The Art of Being a Good Tease

That’s something that I discovered maybe a year or so ago by now. I think that most are familiar with being a tease in a different context. Either with the woman making the man chase after her to get a date, or how I was first exposed to it. With a bit of ‘just the tip’, or the guy teasing the woman in bed. I only realized that I can tease him back in a bit of a ‘eureka!’ moment in the midst of my frustration, when he was teasing me in bed.

So, how can you be a good tease?

Well, again, this can be pretty subjective. However, in my months of doing it, I’ve found that there are some things that I’d imagine are for the most part universally appreciated (in the end).

Brush up on your game of "now you see it, now you don't".

Why do men like strip clubs, for example?

That’s a place where what they want is revealed slowly. Keeping them on the edge of their seats. In anticipation of getting more, but leaving them powerless as to how fast they’ll receive that. Time in which I’m sure that most feel free to fantasize about what is slowly but surely being revealed to them

The Art of Being a 'Good Tease'

Likewise, the key to being a good tease to your boyfriend involves building a lot of that excitement before even touching his penis.

My boyfriend, for example, loves when I start kissing him. It could be a makeout or kissing a bit of a trail from his mouth, down his chest towards his penis. Bonus points if you can manage to make contact with your boobs (assuming you’re topless) across his torso and wherever else as you make your way down.

Continue slowly kissing and licking your way down his body.

Feel free to do a "flyby", or completely avoid touching his cock and balls directly, but getting dangerously close before moving away.

Work in some kissing his stomach, his legs, his thighs. Kiss all around his cock until you being to see it twitch.

At this point, it’s still perfectly okay to avoid direct stimulation of his genitals. Get incredibly close before heading back up to give him a passionate kiss on the lips. If he's not begging at this point, then repeat and spend a longer time when you’re close to his genitals before going around.

By the time you do finally make contact, he'll be so ready he will probably feel like he's going to pop. Like he’s willing to do just about anything to get some directly stimulation.

The Art of Being a Good Tease

Once again, you'll want to maintain the slow pace. Just barely licking up and down his shaft and balls, building on that really slowly. Increasing and adding sensation a tiny bit at a time. Run your tongue across his shaft, from the base to the head.

Remember the goal- you’re putting on a real show. Keeping the audience (of one) on the edge of their seats. (pun intended)

When it’s finally time to put your lips around him, start by taking in just the head. Take him in, little by little, until you’re reached your limit.

To be truly evil, feel free to jump a couple of steps back every once in a while. Kind of a two steps forward, one step back sort of thing. For example, after grazing your tongue up and down his shaft a few times give him a light suck and then go back to his body and do a round up to his chest. If you’ve gotten to the point of taking him fully into your mouth, gently suck on the head, draw light circles with your tongue around the corona, then show his balls some love. Back up to a kiss on the lips before returning- you get the drift.

Use your imagination from that point forward and mix it up. Go a little further each time before backing off a bit.

At several points, especially when you start giving little bits of stimulation to his dick, he’ll probably start begging. It could be anything from telling you to ride him or get on your back so that he can do the honours.

The Art of Being a Good Tease
Stay strong, though. Tell him to sit tight. That you’re not done just yet. That you’re enjoying your work so much for now that you’re in no rush to move on.

(Obviously do move on eventually. There’s a difference between being a good tease and blue-balling your man.)

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  • It's only fun if you've given him blue balls once in a while. ;-1 I love teasing my boyfriend to the point we're literally naked, and he's about to put it in and I wiggle away and put on my clothes. I know, I suck, it's the worst-but it makes sex so much more intense when it does happen.

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  • Nice take, teasing is always great, when done right, and it sounds like your defiantly doing it right.

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  • I read through this posting and while I understand the gist of what you're suggesting I don't believe this would work in all cases. I mean, some males don't like a tease; they find them irritating; not frustrating as they are sexually frustrated by it, but actually irritating. I've heard the phrasing, "There's nothing like a good, well planned out, seduction, but given the nature of some males and whether or not they are sexually dominant or aggressive, being a tease, whether you're a good one or not, might potentially backfire on what you're attempting to accomplish in getting the male you're interested in or with... aroused.

    • Anything has the potential to backfire in terms of sexual/romantic activities. Hell, some people don't even like making out or kissing. I never said that everyone will like being teased. There's no harm in simply trying new things.

    • True. As I stated or if it wasn't clear, I agree for the most part in what you're attempting to describe. It was written out well. In general there's no harm in simply trying new things, I'm only pointing out to be careful when you're teasing someone, and to stay safe. That's good advice no matter what you're doing overall, in my view.

    • yesyes, of course. Thankyou. :)

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  • This is a great take! It would certainly work best for a girl who is dominant. A guy who is dominant and likes submissives, would likely prefer to be the one teasing, or ordering the woman what to do if she is teasing. I really like this though. I know all of it already, as I write erotic romance, however, it is hot, and gives good advice!

    • thankyou, though not necessarily regarding the fact that only submissive guys would like being teased like this. My boyfriend, for example, is very dominant, but I wrote this as something that was inspired by what I do to him once in a while. It's safe to say that he definitely loves being teased occasionally so it's not quite as black and white as you seem to think of it.

    • Well, it definitely depends on the type of dominants I agree. There are a lot of switches.

  • Aaaaaannnnd there goes my secret of eating a girl out.

  • damn girl... this shit got me good by just reading it... real pro right there.

  • Lol my guy enjoys being a little rough. So teasing is great only when he allows me to take control lol. But those are the most fun!

  • Interesting. I edge myself for like 15-20 minutes when masturbating. Much better orgasms from that. The only negative is that if this was done with a girl then I would blow in seconds. In other words, we won't get any intercourse. I would be passed out for quite some time before we can get things going again.

    • Have you found a way to get past that? As I never had sex, the one thing I am unsure about it how long I will last. Sure, most women will understand (I've been told), but it has got to feel disappointing too.

    • @GuyWannaHelp I'm a virgin.

    • Fair enough

  • To be an exceptionally talented cock tease, you must torment your hapless victim until he's ready to explode, knowing all the while that he has absolutely no chance whatsoever of getting his dick inside you.

    If you're dating and having sex with another guy regularly, be sure to taunt him repeatedly about that, as well:)

  • I tease my girlfriend better than she teases me but you sound like you would make a great tease 😉 cause this is obviously great advice.

    • thankyou. Give her some time to warm up to the idea- I'm sure she'll improve, slowly but surely. :P

  • I enjoy doing this sort of thing waaaayyy too much...
    Good take!

  • I like this take... I haven't found a woman that is able to do it exactly as you describe, but I know that it would work really well for me 😊

    • haha perhaps for many women, it doesn't click for them that we can be the ones teasing, too. As I wrote above, I didn't realize that it's perfectly fair for the tables to turn until after my boyfriend had been teasing me for several months. No harm in just suggesting the idea to your next lady-friend, either. 👌

    • I agree... I think I will bring it up for sure 😊

  • This myTake is the work of a master who knows exactly what she's talking about. Turned me on just reading it.

    • wow, thank-you. Any sort of such positive reactions are always appreciated. :P

  • Good advice, thank you

  • Instead of typing these types of mytakes, you should do one called "The Art In Cooking and Cleaning. "

    • Dude. I'd expect an insult above gradeschool level, at the very least.

    • @KaylaS91 Have pity on him, I am sure any woman would prefer cooking and cleaning than to go down on him... He is just trying to keep her satisfied.

    • @JuicyBrain I have pity on you, you're 38 and still stupid. I'll pray for your recovery.

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  • Dear!.. I have a huge boner right now!. Amazing my take you brought me to the edge of the seat!.. You teaser..

  • Teasing is awesome!

  • I don't understand this.

    • what do you not understand, specifically?

    • I don't know how to tease a girl. This is about a girl teasing a guy.

    • True. I'll be sure to write another take about the best ways (in my experience, at least) to tease a girl, soon!

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  • i'm a bit too evil because blueballing my lovers was a favourite passtime

    • 😱 lol really? You'd leave them without release overnight?

    • yup haha some were hard for hours straight. i checked every 15 minutes. then i went to sleep. they went to work the next morning.

    • So evil 😱😱😱

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  • Damn this is amazing. If my girlfriend did that to me i would definitely be begging for it or i would just take her there.

  • I think women would appreciate this more than guys would. Most guys just want to get on with it. lol This is what girls hate the most, he fucked me like a bunny and then just fell asleep, didn't even tease me, get me warmed up or let me cum :(

    Am I right?

    • yeah, you're probably right for the most-part. I think most guys like to get the fucking over with asap instinctively but if the woman takes over and makes him wait for it, he'll likely appreciate it. Some guys, will, at least. My boyfriend has told me several times that he likes it when I tease him or ride him because both involve my going at a much slower pace than he'd go at, and being able to enjoy prolonged pleasure and a much stronger orgasm at the end is worth it.

  • That's a form of edging men... Don't like it !! Try just being for real , not everyone like your boyfriend.

    • I am being 100% real and I never said that everyone's like my boyfriend. Don't let your panties get into an even bigger twist.

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