Sexual Relationships 
Sexual Health 
I would just like to share something here. This won't be for everyone.
I think when it comes to sex, men can sometimes be solely focused on achieving orgasm. Everything a man does in the bedroom will often be aimed at getting himself or his partner to orgasm. This can be fun but I believe too many men focus on the orgasm and do not know how to enjoy the pleasure of just being horny or the intimacy of making slow tender love to that special woman.
I had been sexual relationship with my boyfriend for a year and after that time something didn't feel right anymore. It felt more mechanical than passionate. It was still nice but I no longer considered it a thrill to get down and dirty with my man.
In the hope of introducing a little spice to our sex life I proposed to play a little game with my man. The game was he could have no orgasms for three weeks. At the end of the three weeks I was going to tie him up and tease him like crazy and then untie him so he could ravage me. During his three weeks of orgasm denial we still had sex and I could still cum but he couldn't. I even spent nights giving him long hand jobs that we both knew would never end with him cumming. At times he would be leaking pre-cum everywhere, his erection would be almost purple and his balls would swell like crazy. But I never let him have an orgasm.
After about five days I began to notice changes in his behaviour. He started really making passionate love with me. He knew there was no point in rushing to orgasm so it took all the pressure off. He was more tender and more erotic in his love making and our love making sessions would last for hours on end because there were no orgasms to kill his interest. He also started paying a lot more attention to my pleasure and spent a lot of time giving me back rubs, foot massages and anything else I thought felt nice.
He really started taking more interest in me again, I would often catch him checking out my ass or trying to catch a glimpse up my skirt.
He started flirting with me again and he was interested in talking to me and getting my attention. He started calling me in his lunch break and asking how my day was going and was in a much better mood overall. It felt so good to have a boyfriend who was genuinely trying to get my attention.
He also became very very responsive to my touch. A simple hug would have him getting a rock hard erection.
After his three weeks of not being allowed to cum it was like we had a whole new relationship. He was so cheerful, talkative and flirty with me. It felt like we were back in that honeymoon period that all couples get in a new relationship. It was like we had found each other all over again. I really think that his time without cumming restored his mojo in a sense. Not just in the bedroom but with life in general.
Once his three weeks were up I fulfilled my promise and we had some great sex that resulted in him having a very intense and very messy orgasm. I really enjoyed the new found control and feminine dominance that I had over him. But I think we have both learned a lot from doing this. It has taught him how to slow down and just enjoy all the things a loving relationship can offer. It has taught him how it feels to be truly horny for someone and it has showed him the difference between just wanting and orgasm and craving intimacy with a person. Our sex life is a lot different now. Yes he does orgasm when he wants to. But I've found he is less interested in orgasm and more interested in making love to me and will often just bask in the joy of being horny rather than trying to cum.
A final word. If my man was really against this he would have simply gone away and jacked off while I wasn't looking. Yes sometimes he did complain about being horny but he went along with it anyway because I think he could see the positives.
If he had not being interested in adding some flame to our relationship or learning how to be a better lover then this would not have worked. So I need to give credit to him for how well he did this and how much I love him for it.
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