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Why I Wish I'd Been More Sexual In High School

I was happy before that I had waited to have sex until I was in my late teens....Now, it's only been a few years since then but my opinion has changed. I've even found out that guys generally want experienced girls if they're more experienced themselves, but that's just mainly a side point.

I wish that I had done sexual things earlier in high school because I think that would have just made things so much easier! I didn't have to worry about finding more than a part-time job, and eventually totally supporting myself. The boys were everywhere and ready, and sure, they can be immature but so was I. I just wish I had let all that go and just had sex. Or even just make-outs. I wasn't sexual at all really...

Why I Wish I'd Been More Sexual In High School

I know people who have had breakdowns because they couldn't find a job and I feel what that stress is like now too in my own life, for where I live. Or even if they're just looking into options or dealing with college loans, they just have a lot more stress.

Everyone looked really young, and cute and so did I lol! For my age, that's still mostly true....but some signs show. Even if they just have more serious eyes and expressions, things are different now. We all feel the stress no matter what our schedules or lives are. People were more free spirited in highschool too. All of the different kinds of boys and their personalities back then, makes me feel so nostalgic sometimes.

I also can't just see someone every day and whenever I want. And it was more acceptable to take things slow and just explore...I do what I want, but being under 18 and messing around would have been a lot easier. Sure there were parties, but that's not like having your main options for meeting people being clubs. I could have just not taken things seriously. And maybe I would have had drama, but I just wish I'd had the chance to see for myself.

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  • Interesting thoughts.
    I'm still in high school too, and while I wouldn't mind to have sex, there are two main factors that are stopping me:
    a) haven't found the right guy, or just a guy in general lol and I'd rather have sex with someone in a relationship (even though I'm single by choice right now, and don't really have a desire to change this)
    b) there's still very much a stigma about having sex, and considering my social standing, I think it'd very much ruin my reputation if people ever found out. My social group is quite conservative too.
    c) most of the teenage boys I interact with are too immature, and I can hardly sleep with an older guy, let alone date one lol.

    I am a sexual being, there's no denying that, but for now, I'm cool with being a virgin.

    • three main factors* apparently I can't count lmao *sighs*

    • Wanna date babe? Just jking ;) On the serious note when it comes down to point b, screw other people and just do what is the best for you.

    • @YellowCactus Very good advice, which is what I usually try to follow, but it's hard to haha.

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  • please don't think that every guy wants to have an experienced girl. My first time is with the girl i am still with. My first kiss and sexual experience is with her. I LOVE that fact that we both found out together and made the experiance so much more about discovery and yes we made some silly mistakes but there was so much fun about it.

    • Dayum.. you lucky sunovabitch. Kudos, dude.

    • #ThisDudeHere yea man. Its a nightmare out there. I'm glad i found her. I won't let go of her

    • You do that. Good luck with her.

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  • Yeah dude. You totally missed out. High school sex is a lot more surreal and an epic thing than adult sex. First time experiences, newness, and all that. Even after you've racked up some experience, it's still a lot newer than it is when you become an adult. I mean.

    Well, I feel like it wouldn't have been as special if I would have waited until I was an adult. You get more baggage as you age, and you learn to be more defensive and shit. But when you're that young, you just throw everything into it. And yeah. Definitely more opportunities in high school than on the outside. The equivalent would kind of be work, but that's usually discouraged greatly and even then there's not a lot of interconnection between coworkers, not on the same level as high school. I'm right there with you. I wish I would have had more sex in high school.

    Although. Dude. You're 21. I really doubt there are signs of aging on you. I think you might just be seeing things. I'm 26, and people still mistake me for a 16-18 year old. Seriously. I called some contractor a couple weeks ago, the dude gets to the door--a 27 year old guy--and asks me, "Are your parents home?"

    Ahhhhh. Yeah. Puppies. So lovable and stupid and energetic.

    • Really about the parents home thing, I'm only on either end of the spectrum but when I'm serious people think I'm way older than I am. Only when I'm silly/playful do people actually think I'm 19. Amount of times someone's gone how old are you I say 19 and then there's 10 expressions on their face in under 5 seconds.

  • I wanted to be sexual active so bad in my years of high school but I wasn't very pretty until senior year. No one paid attention to me. However, my hair got better, I fixed my eyebrows, I learned how to do my makeup, but overall just puberty, my face and body just got better. Because of this, it was senior year and it felt like I wasn't as interested in fooling around anymore. However, as soon as I got out of high school, people just started to message me and wanted my attention. I was actually pretty now, but I didn't really want to anymore. Timing was just bad for me. I don't know if I regret it. I guess I just take it as it comes.

    • That's so cool! I'm a freshman and I'm still ugly :, D I hope I become pretty in my senior years! Seniors are usually more prettier than juniors as I notice

    • @BlazeCatGirl It takes a while, you mature too which is obviously attractive. The things you do now, will embarrass you later. Your style will change. The way you carry yourself. Your opinions. Your appearance of course. It just takes time. This was me in sophomore year. https://pbs.twimg.com/media/CjLLcJbWUAAV28j.jpg and this is me now https://pbs.twimg.com/media/Cql-Hk9VMAA9lTp.jpg

    • Wow! Great change!!! XD

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  • I wish too but wasn't that lucky.

  • "The boys were everywhere and ready, and sure, they can be immature but so was I." Everybody having sex while immature is a recipe for disaster! You were better off waiting for a bit more maturity.

  • Interesting take. :)

  • well you could go back disguised as a young, 18yr old girl who has to re-take calculus and Shakespear and really do a number on those guys... lol... I'm joking.

    I know your feeling there, I didnt' in HS or college. I think making out would have been fine and dating. But I know way too many broken relationships and people who sufferred terribly by having babies that young, or dated got married and sufferred. Were just too stupid at that age... . No... I don't regret holding off, but it is a tough time and very hormonally charged and wouldn't want to go through it again.

    Be glad you survived it:)

  • Lol. I wish i wasn't active in high school. Why? Because the hand full of people i know who waited later in life or for marriage are emotionally and mentally more stable. Seriously!

  • You have a point, and from a guy point of view there was much less gold diggers during that time, even though there was slut plenty of sluts, but sluts was not for me, even back then, even at the time that I didn't fully realise just how much I dislike sluts. Anyway I was really not interesting in at relationship time, and it's kinda miss, because there was much easier to find pure girl at this time, for a serious relationship.

    • How aren't guys grossed out by going down on sluts?

    • I have no idea, it's really repulsive, but then again, I am not into going down on girls in the first place, so it's not bother me too much, but even putting a dick into an dirty slut is quite disturbing.

  • I don't. So many of the teens at my school had STD's every time the school hosted a blood drive they had to dump half the batch. Plus all that drama so not worth the hype.

  • Eh I don't wish I was more sexual in high school

    • Why is that?

  • I must disagree. There are many diverse socioeconomic groups in high school. The ones that screw around are a low class group. You may think that it would've been cool but you said yourself from dropping into a pile of feces. I attended a high school that formally had a great reputation but by the time I got there it was dirt. Everybody was doing whatever they wanted and nobody was studying. I left after two years. One must get older and mature in order to understand the force that sexual activity has on your emotional state and psychologic makeup. Sex is not for kids

    • I don't totally agree but is your profile pic real? Your makeup and hair is badass if that's you.

    • Yes that is me.. Makeup and hair done by a professional. Not by me. I wish I could do that.

    • In my opinion, if I had no makeup on like when I wake up in the morning, I look like a pig pig really a pig. Blessed with a nice figure I choose to pay extra for a professional makeup artist if I do modeling shots. It is little known that the model pays for the makeup artist. But nobody wants to see a nice body with the head of a pig. lmao

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  • I went to an all boys high school, but still enjoyed fun with others, teen boys may be immature, but they do cumm a lot! I have always been bi!

  • It actually sounds more like you should rethink your early 20s if this is the stage you're at.

  • You're getting some pretty interesting answers to your mytake. My two cents are that I would also want to be able to screw around while young (but I can't even though I'm still in high school), because that's when you feel your best, look your best, and when you have the most time on your hands to do so. However the drama and some consequences of doing so as a teen are definitely things to keep in mind.

  • Naw, never regret, just live for today. Look forward, not back.
    High school was just SO juvenile. Foggedaboudit!

  • men don't want more experienced women for serious relationships.

    • You say this a lot, but it's like I told you b4... young people don't really want marriage yet anyway. But yes, the older people love experience generally.

    • Thats plain and simply wrong. It goes through all ages that men who look for serious, long-term relationships do prefer girls with a low partner-count. Additionally the only guys who prefer girls with higher partner-counts are those who are manwhores themselves.

    • @FakeName123 IRL no one asks about partner count

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  • Its so easy in HS. All I had to do is wear a skirt and heels and guys would lose their minds.

    • So what would you say is the difference when it comes to sex in HS vs College?

    • @YellowCactus colege guys aren't as thirsty

  • I didn't have sex for the first time until I was 20 and going into my junior year of college. Guys won't care. If they do then they suck and need someone to guide them.

  • Yeah me too. But you can't turn back time. You have the cards that you have now. You are young, this is the best time to play. Some of us get to 30 and wish we used our 20's better.

    • How would you use your 20's better? Just out of curiosity.

  • Hm, I'm still in high school. I am still a virgin, but I do masturbate and watch porn. I hope to have sex one day with a trusted guy. I don't think it matters really. :) I think lots of guys like inexperienced girls in bed. Everything happens for a reason.

    • Yeah a lot of inexperienced guys are more comfortable with an inexperienced woman. I didn't have sex for the first time until after high school, and I was more comfortable with a woman who was also not experienced at the time.

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