How to Get Your Man Off Without Even Touching Him

Okay, it is time to focus on the men for this go-around. I was challenged by a user who read my other myTake, "How to Get Your Woman Off Without Touching Her," to write a follow-up for the dudes.

While it is known that women typically do need more mental and emotional stimulation to have sex, that does not mean that the guys always just want a pretty girl to fuck. To keep a man interested, us ladies do need more than just a rockin' hot body. In the list below, you will find certain attributes that men like to see in women and that will get his motor runnin' even faster, even before you have taken your clothes off. Don't worry, you'll get to that soon enough by the way.


How to Get Your Man Off Without Even Touching Him

It does need to be stated that this guide merely provides suggestions and is not guaranteed to keep every male's attention. It also does not include every little thing that could peak a man's curiosity. Everyone is different, so there will be different characteristics that matter in this game of seduction. Okay? Ready? Ready.


1. Display Confidence


Being confident means knowing that you are valuable. You know your strengths and will not settle. However, you do walk a fine line and run the risk of being seen as egotistical. Do not boast or brag. This really is true for both sexes. Let me just drop this quote here as it truly drives the point home:


How to Get Your Man Off Without Even Touching Him

2. Be a Lady in the Street (and a Freak in the Bed)


Thank you, Ludacris, for sharing that line in Usher's song, "Yeah." From what I have observed, being a lady in the streets and a freak in the sheets is what a good number of males seem to desire in a partner. Be classy and proper when you are out in public and especially around his mother. Being crass, loud, and obnoxious will only send a guy running in the other direction. However, showing that you can get down and dirty later once you two are alone is a whole different story. You can be his slut and his slut alone.


3. Have a Sense of Humor


Hey, look, #3 on this list is the same as on the first list! The same comments apply, too: show that you know how to have fun and are not uptight. Men like easygoing women that are not afraid to throw in a sexual innuedo or witty joke into a conversation for example. Make him laugh and laugh together. It will make him feel closer to you. Be silly, let loose, be yourself.

How to Get Your Man Off Without Even Touching Him

4. Show Your Intelligence


Would ya look at that, folks? There are TWO things on this list that match up with the first one! Intelligence is sexy for both genders. Sure, it does not matter much with one-night stands or maybe even casual hook-ups. However, if he wants you for the long haul, you better have something to talk about and engage him with the other hours out of the day that you are not having sex. Things will get dull fast otherwise.


5. Play Ms. Independent


One of the easiest ways to never hear from a guy again is to be clingy and desperate. Show the dude on your radar that you know how to and can take care of yourself. Having a princess complex is not cute. You do not need everything handed to you on a silver platter. However, if he does want to spoil you from time to time, more power to him. Do make sure that he knows that he is still needed in some aspects of your life, to complement it and fill in those gaps (pun intended?) to be the yang to your yin.

How to Get Your Man Off Without Even Touching Him

There you have it, your five points for stimulating his mind and not just his cock. If you can do those things, he may just stick around because you are just that awesome, sista friend... and then, yes, you two can get to sexy time and go at it all night looooong.

#BATTLEROYALE #TeamRJ

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  • Very good again 👍😉

    Especially confidence, I can tell a confident woman almost instantly from her eye-contact and body language. If I look at her and she looks back with a smirk and holds it then I know she's not shy and it's a HUGE turn-on. Humour is another biggie, a girl who can take and give out roasts is such wifey material, us guys like to have a laugh and a girl who has a stick up her ass, literally taking offence to everything, gets old REALLY fast.

    Links in a lot with RJ's take about being hard to get and placing value on yourself actually. I do scratch my head when GaG blues say they want a complete suck-up as a girlfriend because I couldn't think of a more boring turn-off.

    • Thanks for giving it a read! Yeah, I know I need to work on the confidence factor myself, but I try to make up for it with my sense of humor at least. xD I have seen some girls laugh at almost nothing. Meanwhile, I'm laughing my ass off, and I just don't get it. Crazy. @RJGraveyTrain and I are twins. We have a lot of connections, even in our writing, and without discussing it. Haha.

    • Wait, you need to work on confidence? i always had you down as a self-assured little (😝) firecracker. And it is indeed so attractive for us when a woman finds us funny, ESPECIALLY when we use intelligent humour like irony, only clever women can catch the joke before it sails over her head so it also shows off number 4 too. Between the 4 of you on your team I feel like im being tugged all over the floor with good takes lol (not that I would mind that the 4 of you😏)

    • Haha, I'm confident about some things. I think I have a good personality, am relatively intelligent, and have a good sense of humor. Body issues, though? Eh, different story. 😛 Buuuuut... you may continue to call me a firecracker. XD Oh, that's an honor, though! I'm glad you like what we've shared thus far!

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  • Number 2 sounds like a big winner. Guys dig that heaps!
    Number 1 is always sexy! She just needs to understand that there is a fine line from confidence and cockiness lol
    Number 3 and 4 is a definite must! I like a guy with a good sense of humour 😬 And intelligent he must be!
    5 (having a princess personality isn't cute)! Agreed unless guys dig that princess shit in the first place Lolol

    • For suuuuuuure! There will always be exceptions, but that's fine. I can't cover everyone's preferences. 😊

    • Hehe yeah it's absolutely cool though ☺️ You're on a roll with the Mytakes 😉😏

    • I know. I'm surprised myself. 😂

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  • I think that with the subject of getting a guy off, non of these would qualify but with giving a mind-gasm... these are on point. Too bad you only listed 5 eh...
    good Take.

    • Right, right. If men and women could make the opposite sex orgasm with these attributes, you'd see a lot of embarrassed people out on the streets. :P Yeah, I only did five for both Takes because I didn't want to make it too long or overwhelming. I know I end up skimming through super long myTakes. Thanks for giving it a read and for the positive feedback.

    • and thanks for the call out lol... im surprised you actually did it... i was just being a prick... well.. like always. And you are right, if this could give sexual orgasms, yea, a lotta people would be in trouble on the streets.

    • Haha, I know you were being a prick, so I called you out on it. 😉

  • Great points, and glad you listed classy and fun! others:

    The last point is "don't be needy love", but be real love... where you give of yourself (whatever that is, might be kind words, or back run, or surprise card or something). But being needy for a person drains them.

    A) Avoid being an emotional nightmare. guys can't stand it because the ydont' know how to handle it. You will fall into his "I'll bang her" category, but he won't want anything else to do with you.

    Nice job!

    • Excellent additions! Thank you sharing them and for reading! 😊

  • Misleading title but all good points.
    none are more important then number 2.

    • It's meant to draw you in, so... ;) Thank you, though!

  • "Talking with quiet confidence will always beat screaming with insecurity"

    This sums it up very well.

    • Yeah, I saw that and had to share it. I saw some similar quotes that would fit just as well.

  • I probably completely agree with 4.75 of the take - The 0.25 is the lady in the street/freak in the bedroom point, my feeling is that it is down to the couple's compatibility about what they like. Sometimes I don't mind if she just doesn't care about how the public perceive her and sometimes I don't mind if she just wants to spoon or not want to talk dirty.

    • Oh, no doubt. I agree. It does come down to preference. Some couples simply are more freaky than others. Basically, my point there was to be kind and well-mannered around most of the public, open up and be yourself around his friends and family (but still respectful), and not flash your boobies all the time around strangers. xD

  • You savage. Three takes in a row!! Good one.

    • Lmao. Had to do this one since I was challenged.

  • *Slow clap
    Quick someone give this girl a medal...

    • Hahaha, thank you, thank you. *Bows.*

  • Superb take. You know men well.

    • Thank you! I try my best!

  • Everything you said was on point, Heather! All of those are definitely turn ons! If she's kind, nurturing, and a good cook, then thenter I'd wife her on the spot! Haha.

    #BATTLEROYALE #TeamRJ

    • Oh, jeez, better work on my cooking skills. xD

  • Not bad. But won't get us off without touching us, so there's that.
    The 'princess complex' is spot-on. We're all really tired of that. Unfortunately the latest generation was raised with parents telling them how perfect they are, AKA 'snowflake', and what they 'deserve'. Honey, you don't 'deserve' anything - you get what you earn, what you can attract, what you've carved out for yourself. No one is gonna hand you anything. Part of this 'me me me - I deserve it' generation. Just not happening.
    Women in particular have this 'I deserve it' idea - not sure where that comes from, but it's completely ridiculous. You don't 'deserve' the perfect guy. You MIGHT be able to attract one IF you make something of yourself.

    And next, just what exactly do you bring to a relationship? Hopefully it's something more than the golden vagina.

    • No, it won't get you off literally, but I did mention that. 😜 Happy to have your thoughts on this, too!

  • #2 . Should be #1 in my opinion.
    # 1. But not to the point of being overbearing.
    #3. Make me laugh til i literally piss myself.
    #4. Engage me in a intellectual conversation and i'll make sure your walking funny with a smile on your face.
    #5. Don't PLAY Ms. Independent , Be independent but not to the point of thinking i'm beneath you instead have a mutual sense of helping each other be better for the other.

    • Ahh, the list wasn't exactly in any certain prefer, haha, but thanks for your feedback! Yes, I probably shouldn't have used the word "play." 😜

  • Don't forget blowing on his dick! Or getting a low-powered vacuum cleaner and going to town... not that I've tried that, of course *looks around* 😐😓
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    • Look, eager beaver. I said *without* touching. 😂 Now go back to Violet the Vacuum.

    • Yaaaaa, blowing on it still isn't touching it. And her name's Vanessa.

    • I hope you two will be very happy. I hear wedding bells in the future.

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  • You always keep me coming back for more Heather 😉😛 so you know your stuff haha

    • Hahaha. I try to!

    • Hahaha well it works 😉

  • And most importantly…

    Strip.

    • I did mention that. 😜

    • haha :)

  • How to get a man off without even touching him: send a video of you naked, masturbating for him. Guaranteed, he will get himself off at some point to that.

    • Hahaha, no doubt.

  • I agree with all of them except maaaaybe #2. I want my girl to be a little unladylike, a little childish, a little, dare I say, batshit crazy. It makes it more fun. If all she does is act like she's going for an interview as a lawyer she's not going to be interesting. I guess what you might have meant is have manners and dress conservatively, but if you meant act like a robot: I disagree. Even in front of my mother 😜

    • Oh, well, of course. Do show some emotions, but I meant more of not showing your coochie off in public. 😂

    • That's good to know I always seem to scare guys off with my somewhat childish, crazy manner. I think it's because they don't see me when I work and study only when I'm relaxed and having fun.

  • But I'd like to add. Talk dirty. With girls it's not so effective. But guys go nuts. Oh and also, send him nudes if you trust him. It drives me wild.

    • Definitely good additions that can help. Be safe when sending sexy shots, though!

    • To be honest I don't really recommend sending nudes to be honest. I'd take that back. I woudnt hurt a girl but most guys would after breaking up.

    • Depends on the couple and level of trust they have. I don't think it can hurt. Either way, sending some sexy messages works.

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  • I agree so much that's what amma try to do because not everythings need to be touching

    • Nah, being physical is important, even just kissing. However, if you want more than just a fling, these kinds of things will help.

  • Not a bad take , I like the " Lady in the streets , Freak in the Sheets " part , lol , I like that in in woman when they surprise you like that

    • Haha, most men seem to agree that's the best part. 😜

    • Yeah we like good surprises😊

  • None of the above will get a man off

    A handjob, however...

    • Missed the point of the Take, bud. ;P But yes, a handjob will do the trick.

    • Lol didn't read the take but I know for a fact that no man will finish to confidence xD

    • Thank you, sir, for that genius deduction. :P Hahahaha.

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