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11 Questions Asexuals are Tired of Answering

What is asexuality?

Questions Asexuals are Tired of Answering

It's a sexual orientation which means that a person feels no sexual attraction to any gender. Sex may seem disgusting or unnecessary for them. But that doesn't mean that asexual people don't fall in love.

Most common questions asexuals are tired of answering.

11 Questions Asexuals are Tired of Answering

1. Asexual? What is it?

2. It's not real, is it?

3. Is it an illness?

4. So, don't you have sex?

5. Is it something religious?

6. How come you don't like sex? It's wonderful.

7. Is it something that changes by time?

8. Why don't you try?

9. How can you know it without even trying?

10. Are you like a robot?

11. How can you have a romantic relationship without having sex?

And it goes on...

11 Questions Asexuals are Tired of Answering
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  • Im not asexual but i can get why these questions would be annoying AF. Most of them are common sense if you ask me.

Most Helpful Guy

  • Lately I've been wondering if I'm asexual but it could be depression. Perhaps the two are related.

    • They can coexist, but they are not direct related.

    • Note that asexuality isn't necessarily the lack of a sex drive, but rather just the lack of being sexually attracted to other people.

    • @shessoheavy depression can cause a disinterest in life, in sex too thus.

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  • Thank you @damnwinter!!! We don't understand what you're talking about just because you added a random letter to the end of LGBT. It's wicked confusing, and we ask questions to get clarification. If you don't want people to ask you questions, stop bringing up things we don't understand. I'm a virgin saving myself for marriage for religious reasons. Someone would probably ask me why I was doing that, why I don't like sex, how can you know you love someone without sex? That's not offensive. That's trying to understand someone else's perspective.

    • Eeeeeexactly. And sure it can get annoying I will give them that, can't deny it. However it is a step we must take in order to achieve true equality and acceptance. And I bet it is more efficient than pride parades.

  • 12. Have you had your hormones checked? 🙄

    • Oh god I've heard that so many times

  • Ugh. So when is romantic feelings considered a sexual orientation vs being human? If you have no sex drive you need to do two things see a doctor and psychologist.
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    • Asexuality has nothing to do with sex drive, it is a lack of sexual attraction. They are two different things

    • @shessoheavy they are the same thing. lol you should have learned that in sex ed. It means your hormones are off and an endocrinologist can help them

    • Um no, sorry to tell you. Say there is the sexiest person on earth, right. Say you fuck them 5 times straight, how bad do you want to get your rocks off afterward? Are they still the sexiest person on earth? Sex drive or libido is the urge to climax. You can still have a libido and be asexual, you can have a low or no libido and not be asexual. When you are asexual, no one is sexy; that says nothing about your libido

  • Are you robot and/or are you undead is an very fitting thing to ask an asexual. :)

    • Well ask this one that, 👂

  • What about the question "are you romantic or aromantic?"

    • That would actually be a pretty good question, it's pretty informed

    • @shessoheavy thanks

  • So instead of posting the annoying questions, why not try to actually be helpful and answer them too? Sure it may seem like a stupid thing to do, but I am damn tired of hearing the LGBTQA (fill in with as many letters of the alphabet as you like) complaining all the time about 'stupid offensive questions', I mean damnit, the rest of the people just want to know you better and understand what you are like! These auestions are sometimes stupid, but answering them helps. This kind of attitude will only create distance between different types of people. It will not help us get along. Who would even try after being finger pointed and labeled as annoying or dumb just because they asked some questions? Communication - that is the key.

    • It depends, I am asexual. I think you have a good point. However, oftentimes when someone is questioning us is it is not coming from a prospective of potential or attempted understanding. But, rather an attempt to invalidate us

    • @shessoheavy I am bisexual (and I know members of the LGBTQA don't think that's an issue for anybody, that's cool, I myself am not much of a complainer on this level). I know that some of the questions may be interpreted this way, but it is really mostly tactless people who truly are just curious. Since these sexual orientations/various gender identifications were taboo and still are on a certain level nowadays, it is only natural that we would be sometimes subjected to questions that straight people don't have to answer - cause really now, nothing about being straight is a mystery. So it does not make sense to compare ourselves with straights like this and expect to be treated as if there were nothing curious or new about us that intrigues people. It is just a phase, as things get normalized it will pass. But only answering the damn questions will actually help.

    • I agree, but if someone asks me if I am a plant... I am going to laugh in their face, I don't think I can help it. Actually has happened before, 😂

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  • Very good take, what you say about Asexuality is roughly my view of it. There is a gap there between a very close friendship and a physical relationship that needs to be described in society and that is asexuality - In extreme logic terms it is like saying there is no such thing as mixed race, you are either one race or the other.

  • Do asexuals masturbate and if they do it, what do they think about?
    Do asexuals have wet dreams?

    • Some fo and some dont when it comes to wet dreams ı dont know it

    • what do they think about?

    • I have had one wet dream, and it was before I ever masturbated. I think about about gender taboos being broken, which for me does not involve sex or nudity. But everyone is different.

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  • @ASEXY approves 👍

    • True

  • These questions are annoying and they usually come out of people who don't know anything about the subject. I usually would let them know it's an ignorant question.
    How to answer...
    1. It's someone who doesn't experience sexual attraction, sexual feelings and sexual desires.
    2. It's real just like any other orientation.
    3. It's not an illness. It doesn't cause distress and impairment...
    4. That's none of your business or yes I do, but it's to satisfy my partner. Or no I have no reason/desire to have sex.
    5. No it has nothing to do with religion.
    6. What's wonderful to you is not wonderful to someone else.
    7. It's something that does NOT change. Does your sexual orientation change?
    8. It's because I don't want to.
    9. I have no desire to try it out and I know for a fact I wouldn't like it. How do you know you don't like gay/straight sex if you never tried it out?
    10. I'm not a robot. I have feelings too but I just don't have sexual feelings and that doesn't make me less human.
    11. Im aromantic and I don't want a romantic relationship. A romantic relationship doesn't necessarily need to involve sex.

    More questions...
    Have you got your hormones checked? (It doesn't have anything to do with hormones)
    Do you masturbate? (That's personal)
    Are you secretly gay? (Again it's that gay or straight logic... Asexuality is not homosexuality. In most cases, people don't claim to be asexual when they are secretly gay. Gay people know they are gay but they deny that they are. Asexuals have wondered if they are gay when they know they're not because of how society portrays sexual orientation and thinks that gay people might not know they're gay. Asexuality means no sexual attraction. It's not the denial of homosexuality and it's not the repression of sexual attraction to the same sex...)
    You mean you are celibate? (Celibacy is a choice but asexuality is not)
    What does it have to be LGBT+? (It's because we are oppressed but not in the same gays and bisexuals are.)
    Did you have a bad experience or were you raped? (Sexual orientation has nothing to do with rape and bad experiences...)
    You think you're special? (Sexual orientation doesn't correlate to people thinking they are special. This question further marginalizes and oppresses asexual people. We are not asexual just because we think we're special or trying to be and vice versa.)
    Who cares that you are asexual? (This is aphobic. That question encourages asexuals to stay in the closet.

    • Asexuals don't think you care but we care. We want people to know we exist. We hate being invisible. We don't want the people we know to assume we are gay or straight) There's also a bunch of other horrible things people say to asexuals. Some of these questions are offensive and some are not. Some are ignorant and some are informed. Aphobia exists whether we like to admit or not.

    • And yes we have every right to feel tired answering them. Inform yourself before you ask us questions.

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  • And where are the answers to these questions?

  • well dne

  • thats true

  • I think explaining some of the myths would have helped in this mytake

  • Sure, love without sex exist, it's called unrequited love, not asexuality.

    • Unrequited love is one sided love

    • @jacquesvol Yes, that's why it's so sad.

    • I've learned that the hard way.

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  • This is quite common in women , but very rare in men , so a big gender imbalance. Most men would love an OFF / DELETE button for their typically far stronger than female libido's. Men need a safe , but effective sex drive killer , that does not impede the male drive to get things done. Most women would be happy too , no more being pestered by " disgusting , pervy , rapey " men !!

    • Asexual male and proud. 💜✊🏻💜

    • @shessoheavy... and very fortunate too !!

    • 😂 depends on what aspect. The grass is never greener on the other side

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