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How to Pick Up Women: 15 Golden "Rules"

How to Pick Up Women: 15 Golden "Rules"

15. Spend money.

Notice how this isn't that high up on the list, but, it still makes the list. The homeless obviously have no shot with women, but, you don't necessarily need to be Donald Trump (making millions) to get a woman...they just want to know that they will be secure with you EVEN if they themselves are making their own money.

14. Even if you don't have a good job, lie.

I'm not advocating that being a liar is a good thing butttt confidence is still sexy to a woman. She'd rather see a man with aspirations than one who just says "no, I don't have a job/good job".

13. Pay attention.

She listens to you and your WOW video game stories, you can listen to her about why she had a bad day at work. That's how relationships work

12. Make eye contact.

Stop staring at her breasts, it's rude. She'll feel more respect with eye contact

How to Pick Up Women: 15 Golden "Rules"

11. Don't waste your time on a woman who's clearly not interested.

Put aside your ego for the amount of women you can get to like you. In the end, you're just wasting your time..and she's not getting any younger either

10. Like what she likes.

Even if it means to fake it, show interest in what she likes..she'll do it with you, IF SHE'S INTERESTED IN YOU

How to Pick Up Women: 15 Golden "Rules"

9. Be Unique.

"Hey baby, look at my dick" isn't going to get you anywhere serious with a GOOD girl. If you want to be with a girl, don't follow the crowd.

8. Don't be needy.

Women are usually the needy ones. Don't ask why. So, don't be needy. Just don't do it. It's not attractive to women.

7. Humor.

Now, people have different kinds of humor, I get that but, if she's not laughing, try something else. Women like a guy who can make them laugh, so, if it's not working, try something else, or move on to someone new

6. Cockiness isn't attractive.

Confidence is sexy, cockiness isn't. There is a difference!

5. Be persistent.

This is a dangerous one, butttt still a good one. Women often ask why men try doing things with her, even after she's said no. She's most likely playing hard to get, something women like to do, to see if you're truly interested in HER or just a lay. So, if you're truly in to her, it's OK to keep trying but, at the same time, know when it's time to stop because rape and murder will always be on her mind. Proceed with caution, yellow light

How to Pick Up Women: 15 Golden "Rules"

4. Ask her to go somewhere else.

Interested women, won't mind leaving where they are, to go with a man, even if it's just for a lay. However, if she's picking up rape/murder vibes from you, she has every right to say no.

3. Light touching is OK.

Some women, aren't comfortable with touching right away but, most are, and they'll let you know through body signals, that they want it. But, do not grope her, leave that for the bedroom, or later on in the relationship (if she's into kinky stuff that is). Touching her breasts, her crotch, or her butt, when meeting her or even on a first date, is usually a no no, unless otherwise noted. (I met a girl I wound up working with for a little bit, and one day she asked another one of my coworkers, if he wanted to slap her ass because he was separated from his wife (he broke it off with her) he turned her down, because he didn't feel right about it, but i said "I'd like to", so, she stuck it out there, and I did. I asked my coworker why she let me, and he told me "she likes you"). Needless to say, we both don't work for the company anymore, and I no longer see her (the ass slap, had nothing to do with either)

How to Pick Up Women: 15 Golden "Rules"

2. Act like you've been here before.

If you haven't had much success with women in general, fake it. She's more attracted to confidence, than reality

1. Don't apologize for who you are.

You are who you are. She'd rather have a parents house dwelling, no job working, physically handicapped person, than someone who's ashamed of who he is. Show her you're still proud of being you, even if life has dealt you the joker card

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Most Helpful Guy

  • 15. I need proof she's interested, before I'll dole out big bucks. I have a bottom line and a narrow window.

    14. And many will pretend to like your aspiration. Until you find out via eavesdropping that they're full of it, and think less of you for having one that doesn't matter to them. Of course, even if you casually catch and overhear one day without meaning to, you're a "mean stalker" for finding out that she was pulling your leg!

    13. I do try to pay attention. But if the airwaves are clear for too long and I'm simply not hearing anything, why waste time? I can't read thoughts, you know!

    12. They seem to hate me even if I look into her eyes. Apparently, I have to be staring at that random object in the corner, or else they're "not comfortable."

    11. Like I said: many will pretend to be. But I eventually find out if they're being dishonest. And if they convince me to cut them loose... well, they shouldn't come back looking for favors later.

    10. I'm not gonna lie. If I have zero passion for it, I can't force it. I can try to show some interest in what matters to her, if there is some common ground. But I can't force everything.

    9. I am unique. And declared a "weirdo" for it. Then, I see her with the guy who tells her to look at his dick. Acting amused. Check please.

    8. I do need to hear from her at least once a month. You know... to be certain she still has a pulse? Why date a ghost?

    7. And then... the joke was on me.

    6. Not a problem.

    5. After a week, I drop a line, to make sure she still has a pulse. I get a tirade about how I'm "running every aspect of her life." None of it makes sense, since I barely said a word to her last time or this time. And most certainly didn't dictate jack to her. Check please.

    4. Or anywhere at all. And then she writes cryptic allegations about me to my parents that I can readily disprove with paystubs.

    3. If it gets past the five-ing stage, I'm off to a good start.

    2. This is the hard one. I have been through the game before. Enough to start immediately being suspicious of her, and checking for con games.

    1. I don't apologize for who I am, or my positions. Then again, many of them betray gross prejudices about what those positions are - and don't like when I correct them on their straw.

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  • There are a few I disagree with, but overall, solid take.

    15. Spend money. – Not necessary, at all.
    14. Even if you don't have a good job, lie. - Don’t lie. Ambition in my opinion, is much more important than lying about having a good job.
    10. Like what she likes. - Show interest, but if you absolutely hate something or several things she loves, well, there’s not much point in bullshitting that.
    5. Be persistent. - Just don’t be a creep, remember no does mean no.
    2. Act like you've been here before. - Fake the confidence part, sure, but don’t lie about experience and that sort of thing. I value the truth far too much over how much experience you want me to think you’ve had.

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  • This myTake is realistic. However, Number 15 is not a prerequisite but rather a choice; spending money for someone dear to you is inevitable but don't try hard to cater to ALL of her wants, otherwise you'll be her bank and not her lover.

    I think you meant Number 14 to being goal-oriented than fabricating lies.

    Number 11 is spot on! Don't waste money either on girls who display interest lesser than what you display.

    Other ones are fine as they are. Good job, nevertheless!

    • Finally someone who appreciates what I know

    • At the age of 16 money isn't so important, but dating when you begin to get older money and your financial status play a large part in attraction.

  • A lot of these are great, but I have to disagree with a few.

    15. Spend money.
    It's true that you will have more options for fun activities if you are willing to spend a little, but don't make the mistake of thinking that you have to throw money around in order to date. You can get away with spending very little or even nothing, especially if you're young and not yet financially established.

    14. Even if you don't have a good job, lie.
    No. No. Just no. Go ahead and portray your real situation in as flattering a light as you can, like you would at a job interview for instance. But actual lying will get you nowhere. After all, what happens if you develop a relationship? She'll find out the truth, and she'll know you lied.

    10. Like what she likes.
    Being willing to compromise and respect differences of preference and opinion will get you far. But don't pretend to like something if you really can't stand it. Again, what happens if you develop a relationship? Do you want to have to fake those preferences indefinitely? You don't have to like all the same things in order to get along.

    8. Don't be needy.
    Everyone has needs, regardless of their gender. Nobody wants an excessively clingy partner, but that doesn't mean you can't be vulnerable when you need to be.

    5. Be persistent.
    Women like to feel wanted, so if she's on the fence about you, showing that you really care about her can help. But if she's really truly not interested, bugging her won't help, so try to be perceptive. It has nothing to do with rape or murder, you just don't want to waste your time.

    3. Light touching is OK.
    Just follow basic norms, move gradually, and try to gauge her interest level. Random groping on a first date is obviously a no-no, but that doesn't mean you can't touch her if things have moved in that direction naturally.

    2. Act like you've been here before.
    Confidence is great, but there's no need to act like you've slept around.

    • ** I agree with this** Specially like what she likes, there's no need to adapt your personal preferences to hers, instead why not be your truest self and give a try.. authenticity its underrated. I've seen a lot of guys saying for everything "me too, I agree.. etc" Its nice to know they are trying yet actually disagreeing its healthy to understand each person's different and can complement.

  • Sounds like a good plan.

  • I donno, I find a lot of cocky guys really funny.

  • All pretty good except 11 and 5 seem to be at odds with one another.

  • 4 Ways to Pick Up Women

    1. With the smaller ones, I can usually get them with my hands on their hips.
    2. If taller/heavier, might have to bear hug them under the arms to get their feet off the ground.
    3. Can always go the bide over the threshold /fireman carry route
    4. Or, my personal favorite, by the bum.

    Now what we need is a list of how to keep them from squirming away, the feisty little things.

    • lol, this made me laugh, i needed that

  • That's not bad, but not in the right order.

    Rather than #15 at "spend money", it should be #1 with "have money".

    #14 may work for the pickup, but really, don't lie.

    • No, money isn't as important as you think

    • That's funny, because I am rich and have dated actresses, models, doctors, and lawyers. How many women have you dated that you can see on tv, on the stage of beauty pageants, or in magazines (and I don't mean x-rated ones, although one girl I slept with later did do an adult video)? Anyone who doesn't have money can get someone, but there are someones who are not accessible to those without money. I will also point out that at my age, the average age of the women I date is 23.

    • I don't live in L. A. (location is obviously everything)

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  • I very much agree with 2! A guy doesn't get much of anywhere in the dating world, if he comes off as hesitant and not in command of what to do in various situations.

    "Fake it till you make it" is a really useful strategy here!

  • I like this myTake a lot.

    Even though I agree that ~most~ items on your list are relevant, I personally feel #11 should be at the top of the list.

  • 15. That's like all that matters
    14. No, I rather keep myself honest and I expect an honest relationship in return
    13. True
    12. Yeap
    11. Absolutely!
    10. See point 14, however I would not refuse spending time with her doing her favorite activities
    9. I already am
    7. I have
    6. I know but cocky guys still get women and laid. How come?
    3. Hmmm
    2. Refer to point 14
    1. I am who I am and I always will be.

    But hey, who the hell am I to contribute to this when I never had a girlfriend in my life? :> hehehe

  • What a great simple, straight forward helpful and informative take!
    Thanks for the read! Most guys know this but it's good to be reminded

  • Some of them are good, others I dissaprove. It´s practically imposible to make an exact guide to pick up women. For example a Chinese woman might not respond equal to a Latin American woman, when it´s come to flirting, however there are universal standards you point out well, like: pay attention, like what she likes (not all the time in my opinion), be unique or be yourself, don´t be needy, humor (very important), don´t apologize for who you are, make eye contact. Very interesting post by the way.

  • Being respectfully assertive is a key by saying how you feel and what you desire.

  • I like most of the stuff, highly agree with 11 and 3.
    Good myTake.
    This one was written by a man.

    • I disagree with like what she likes. I will respect, accept and participate in what she likes, but I don't have to like it. She doesn't either.

  • right

  • good advice

  • -lie about your job
    -don't apologize for who you are.
    Contradiction

  • good one

  • This shit is retarded fam.

    Wanna know how to pick up women? Here it is in 1 step:

    1. Don't be an autist.

    That's all there is too it. Why the fuck do so many millennials these days try to complicate picking up chicks? I swear, 'men' are getting more and more pussified.

    • ok grandpa. I'll go ahead and stop my autism. Thanks for the hint.

    • And this my friends, is why you don't have a girlfriend..

  • 1) i won't give a cent for a woman.
    2) the rest are just bullshit trying to change who i am and make me put on a facade. so... no!

    • Then you're bout to be single the rest of your life

    • oh please tell me this is true. you made my day.

    • vagina is no prize to be paid for you moron.

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