I don't think I would actually ever cheat on someone, but it is a tempting idea to me. I like it because...it seems to be the ultimate taboo. It's like the ultimate NO. It's irresistible. I do think cheaters definitely come off as really selfish but I admire them in a way. Just a little. Because they did the ultimate. The ultimate betrayal. The ultimate lie. The ultimate heartbreak. Even if it's cruel, they still did it. Knowing everyone would hate them, I think you honestly have to be pretty tough to be able to do that. Or drunk and selfish but still, to not care that much about how other people feel, it's interesting.
I have people like this in my family, and I do not get why they're so stable. Like instead of being shattered when someone dislikes or hates them, they just do not care. And I don't mean that they hide their hurt; they'll just laugh at the person or insult them, and feel like 'if anything how dare the person insult them?'
I've always envied that. So, after reading the comments from people talking about how awful cheaters are, I just started remembering all of that. I'm not saying it's right to hurt people. Just that cheaters may not be awful. Or if they are, that may not matter. Lots of their partners want them back, and the people like that in my family get plenty of respect from everyone even if they have horrible reps.
People insulting you, breaking the rules, but not caring...it may not be the cheaters who suffer the most but their ex partners. Like it's not breaking the rules that hurts you but taking them so seriously that does. Because when things finally fail, it's the people who can't handle that trust or just the established rules being broken who are hurt the most. Not the people who get insulted or who do the rule breaking, and that's so interesting to me.
Like even writing this was a bit hard because I can imagine the comments and stories people will share but I wanted to share my perspective, too. I like not having to always make things so...like appeasing to the people who read it you know?
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