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What Women Shouldn't Do 48 Hours After Sex With A Man

What Women Shouldn't Do 48 Hours After Sex With A Man

After the physical intimacy you shared, you can't help but feel further connected to your man of choice.

However, there's just one problem, It has been 48 hours since your passionate sex session and you still haven't heard from him.

Although 2 days isn't forever, it sure feels like it as you anxiously wait by your phone anticipating a text or phone call from him.

Before this point, you heard from him almost instantly. This leads you to believe that something is not right.

As time continues to progress, you become even more upset.

What Women Shouldn't Do 48 Hours After Sex With A Man

You begin to ask yourself a million questions, some of which are:

"Is he really as into me as I thought?"

"Did I do something wrong during the night?"

"Did he think the sex was bad?"

"Was I used for sex?"

You can no longer take it any more.

The coldness in the air is killing you.

You decide to reach out first and this is what you do:

What Women Shouldn't Do 48 Hours After Sex With A Man

1. Show entitlement

When you have intercourse with someone that is not your boyfriend or husband, you should not expect anything more from them than just a good time.

Sure, it'd be thoughtful of him to text you several hours after or even a day later, to let you know he's thinking of you or had a great time.

But the reality of the situation is, he doesn't want to do that because he doesn't want to give you a false impression. As of now, he sees you as a girl he can have fun with. If he has too strong of an approach, he will mislead you into thinking he wants more.

Texting this man 48 hours after sex and demanding to know why he hasn't texted you sooner, will further put that person off.

Since when did you two exchange vows?

What Women Shouldn't Do 48 Hours After Sex With A Man

2. Text him repeatedly

Since the sex you two shared, your feelings for this guy has evolved. The bad part here is that, you expect to be his top priority. You cannot see just a good time for what it was.

You get jealous when he makes plans with other people.

You get upset that you see he is active on social media and still hasn't messaged you.

You get upset because he is taking forever to return your phone calls.

You thought sex would somehow change those things but it didn't.

You see, you're still not in an official relationship with this guy.

He only wants to live in the moment.

The sooner you understand that, the easier this will all be for you.

Texting him repeatedly is only going to allow him to assume that you are needy, clingy and desperate.

If you can't handle being seen as just a booty call then this isn't the type of relationship for you.

Look elsewhere!

What Women Shouldn't Do 48 Hours After Sex With A Man

3. Say too much too soon

During sex the main hormone that is released is oxytocin (the love hormone). It is produced in higher levels in women than in men. When oxytocin is released it allows us to feel bonded to our love maker. This is why a significant amount of women may feel "connected" or "in love" after intercourse.

The main hormone that is released when men have an orgasm is dopamine (the pleasure hormone). The chemical differences between us is a significant factor in why men and women (in general) carry a different attitude towards sex.

Women,

It is not wise to send messages spilling your heart out and saying how much you love or care for him.

Please do not confuse your emotions with love, it is only lust.

If you didn't feel this intense before the sex, then understand what you feel now is something that will pass in due time.

Relax!

The fact that you feel so strongly and you aren't in a official relationship with him is enough to scare him off.

All relationships have the ability to change with time, but right now see it for what it is, it is a causal sex relationship.

Take things cool and easy.

What Women Shouldn't Do 48 Hours After Sex With A Man

If a man is truly into you he will let it be known from the get go.

You'll never have to question anything because he will show it with all of his actions.

He will not come off distant and aloof.

You both will share an open road of communication.

He will want to spend time with you and things will not always be about sex.

He will show he cares for you in various ways such as: being there for you, listening, and showing empathy for situations you may face.

Even if you start the relationship off as casual sex partners, you will see that for the both of you it will eventually become unfulfilling because you want more out of each other.

When a man truly cares, he'll never keep you questioning.

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  • If a man doesn't contact me in 24 hours, I'm going to assume he wasn't interested and move on, not even going to bother texting or calling him. But you kind of make it sound like women should give him space and time to contact us and, sorry, but... no. If you sleep with someone and they don't contact you by the next day, then you were used and need to get to know people better before you sleep with them. But you really shouldn't be sleeping with someone you aren't official with, anyway.

    • I give him space and do other things in the meantime. The fact is I don't invest all of my energy into him and wait on him. Move on. That's what I do. When he contacts you, he contacts you. I wouldn't sum up 24 hours to automatically not caring. If the guy doesn't message you or call in a week the most then he should be forgotten about. Some women, however feel unsettled and text in between this time to know what changed.

    • Agree 100% with this!

    • And FYI, my casual sex relationships were when I was a teen. I don't plan on doing any of that now. Ten years invested in a relationship here. But what I have found my approach, made my previous casual sex partners fall in love with me because besides great sex they saw that I didn't need them. You'll never catch me nagging or asking , why didn't you call me? I absolutely will not show any care if you don't.

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  • >> It is not wise to send messages spilling your heart out and saying how much you love or care for him. Please do not confuse your emotions with love, it is only lust.

    Agreed with the first sentence but I really think love and lust are blurry. I married one of the two women in my entire life who made me overcome with lust.

    But that lust was accompanied by feelings that I wanted to know every aspect of her character, to share everything together, to have kids together, etc.

    I think the role of lust in love is underrated. While there's a lot more to a relationship than a sexual connection, I still think that's the ultimate building block that leads to romantic feelings instead of just the feeling of being with a good "friend". A "lover", by nature, is someone I'm going to lust after.

    • Lust becomes a problem, when the person you have those feelings for wants to maintain a standard relationship with you. If both people are not lusting for each other, the relationship they have has every possibility to fail because you can scare that person away with the intensity of your feelings. This causes a broken heart. You are lusting for someone that isn't feeling the same way about you in return. Lust is only positive, when two people are looking to build on a relationship. It is something beautiful that has every power to eventually grow into love.

    • Agreed -- I just never liked the distinction so much of "in lust" and "in love", since it's really blurry for me. But I think it's kind of a sad relationship when the lust is not mutual.

    • Yeah the lines are blurry, but how I distinguish the two is that anyone can feel "lust" but not every one can be "in love". Love takes knowing someone on a deep level. It takes time. It takes going through the ins and out of them, and knowing that you'd still be there for them in the end. Lust is a feel good sensation that only "feels" like love but isn't. Its more so a fascination and desire for someone.

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  • Personally, I find this whole set of do's and don'ts in relation to casual hookups pretty dumb.
    If you enjoyed the sex and you had a fun date, tell the other person (as a guy AND as a girl!). Don't wait a day or two or three, just text the other person 10-20 minutes after saying goodbye and tell them it was really nice. Something like "Hey, it was really great with you tonight, I had a good time :-)". It's one sentence. How freaking hard can it be. And like I said, that goes for girls too.
    If you're lucky, the other person will like it and you might see each other again. And if not, it won't be the end of the world either.

    • This. Thank you. So many b/s rules and regulations and game playing.

    • You're right! But if someone is going to game play initially , how are you supposed to respond in return? Not like a crazed maniac... but someone with pride like this take states.

    • How is it prideful to just not reply and wait until the guy replies? For all you know, he might not be playing games, he might just be an incredibly lazy person. Of course you can do however you like it but personally, I would always write a nice text. It's my way of defeating girls who play games. If she writes back, great. If she doesn't, oooh well. There'll be others.

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  • Nope.
    This is why women don't reach their relationship expectations and wonder why they haven't found romance.

    If a man doesn't contact me the next day - I will assume he isn't into me or is a passive individual and therefore not that attractive anymore.
    Even a casual sex partner would need to leave a saucy message or something to keep me interested.

    A masculine hetero male constantly persues his woman THROUGHOUT the relationship.
    We as women are not commodities.

    Waiting on call for a guy is like being a free prostitute. I know this because I was a professional escort.
    If you want a guy to only want you for sex - you demand NOTHING like this list. You play the courtesan game and its easy to keep it fun cause you don't actually care!
    That's how I treated clients and casual partners. I would appreciate a thank you text or an acknowledgement of each others time however. Shows good character.

    If you want love, romance or passionate sex then you set in place expectations.

    Its completely ok to feel disrespected if he doesn't contact you after 48 hours and to let him know in a mature manner.
    I would express my true feelings, for example,
    "You haven't contacted me since our time together which tells me you might not be interested. I'm sad to learn this as I had a wonderful time.
    You know where I am when you have more time available for this relationship but for now this isn't for me"

    My experience taught me to expect the best treatment from a man I am really into. And I get exactly that unlike my pre-escorting days where I would play by the guys rules and be constantly heart broken.

    • If you think that a man should persue you throughout the relationship, what do you give in return?

    • @anonman32

    • @mayamoon02

  • I just dont understand why it is considered ok to sleep with a man who doesn't even think enough of you to contact you within 2 days after sex. If you wouldn't give a man your banking info or let him use your credit card with the highest limits then why would you lay down and have sex with him when you are more valuable than any material items? I just think this free sex shit is allowing unworthy men access to our bodies and the power to hurt us. It's just going against female nature to act like "oh he didn't call me after we had sex the first time? no big deal" when it actually is

  • this is just self censorship. i don't see the point. she should do whatever the hell she wants and if he's not interested he's not interested. if texting him 2 days after sex turd him off it turns him off. so what its casual sex there's more where that came from. and if he was not interested what diff does it makes if she texts. only difference is she's not walking around head held low waiting to be spoken to before speaking. someone has to text first. why shouldn't she.

    Why shouldn't she text if she feels like it -assuming they'd have to contact each other at some point if they want sex again.. maybe she wants sex after 48 hours.

    i dont have casual sex but if i did id do what i want. casual sex is just sex. all this worrying about behaving like the good little wife who is submissive and waits for the guy to do everything, is absurd enough in dating, why would she be giving this a seconds thought with casual sex.

    it gets old seeing posts telling women not be be alive if they like a guy. some people do assume a person is into them when they are not-so ghat. and it certainly is not specific to women. if a person doesn't want you you'll find out. and a lot faster if you're proactive. there's no shame in it. i don't see why women are encouraged to feel ashamed for doing ANYTHING. What does anyone really get out of that.

  • So is this just for casual one night stands or is it for everyone? I'm guessing the former but I'm not sure.

    • Yes, this take is for those who want to pursue casual sex relationships or are already involved in them.

    • Which I'm not at all interested in. I clicked because the title was a bit vague and general so I thought I could get something from it. Oh well :(

    • Well, I have 150 mytakes so if you feel like reading there's a huge list of things that are bound to be you'd topic.

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  • The only thing I H8 about your posts is that I couldn't ridicule anonymous people for their ignorance.

  • You forgot don't have sex with guy number 2/3 lol

    • Why not? 😏

    • @YourFutureEx I'd doubt number one will stick around lol

  • This implies a subconscious awareness that mankind is expected to only engage in sexual activity within the confines of marriage - an innate knowledge which our modern civilization has taken great leaps and hurdles to suppress.

    Yet, the subconscious has a conscience too - and it betrays to us all that we have all betrayed the innate knowledge we have chosen to suppress. Entitlement, separation anxiety, bonding... the fact that we can feel these things even for someone we've never actually met betrays that there is a depth to the connection that goes beyond mere infusions in the brain of vasopressin and oxytocin. There is a spiritual hope involved in this all too, which shapes and reinforces the message of bonding chemistry in ways the chemicals themselves alone cannot.

    1 Corinthians 6:18 goes soft on the issue, by only stating outright that you violate your own body when you have a one night stand. It goes deeper than that: you violate your own *sense of belonging*!!! And that's even more serious yet!

    "Since when did you exchange vows?" That's an even deeper indictment than what you were intending it to be.

    • "This implies a subconscious awareness that mankind is expected to only engage in sexual activity within the confines of marriage - an innate knowledge which our modern civilization has taken great leaps and hurdles to suppress." Actually, No. If that were the topic itself then I'd title this: "Why People Should Wait Until Marriage To Have Sex". I'd explain why. The core problem is, too many people sleep with others and expect the whole world in return. Someone cannot give you their "all" when they did not "commit" themselves to you. That is what people in marriages and official relationships do. Expecting the person to be attentive, call you often, and spend every minute with you, is not what casual sex relationships are intended for. Please, do not flip this topic into what it is not. I am sure you are smart enough to extinguish what this article is about. It is differentiating the difference between how one in a casual sex relationship should act towards their lover

    • vs. someone in a long term committed relationship.

    • *smart enough to distinguish

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  • unless it is a 1 night stand, or there is a large scale power outage that takes out the cell towers, there is zero excuse for any guy to have sex with someone and not text them the next day. Esp if it is say the first time you do it. When I am dating someone, even just the beginning of the relationship, I will send a good morning and good night text at the very minimum. Usually some through the day if I can't actually call.

  • FINALLY!! A girl who understands!

  • MEN, SEND A TEXT MESSAGE THE NEXT DAY FOR YOUR OWN SAFETY!

    Why? FALSE RAPE ACCUSATIONS

    Date rape is the easiest accusation for a woman to make and the hardest one for a man to defend against. After having sex with a girl for the first time, always send her a text message to let her know how much you enjoyed her company. By sending a text, you are showing that you’re neither afraid nor ashamed of what happened the night before. It also makes the girl avoid feeling “slut shamed.”

    • ^ this

  • This is a rare point where I'm emotionally more female than male. I'm normally the one the following day wanting to take our relationship to the next level and they're nonchalant. Maybe something I did/said?

    • I'd give you the same advice I'd give to anyone (whether it be man or a woman)----as I did with this entire take. If someone is making it clear by their actions that they want nothing more, either you choose to: A) Move on B) Continue to keep the relationship for what it is, sex and nothing more.

  • As I don't respond to texts, anyway, it'd be a big waste of time for her to blow up my phone. ;)

    Saying too much too soon is a big one, though...

  • Good advice. Girls expect too much. Many b3elieve ex will make a man tied to them for life. Maybe that was true 100 years ago, but certainly not now in most places.

    • Sorry for the error.. SEX Wil make a man tied to them for life!.

  • Nothing wrong with texting first, someone has to do it

  • Sounds to apply in gag! All these girls asking if the guy is into her after sex and can't separate a pure lust connection and a real love connection. Orgasms are orgasms but not more than that.

  • It doesn't matter what a woman does in this situation. The worst that could happen is that she embarrasses herself a little in the eyes of a man who doesn't want to stay with her anyway. Because that's virtually always the case if he doesn't contact her within 48 hours after having sex. I mean come on, if he liked you there would have been at least some good conversations and "moments" before the sex and he would contact you afterwards.

    The guy is a fuckboy who played you and you two probably have nothing in common (if you think you do that's because he told you what you wanted to hear, or because you're not a very interesting person yourself). Naturally your hormones will compel you to desperately chase this guy and forget about other guys who would actually be a good match for you.

  • Wow the first picture is beautiful !

  • Hot pic 😍 Lol you clickbaited me with it. I'm not experienced enough to know but this sounds like decent advice.

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