Way of the Alpha Introvert

It's occurred to me recently that a lot of advice for males is geared towards extroverted personalities. It's written by extroverts and while almost everyone receives it, it's extroverted men that tend to get the most out of it because they automatically feel natural to it. For them, it's more of an "Ahh, yes. That's brilliant!" It's a realization of what works by someone more observant and self aware than themselves but no less outgoing.

And of course there's the determined introverted men who will break through any walls to reach the promised land of social acceptance from women. And they won't be wrong to have done so insofar as

being extroverted works for everyone to an extent

seeing as sexual and romantic relationships are in fact social relationships. But the question is will all men experience the same success? Or will some naturally outgoing men tend to excel way further. Will introverted men constantly have to push themselves and even then never fully be able to do things like tease her, ignore her, touch her, make her laugh, make her horny, etc etc that a man who genuinely loves being around people...all people will? No, I don't think so.

So why then are those introverted guys being ignored? More so than the fact that girls claim to love outgoing guys more on average is the fact that not many really know who and how the mysterious man does what he does anymore. We've arrived at an outgoing age where extroversion equates to self esteem. And yet, like in all things, sometimes when everyone goes left it might be a good idea for you to go right.

1) Introverts read a ton and should be confident with how much stuff they know

"My mind needs books like your sword needs a whetstone."

The truth is brilliance is incredibly sexy to both genders. But just as some men nearly kill themselves in the gym or out on the field, a man who is capable of being brilliant has to push his mind past where he thought it go constantly. People who don't read or don't read often can't even fathom just how much incredible information is out there. Yet, if you are an introvert the chances are that you can knock down a book in three days or less. There is seemingly no limit to the amount of information your mind can hold and from it you can discover true beauty only observable within the mind's eye. It is something others can't do but would often like to. Personally, I've founded the stereotypical air headed blonde is more entranced with mental brilliance than a nerdy girl one would actually consider smart. This is because we all on some level are curious about what it would like to be someone else. The reason i believe you don't see beauty and brains until later in life when the brains have amassed wealth is not because the hot woman needed this wealth to be attracted but the wealth helped the guy realize his worth. He could have realized it without it. Brilliance is sexy.

2) Introverts aren't as plugged into group think and ended up being a lot more one of a kind

An introvert a lot of times simply doesn't know what everyone is talking about. They don't really get on instagram or twitter. They don't learn through osmosis of society even if they're rather young. As such, the information they do learn is often unique and even many times better than what the group has learned. Furthermore, you know yourself your values your preferences you interests. This is not because your a deity of self esteem and groundness its because you literally don't know what everyone else is into enough to copy them. Most men simply want nothing or what whatever everyone else wants. They haven't spent time with themselves only with others. You are very very different and that can be very very sexy.

3) Mysteriousness comes very naturally to an introvert

An introvert thinks of seduction like a mystery novel. Sure, he does this because simply walking up to the girl and making it plain doesn't occur to him but the fact is the way he approaches women is very mysterious. He'll catch glances here and there of her from across the room. He'll be nice but not too nice as if something else has his interest. He'll do things like talk to another girl to not make it seem like he's into the first girl. In other words, seduction to an introvert is all about indirectness. The direct guy is a movie cliche and in as the rape count climbs higher and higher in the world, women appreciate a man who's not in her face from jump. More important than this, though, is that being mysterious around her makes her question herself. It makes the mysterious guy a challenge and is the most effective way of "flipping the script" in a good way because women enjoy the challenge of figuring whether they're worthy of the hard to figure out man. Many women will even readily admit that they find themselves having sex with guys who give them little attention. They claim its a love of challenge we sense it might be some underlying issues related to a too busy father. In any case, an introvert should recognize himself to be a naturally mysterious person. He should realize the path of the mysterious alpha is incredibly natural to him and doesn't require a whole new skill set. He only needs to realize that his natural personality is pretty damn sexy to women and stop feeling bad about not being the drunk life of the party.

Way of the Alpha Introvert

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