Sexual Relationships 
Sexual Health 
Or better an erotically deprived era. I will explain my thesis.
In this epoch sex has been isolated, and is perceived as a mechanistic, pistoning process, that people have to "technically master". This idea, although it seems modern, it has its roots in the scholastic theology of Augustine of hippo, that formed western thought and society to a great degree. And even further back, in a Platonic dualism. At that point ancient greek thought had degenerated and introduced the concept of the dualistic perception of the human being. Where soul was something sacred and divine, and the body a nuisanse, something filthy we have to get rid off to reach salvation and enlightment. While most secular thinkers today, blame that paradigm shift on the christian church, in fact it began way before, at least 5 centuries before to be precise.
In the original old testament theological view of the body, it was something as sacred as the soul and there was no dichotomising distinction. they were interwined parts of the whole being called human. But Paul, the basic founder of modern church, despite being an enlighted man, couldnt completely overlook his influence of the neoplatonic then greek thought and upbringing he had received. So in his writings he mixed the original pure ancient hebrew theological cosmotheory with the dualistic greek philosophy of that time.
Which indirectly gave birth to many heresies during the following centuries like the ones that were completely rough and aggressive towards the body as a supposed means to expiation for example. In a colourful antithesis, but not lacking in equally potent toxicity, we have the sex ed in schools of today, were kids are passionately being preached to the mechanistic ways of "love" and its deeply imprinted in them, this idea of one dimensional affection between female and male energies; accompanied with the endless media that happily enhance and promote this notion.
This dualism, deeply shaped and influenced western civilization as a whole and it permeated every realm of thought and practice. This manichaeistic view of the world is greately responsible for the psychopathology of our modern reality. You will ask, how can you claim in the title we are sexually or erotically deprived today? When in fact its the most "liberated" and democratic era humanity has known for the last centuries? In the victorian era there was an extreme form of puritanism where every act of intimacy was considered an utter abomination.
In fact the sexual liberation we witness today is just the other side of the same coin of pathology. In the one case, the body is considered unholy and dirty and it should be repressed at all costs. At the other, sexual liberation is preached and used indiscreetely, satisfying the most basic human instincts just for the shake of it, but while being cut from love and affection. In both cases, this dualism of spirit and body is prevailing. Both supressing the need for connection with a nother human being at the deepest most meaingful level. And using on the first case abstinence of all forms of affection, and on the later the mechanistic individualistic form of it as a drug. Thus they are one and the same poison. a drug to numb our consciousness to avoid going to the next level, to sedate our deeper and most dominant fear. That of being exposed. Of seeing deep in us, and discover the things that truly lie there, which are common not very pretty, and being exposed to all the risks and dangers opening your heart completely to another human being has.
Thus we have reached at a point, where people can practice sex, and only care for their "athletic performance". Thats why in the most oversexualised era ever, we have the most cases of errectile dysfunction as well. People experiencing such a spiritual void today, usually result to the mechanistic form of love for the following reasons:
-To fill their inner void.
-To feel desired and important
-To present to their mates they are potent stallions (that mainly happens to men).
-To rebel against their restricting parents
-Due to peer pressure
-To kill boredom
-To gain confidence
-To feel feminine or masculine. Some women go as far as to get pregnant to validate this womanly side in them. Cause we are not silly enough to believe especially these girls coming from rich households who are more than adequately educated in "sex-ed", and are more than encouraged to induldge by their "open minded liberal cycles", that do it accidentally. Men can also iduldge in this, especially those that have doubts about their sexuality and want to confirm their masculinity, and whats the higher perceived form of that if not impregnating a woman?
-To win things and manipulate people
-To forget the most inevitable tragedy of our existence. Death. Modern "civilised" humans have complete aversion when talking over the matter of death and its almost tabboo. why trouble their minds with its remembrance when they can numb this feeling with sex? They can sometimes pretend they have philosophically overcome that fear with a certain dose of cynicism throwing a black joke or two if needed, but they are laughing noone else but themselves. The deep existential worry and void is still there. And sometimes as they come closer to the age of death, the mechanistic sexual frenzy goes through a resurgence.
Thus i firmly believe we live in an a potentially even more deprived era than the victorian celibacy or the puritanism of the 50s. Deprived of feelings, sacrifice, love and true connection. An era were love is reduced to a mechanistic pistoning process being rated at sites that make their bread out of its sellout. Under that light its understood how phenomena are possible like young couples claiming "we have sex and we feel nothing. it does nothing to us.".
How deeper, more meaningful connections will occur again? When love gets out from the deep freezer. When we remember who we are again, and remember our healthy, original mindset and cosmotheory. Where we will first teach kids to love and then to pursuit relationships. When we create kids as fruits of love amongst two spiritual and unconditionally loving complete individuals, and not as a sad byproduct of a drunken night. A poet once put in his theatrical play the son a sailor conceived in such a way in a sinful drunken night qith a random woman, as the one who murders him later on. To illustrate in a lyrical way exactly this truth. That kids should be fruits of deep love and responsible decision, not accidents of consciousness numbing humans.
And our ideas of what love is really need to be broadened. You can't love a human if you can't love such a trivial thing as an inanimate pencil or a tree. He who loves, practices loving thinking towards all creatures and things in the universe. And sees them all as gifts. You can't be filled with vengefulness and hatred and expect to include a human in your life in a proactive way. Remember, you become a human, you are not born one.
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