something, it all comes down to biology.

    The sex act is nothing without reciprocation, and paying for sex or even masturbating for long periods of time will leave a man empty. In reality, guys aren't looking for sex, and that's exactly why paying for it is a waste of time and will do more harm than good.

    • Good point. The reason I called it The Rejection of Love is because I wanted to keep it gender neutral.

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  • These are some really great points. Hiring a prostitute is an individual decision, and it may indeed make some people happy. However, there are a lot of subtle consequences that many people may not think about. Hiring prostitutes will directly impact your ability to have normal relationships down the line, and that's an important thing to consider.

    • Well you can always keep it a secret that you went to a prostitute.

    • Ahh, nice answer. It's quite rare to see someone who can put these thoughts into words.

    • @Scottyboy160 Sure, that's an option. But what happens if your secret comes out? And is it really something you want to live with? That's up to you. But I definitely don't see it as the most ethical decision.

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  • As a sex worker myself I find these notions ridiculous.
    Can you regulate all clients from STDs since they aways insist on oral without condom? Some even ask sex without or try to trick us.
    Sex workers are the clean ones - we have to give actual STD lessons to grown men.

    The current system in the UK suits me and many others because we sell our TIME which offers a diverse client base and personal choice.
    Its expensive for a reason! Like a therapist.

    Taxing on sex acts is quite frankly disgusting since most do it out of desperation.
    And I heavily dislike lowering my prices to suit the client's needs and the government like we see in Amsterdam.

    I would have to make myself cheap if sex acts are involved in pricing - for example per blowjob instead of half an hour of my time.
    Meaning the sex worker would be forced to see more clients and put herself in more danger.

    We exist to suit a demand - men's desire for sex or a particular fetish that no normal woman would do.
    That SERVICE should be a luxury not a commodity!

    Actresses get paid so much more - we are fulfilling your deepest desires and get treated like the root of all suffering.

    I'm sorry but stop being so selfish.
    As my agency says, "We are women not takeaways"

    • About taxes. What's your costumers paying, is your income. Income should be taxed no matter its source. If you saying you shouldn't be taxed you're acting like a true whor*. About prices : in Czech Republic it used to be luxury too. But later shit loads of Ukrainian girls appeard and prices dropped down overnight. So hookers had a choice : lose all their costumers or drop prices too. And again about taxes : Government in Czech Republic launched programme for disabled people. They can use sex worker assistant. 1 hour is about 1000 czk which is approximately £30 per hour. These sex workers needs to get special course and certificate on its end. Their services aren't about sex only, but they teach them how to mastrubate, how satisfy opposite gender, it's about talking with their clients too. And these sex workers are taxed too of course. And once again, it's PROGRAMME WITH GOVERNMENT APPROVAL!

    • @goldfinch23 I pay my taxes because I am a high earner from selling my time but not everyone who is a sex worker should. I would feel extremely strange if the government took a chunk of money directly from a sex act. Girls that sell cheap sex are usually really vulnerable amd need help not regulation. That sounds horrendous. I love my job (most of the time) and whilst I encourage a course for sex workers to improve standards and safety - sex shouldn't be a GOVERNMENTAL RIGHT. Not even for disabled people. They make lovely clients but that sense of entitlement is disgusting. I have not met one Eastern European hooker that loves what she does - they hate it! Most are forced to do it because they have no better option. And no wonder, womens bodies are taxed and sold by their own governments! Thank you for teaching me these things, it makes a lot of sense!

    • I can't way for the JustSex app to come out... order sex from the click of a button.

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  • There are many types of prostitutes and the risk vs benefit varies with the type of prostitute you engage the services of. Where I live the Hookers that stand out on the streets will give you any type of sex for 30.00 and they're doing it to support their drug addiction. The STD risk with these girls are very high and what you're going to get is a warm body that will spread her legs and let you fuck her then wipe up the mess and back out on the street for another trick. Hookers usually do not get tested for STD's unless they're arrested for prostitution and don't care if you use a condom or go bareback they just want your 30 bucks so they can get more drugs.

    If you engage the services of a Courtesan/CallGirl who charges 600.00 to 1,000.00 an hour you're going to get an impeccably clean woman who cares about your experience. She will go to dinner with you then for drinks and dancing afterward and present herself as your girlfriend (it's called the GFE (Girl Friend Experience)) and when it's time to get to the sex it will be like making love with your girlfriend/wife. Courtesan/CallGirls usually will have themselves tested at least monthly for STD's and some girls will only have protected sex while others will allow you to go bareback.

    You also have HouseGirls who work at a Brothel and you can come in and sit down in the parlor with the girls and chat and mingle with them then choose the one you want to spend time/money with then go to her room and she will take care of your needs. HouseGirls are usually tested at least once a month for STD's and will only have protected sex with the clients.

    As a Courtesan/CallGirl I've only experienced one case of an STD in my career and that was a yeast infection which I had promptly treated and did not see any clients till it was cleared up. I also contacted my clients prior to discovering the yeast infection and informed them of it. Fortunately none had contracted a yeast infection from me. The client I contracted the yeast infection from contacted me 3 days after having sex with me to inform me his wife had just been diagnosed with a yeast infection.

    We're not all a bunch of sleazy STD infected cum buckets just because we're Whores. You'd never in a million years guess I was a Whore to look at me. When you decide you're willing to pay a woman for sex weigh the advantages/risks carefully before making your decision on which type of woman to engage the services of. Quality isn't cheap whether it's pussy or a car!

    • What got you into the prostitution business?

    • As a young girl I learned quickly I could trade sex for tobacco and alcohol among other things I needed or wanted then it turned into cash. I got hooked on it very quickly!

    • Sounds pretty sad.

  • 1. You can hire an escort (beautiful one) for $200 a night here.
    2. They BARELY have STDs and in my country, I don't think anyone has herpes + I always use condoms.
    3. True. I agree. Not the cost, but side effects.
    4. Isn't that #3?
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    • why doesn't anyone have herpes?

    • @SovereignessofVamps A lot of diseases are location exclusive.

    • Really? Had no idea! So... prostitutes are legal and common over there?

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  • "By having a girlfriend a guy saves a lot more money"
    A person could go overboard and hire an expensive girl every night, but a girlfriend or wife often costs more.

    One of my friends married a girl and she divorced him not long afterwards. It ended up costing him about $30,000 for each time they had sex.

    One couple I know, the wife gets an allowance of $1,600 per month to spend as she pleases. They have sex on average once a month. The guy has a sugar baby and he gives her $800 per month and they have sex once a week. So, in this case, if a sugar baby is like a prostitute (well, not really, she is a mistress, I've met her; she is very nice and they do like each other), she costs one quarter of the price of a wife.

    Another couple I know has about the same rate, where her allowance is $3,000 per month and they have sex about twice a month.

    • It all depends on your girlfriend. Hotter she is the more expense you need to invest. All women are prostitutes, just some use a different currency.

    • @Mrwoo99 "All women are prostitutes, just some use a different currency" That is correct.

  • You forgot sugarbabes. Still money for sex but comes with a relationship.

    There is also a kink to it too. There are things that people are afraid to admit in vanilla sex. You can't expect a guy to blue out that he is into feet on the 1st date right?

    • What's the difference between sugar babies and escort who does the girlfriend experience with you?

    • @BubbleBoy69 Escort is paid by the hour. You can't speak with her outside of the hour. A sugar baby is a relationship of sorts rewarded with financial allowance/gifts/bills paid by the sugar daddy.

    • @BubbleBoy69 The sugar baby and daddy know when each other's birthday's are. A sugar baby is a lot closer to a wife, without all the hassle. She accepts your money, but you don't have to give her your house.

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  • I don't really get the STD argument... You're supposed to use a condom and a prostitute who doesn't insist on you using a condom should be avoided. I'm pretty sure you're more likely to get an STD from some drunk girl you met in a bar and had sex with without a condom than from a prostitute.

    • Condoms do not protect against all STDs. Contrary to popular belief, many such as syphilis can be transmitted via skin contact.

  • Has anyone here even remotely considered sex trafficking?

    Because the majority of these loser neckbeard Johns are not visiting Nevada for their fix but are picking up prostitutes in places where it is illegal.

    The implication being that they have no way of knowing whatsoever whether or not that prostitute they are seeing is enslaved, abused, or free.

    They are directly supporting an industry that sexually enslaves, drugs, abuses, and trafficks women. Now that is selfish and makes them lose even more respect in my eyes.

    The problem with most of these whiny neckbeard prostitution posts is that they rest upon the premise that since it is permissible for women to behave in such and such a way, it is permissible for men too.

    But that is false. Just because one person steals an Apple does not mean that it is okay for another.

    Similarly, if women are behaving like prostitutes by being promiscuous, choosing only really successful men, and utilizing their sexuality for material gain, then it is wrong. Nobody is denying that. But it is also wrong for men to go along with it by seeing prostitutes and only enabling the evil to prosper.

    Both are an example of the even greater problem that sex has been commoditized and we have conditioned by an instant-gratification culture to pursue the lesser things isolated from their true contexts wherein they derive their true meaning.

    Now what I say next is going to tick off many.

    It all started with the acceptance of premarital sex.

    If men are so butt hurt that women will not sleep with them and women are so butt hurt that men use prostitutes, then they never should have allowed sex to have been degraded so much in the first place.

    Now no woman wants to be a wife or commit to a better man since all she wants is pleasure, just as no man wants to be a husband or commit to a good woman since all he wants is pleasure as well.

    We are merely reaping the consequences of the destruction of the family unit and breakdown of traditional sexual morality.

    • Thank you for mentioning sex trafficking!

    • So what you are saying, is that the government should be able to tell women what they can and cannot do with their bodies? Because I am pretty sure that is the same argument the pro-abortion people say the pro-lifers are making.

    • @WalterRadio Except the pro-infanticide crowd is wrong in utilizing it because abortion harms not the body of the mother but the unborn human inside of her. What I am saying is that visiting prostitutes in places where it is illegal is morally reprehensible because those women could very well have been trafficked. You are supporting an unregulated, violent, and exploitive criminal enterprise. If you are going to see a prostitute, at least do it in a place where it is legal and regulated like Nevada, though personally I think prostitution is reprehensible by its very nature.

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  • I've been using prostitutes a lot in the past. None of your points I consider to be truth.
    1. Money. I have experiences that girls usually expect me to pay for dates. That's why I found prostitutes cheaper. Either in Czech Republic or here in the UK. Here 1 hour with prostitute cost £40. On the date you will spend definitely much more, considering prices here.
    2. STD and another bullsh*t. I'm not idiot and always using condoms.
    3. Cost in mental health? WTF you talking about? I'm not using prostitutes for normal sex, but for really kinky stuff, or my weirdos, which girls usually consider as turn off. So it's kind of relief and I believe it's actually good for my mental health.
    4. Rejection of love? Another bullsh*t. Like I said before : I can be in love with someone and using services of hookers. The only reason I stopped using their services is, that my current girlfriend is happily willing try all these things which turns me on. So I'm not feeling to be "damaged" in either way with my previous experiences with hookers.

    • The fact that you needed a hooked proves that the girl was incompatible to you.

    • *hooker

    • She was incompatible. And it's my point. There are so many guys out there like me. They can love their girlfriend, but she's not into sex so much or she's not willing to try new things. And that's what's hookers are for. Also I know a lot of guys whose are really busy and has no time to date a girl. Working 14 hrs a day, 7 days a week. Another case when guys feel insecure or unsure when dealing with girls or they're just too shy. My point is, there's nothing wrong to use a hooker and in some cases it can saves relationship. And yes, I still consider it cheaper way to have sex then haunting some girl and finally ended up in the friends zone.

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  • i wouldn't, but there may come a day when i would love to get laid with a young guy and i wouldn't care if he is a sex worker.

  • Wonderful take. I almost completely agree with you except for the cost.. Those prices sound more like an escort service, which is private and as a "workaround" legal at least here in the U. S. I believe legalizing prostitution as a whole would cut down on street hookers to a mass degree. It in a way goes hand in hand with legalizing drugs..

  • Nice take. But I've got to say not all prostitutes have STDs not me anyway

    • The risks are higher than with a regular girl. How often do you get tested?

    • Monthly:)

    • So are you a prostitute !

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  • Pay for sex?

    No. It amounts to masturbating in a woman, just like an inflatable doll. No real sex thus.

    • A crude way to put it, but I agree. It's like if a man masturbated inside a hole.

    • www.court-records.net/.../bratworth-aha(d).gif

      @legs_n_sheets Except masturbating and sexual intercourse are not the same. Different chemicals and hormones are released when you have sex.

    • @UnknownXYZ huh? when have I said it was the same. You're taking things out of context lol Having sex WITH a hooker, with no reciprocation involved is just like masturbating, as the opinion owner said. I'm not saying the normal sex act is the same as masturbating.

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  • Women don't like prostitution because it lowers the value of pussy, the power and control feminists or women have over men. Legalizing it would be the elimination of female hypergamy or lowers it drastic, this means less demand for the average woman by men and women have to bring more to the table than just her pussy if she wants to prove her self to the man she wants.

    Although hot women will be in high in demand still but it would sexually liberate men to not rely on dating, marriage or a girlfriend just to get our needs met because all those aspects come back with repercussions that leave us no choice but to put up with. Its been designed that way so it would give a reason for a man to have a woman in his life.

    Besides men already pay for sex or some kind of exchange, the only difference is prostitutes ask for direct cash, an ordinary woman has another form of currency called appearance, money and status that you pay in exchange to sleep with her. All those or some you need to have in order to get laid or get a partner but lucky you if you were with born with good start in life but not every is though which is why prostitution is the way to go so guys are liberated to suffer. Since when do women sleep with you for been a good decent guy, humour or personality? it might happen but its very rare...

  • Nice thing i dont agree with few things but nice done. Things i dont agree is last part where you talk about family and speciall someone that waits you at home. That is idealizing things cos in real life things dont end that fairy tale mode. Things more offten end up being you get home and your vise disrespect you and your effort trying to put you down after you probably already hard day cos for some reason they know when not to talk but then they do it more than usually.. Nothing is perfect so dont idealize it or look at it single sided. Yes everyone wants to have what you say to be king of his own castle and all to have deep connection with someone and to enjoy spending time with after hard day... But some guys know how girls are today so they end up looking at only sex or prostitution as lesser evil. Yes i said it lesser evil. You have to be extremly lucky to make that perfect deep conection with someone in way you described it and I mean extremly lucky. For some guys it is easy to hit jackpot on lottery than to make relationship/marriage like you talked about. From my point of view its more to blame girls for that than guys but some blame is on us to. No one is perfect but girls before feminism made way to much compromises even ones that go against them and their health, girls now day dont make any compromise what so ever and thats not how things can work cos no one is perfect and we dont live in perfect world ether.

  • You always pay for sex. Just not always with direct money. You might pay by listening to her stupid problems or pretending to have stuff in common. But you always pay.
    I think hookers are just the most honest about wanting payment for sex. At least they don't judge.

  • i reckon sex workers have a cleaner bill of health than the average person you meet out and about.. why? because it's their livelihood.

    i know mexico requires weekly STD testing by law for those who work the tijuana brothels. once again, why? because that's the bread and butter of tourist money.

  • You forgot to mention that it's risky since there might be pimps involved, who are affiliated with gangs.

    And sometimes, you could get robbed. I've heard one story about a man and woman duo who'd do this. The Johns are lured by the woman, then the man would rob him at gunpoint.

  • Sex for money is bullshit. I will never do this.

    • Then you will never experience sex, unless you rape someone. Women always get compensated for sex, always. They may not ask for hard cash in advance, but they will have their due. :)

    • Sex for money is dating son.

    • @BubbleBoy69 I did sex with beautiful women. I am not needy. People who are needy can go to them. I have no problem with people who go to escorts to have sex with money.(if its legal in their country) But personally the idea of giving money to the girl for sex comes to me so wrong. Cuz during the sex she will enjoy and I will enjoy. We both enjoy. So why should I give also money to her. And there is no emotion in sex. I don't know anything about her , maybe she is a bad person. She will refuse suddenly sex during the sex and will say fuck off maybe. Even she is a good person , no matter. Still I don't like this kind of sex.

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  • The whole std and sex worker thing is silly. Why do you think they supply condoms?

    They want to be disease free too!! I know hard to believe isn't it?

    Yes it should be legalized but regulate and tax it too.

  • you presume all men who use escorts are sad loners. SOME are, no doubt, most no. Married men, good looking men in good jobs who want fun, or people who have fetishes that are rare or taboo. reasons are varied. to say only sad loners/pathetic/ugly dudes pay for it is pretty simplistic.

    • not simplistic... but ignorant

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