What Men Should Do 48 Hours After Sex With A Woman

What Men Should Do 48 Hours After Sex With A Woman

The period of time after sex is very crucial. If you remember from my last take What Women Shouldn't Do 48 Hours After Sex With A Man the woman started to feel immediate self doubt because she didn't hear back from the man of her choice after sex within that time frame.

The more time that passes by, that you do not contact the woman you chose to share casual sex with, the more negative her feelings will grow towards you and herself for allowing the intimacy to happen.

You don't want her to start feeling regret about the situation. If you enjoyed her company and the sex (and want it to happen again), don't be afraid to let her know that you did.

What Men Should Do 48 Hours After Sex With A Woman

1. Act as if nothing has changed

If you've been sending her daily texts up until the moment you both had sex then continue to do so.

If you're going to suddenly exhibit behavior in which you didn't before, what do you expect her to think?

The worse thing a woman can feel is used.

If you want this relationship to continue, then show appreciation for her.

What Men Should Do 48 Hours After Sex With A Woman

2. Give positive feedback

Did she do something that really blew your mind?

Was the sex in general great?

If it was, don't be afraid to say it.

Often times we need to be told what was really liked so we can do the exact same thing again.

Example- You really liked the trick she did with her mouth while giving you oral.

Sometimes she may have many tricks up her sleeve and may not know that is the one you particularly enjoyed the most.

Let it be known so she's more likely to do what you enjoyed again.

What Men Should Do 48 Hours After Sex With A Woman

3. Make plans to see her again

Even if you cannot see her again right away due to a busy schedule. The both of you still should be keeping in contact with each other.

Not every woman takes it well, when a guy only calls when he's feeling in the mood.

What turns most women on and makes her want a man sexually is the caring things he does; outside of the bedroom.

So, keep talking to her!

When you see there's a day you have available on your calendar, speak to her to see if that day is convenient for her as well.

What Men Should Do 48 Hours After Sex With A Woman

The key to establishing any beneficial relationship is to make sure you both have a good understanding of each others wants and needs.

If one person wants more out of the relationship than another, then it is bound for disaster.

Speak to each other before agreeing to a casual sex relationship to make sure the both of you are on the same page, this is so no one gets any false impressions of "what is" or "what may be".

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Most Helpful Guy

  • Who knew sex with a woman came with so many directions? LOL just kidding I knew that all along j/k
    Actually this is pretty good advice. We always I mean ALWAYS have snack after sex - one of us will make it for both of us. But once I didn't and she spent days wondering what it meant? Was she not good that night did she do something wrong? So continuing to so what you've been doing is big--i learned that the hard way

Most Helpful Girl

  • Ugh I wish I had red this before texting my client/friend that I love him and that he never bores me. he's like "easy girl" :p

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  • Men regard sex much different than women do as us guys do not have those emotions to deal with. This Take makes sense as it is a good guideline to remind us we are different and need to remember to take care of her needs as well.

    • Yes, I agree. In my take mentioned at the top I briefly explain the differences towards the end of the take.

  • I wholeheartedly agree with everything you wrote, but there is a catch which I'd like to have your view. What if the reason for slowing down communication and physical contact with her is not to lead her on to think we are officially dating.

    I'm in a two-week old relationship with a girl whom I'm not sure about my feelings for her. We had sex for the first time last Friday. Afterward, we only chatted on Tuesday during which she opted I should come "chillex" with her at her place on Wednesday, which I did. Of course sex was part of the menu. 😉

    I didn't contact her between last Friday and Tuesday because I didn't want to create the sense that we are officially dating. Likewise, she didn't give me any clue as to the status of our relationship. Preferably, I'm leaning towards friends with benefits but I won't say it to her. I'm thinking she too is probably leaning towards friends with benefits.

    I think your what-men-should-do-48hrs-after-sex-with-a-woman is highly applicable to vanilla courtship where the rules of the game are obviously clear to both parties leading up to the sex. By vanilla courtship, I mean where one person or both parties have expressed feelings of love for the other or each other.

    But where both parties have not communicated what they feel towards one another, it is a very tight rope to thread. In May 2016, I was in a similar situation with a girl. We had sex; so I thought we are officially dating. I contacted her to express my appreciation, and to keep the communication flow as before the sex. She told me the sex was just for fun and nothing else. After that she ghosted on me.

    • As long as you establish some sort of pattern in contacting her (48 hours specifically really will not matter). If your pattern is contact her 3 days after then continue to do so. The problem only starts when someone suddenly goes from 3 days of contacting to a week passing by. The problem with casual sex dating is that some women can't just see it for what it is, and want to feel immediate reassurance. I think when you're honest about a relationship upfront then there are no misread signs whether you contact that person a day later or a few days after. I think the girl you are involved with is enjoying it for what it is. Sooner, or later one of you may develop feelings for each other because this is a talk that needs to at some point so clear boundaries are established.

    • **In my articles case (the guy was contacting her daily---only to go cold contact 2 days later). The problem is the pattern being broken which alarms the woman.

    • Absolutely, I'm some point we'd have to explicitly iron the terms of the relationship. I'm not a fan of making a girl predicting specific days and times I choose to call or do not call her. I've been in a receiving end of what your female friend experienced. This girl always contacted me between 7am 11am every morning. The days I don't receive a call or text from her, it felt weird, and I started developing thoughts such as she's probably gone cold or has interest in another guy, which in many occasions I was right with my thinking. Predictable calls creates a sense of conditioning. The receiving party becomes conditioned to the other party's communication pattern. Once the pattern is broken, the receiving party starts feeling a sense of oddity and abnormality like addict being taken off drugs. 😊 However, I understand the reason for both parties to have a shared understanding of when to get hold of the other.

  • I'd express #2 during sex rather than after sex.

  • It makes me really wonder WTF kind of men are out there nowadays that there even has to be a post like this or the one for women. Are young guys really this pathetic?
    If I am with someone at my house and she leaves at night, I expect a text from her letting me know she got home safe. I don't care if she is 3 streets over.
    I am still going to text her goodnight, then good morning the next morning.
    There is no excuse to not at least text someone every day even if you can't call them.

    • You are a true gentleman.

  • If you had sex with her for the FIRST time, 48 hours is too long!

    Why? FALSE RAPE ACCUSATIONS

    Date rape is the easiest accusation for a woman to make and the hardest one for a man to defend against. After having sex with a girl for the first time, always send her a text message to let her know how much you enjoyed her company. By sending a text, you are showing that you’re neither afraid nor ashamed of what happened the night before. It also makes the girl avoid feeling “slut shamed.”

    SEND A TEXT MESSAGE WITHIN A FEW HOURS!

  • Nicely written.

  • I do the second and third ones right away. Like, right then and there. lol

    Whether that's good or not is sort of lost one me, but I don't care. :)

  • Good god - another one of those waste of time 'what you should do' articles.
    What you should do, is precisely what you feel like doing - everything else is fake (by definition).

  • Solipsism clearly on display. You overrate your own importance.

    • Having no standards is perfectly fine. Allowing yourself to feel used by others is as well. I totally get you!

    • Haha I like this guy, he's also right

    • "Right" is perception based and subjective.

  • This is a very good one.

  • Your previous take is women shouldn't contact the man within 48 hours
    This take tells men should be contacting the woman within 48 hours.

    I disagree.

    Why not just keep communicating regardless of gender?

    But either way, I will take this advice from my part but I suggest women to try to keep in touch with their man too! At least I would appreciate the same from women.

    • It's deeply drilled in us that men are the main initiators especially when these relationships are fresh and first starting out. Men's role are to be the aggressor. I know you feel differently but take a look around you , that way of thinking has been this way for hundreds of years.

    • I actually see the opposite here: girls expecting us to do the whole work. NoTy I don't want to be a servant to those with princess mentalities, I expect an active partner, not a master. Just my preference. No offense.

    • None taken , but good luck. I didn't create these gender roles that's the way it has always been.

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  • I was thinking about fucking her and then disappearing forever. How's that?

  • I think some guys don't want to respond, because they might get hurt. Theirs a lot of women who like to play with guys emotions for maybe a ego boost or their just plain heartless monsters. Maybe that's why guys just want sex from the woman and nothing else.

  • Hmm, regarding number two, should you give negative feedback as well?

    "You know, you really need to file your teeth..."

  • I did that stuff. They are the ones who avoided me...

  • Well said

  • I agree with every single point there , although I am saving sex for marriage but I think what you just said gives more respect to the man and the woman

  • Why can't all men read this!!!

    • I mean its pretty easy to do so a lot it shouldn't be hard to not do it :)

  • Yes good take. I would message her back straight away.

    But firstly in terms of losing one's virginity, how can you approach a female friend who has become single about doing that with her?

    • I'm sure quite sure what you are asking.

    • So if you met a great girl at uni who is taken. You hit it off as you work together and she keeps in touch after graduating. Later on in life, she becomes single. I mean if you're in a social circle/friends/know each other, how do you get into such a situation of having sex? Given that you do the things above normally? :-)

    • *I'm not quite sure what you are asking. Great, you still understood my response :) I think you should touch bases with her every couple of days to see how she is doing, then ask if she's interested in meeting up. Take her somewhere nice and then make advances towards her (example: putting your arm around her). The next time you hang with her, go in for a kiss start touching her intimately. See how far she lets you go. Then eventually, ask if she'd like to go back to your place. Do the advances in parts to see how she reacts. All while still treating her like a lady, text her every so often if she's interested she should be doing the same.

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  • 2. and 3. are BIG NO NO.

    • So you're into one night stands apparently then.

    • No of course not but doing these things inflate women's ego too much. Never do these things.

    • then you're just being a dick, honestly.

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