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Why I Won't Have Sex

The Gossiping

From guys. Or friends. I keep my sex life and interests private for the most part. It's my preference. But people expect you to share your sex life and especially stories about fucking. The guys I mess with could lie and say we did have sex, or could just gossip anyway with their friends. Who knows. But I know that it's not true, so I'm happy. I like staying out of the loop.

Why I Won't Have Sex

The STDs

I can't stand the idea of catching them. You can catch them from lots of sex acts, but intercourse has the highest risk. I can't stand the idea of him fucking other people and then fucking me, and then either or both of them had STDs, so I get double the risk. We could be exclusive, but lots of people fuck until the last minute before they're exclusive, so they could still have caught something.

The Work

He has to last long (if he cares enough to or is able), I have to know how to ride on top (if he likes it, and many guys do). He has to know how to do so many different things, and I'd have to learn things too. Orgasms can be complicated and require foreplay...I feel like why not just skip the middleman which is intercourse, and just make myself cum. Sex can have a lot of stress. I've heard people say that one reason having sex with someone you love is awesome isn't just about emotions. It's about the fact that you don't have to be stressed or self conscious.

I don't have sex because I like to relax and have less or no pressure. So instead I do grinding, dry humping/fucking, or oral sometimes.

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Most Helpful Guy

  • The gossip- most/many of us don't at all. Or we may tell a friend if we did or not, but it's not like we post it to social media. I would say girls gossip and get down to more nitty gritty than guys. The work - are you not willing to do any? It can be stressful and have pressure on both sides. I guess I agree with this one the most, but it's an ostrich strategy. You have to take your head out of the sand eventually, may as well learn how to do it sooner than later. STDs- be safe and you will likely stay clean.. partnof being safe is no or infrequent casual sex, and only hooking up with friends or partners you know well. Any adult is going to expect and look for sex as partnof the bonding process. It sounds like you want your cake and eat it too. Learn to relax and enjoy it!

Most Helpful Girl

  • I highly agree with the overall premise of the myTake. These are just things others refuse to consider before becoming active for the very first time or participating in other sexual acts. This is why it's best to watch who your friends with and keep things like this very private. It is not everybody's business.

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  • Gossip: this is also true for office/workplace sex. People would eventually find out and the news would spread fast down to every single person working there, so it just doesn't happen.

    Work: he should do all the work to satisfy you, if he doesn't he's not worth having. Learning how to do things shouldn't exactly be stressful, but the opposite.

  • well thats up 2 you it's your body and you have the right to not have sex just as much as i have the right to have sex no judgments.

    but at the same time the thing about having sex with someone you is amazing i have been with the same guy going on 8 years. and their is this way that he looks at me right before we have sex and he gets this cute smile on his that just makes me melt. it's a closeness that i only fill with him thatis expressed through the act of sex. so sex is not all bad you know.

  • I think you may be dating the wrong guys or swimming in the shallow end of the gene pool. I have never bragged about conquest. The only person who ever knows how I felt about it is the girl I made love to.

  • Do what you want but you're missing out.

    • Missing what?

    • On sex, a connection, fun, pleasure. All sorts. You can't live life in perpetual fear of things you can easily prevent. Enjoy being single :)

    • I've found interested guys... not that plenty aren't, but you can only be with 1 persona t a time anyway. I think you can have an awesome connection without any sex... like how you can with family.

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  • getting stds is actually very unlikely. especially the "bad" ones. the easier ones to get are not that bad (they can be cured within a few weeks).

    if you care for gossiping, you´re not mature enough for sex, so better you don´t have it.

    if sex seems like "work" for you, then you definitely shouldn´t have it. it´s meant to be fun! xD just don´t expect for both to have the best orgasm of your lifes. maybe not even one of you cums. so what? just enjoy it for what it is.

  • "I don't have sex because I like to relax and have less or no pressure."

    Ironically sex is the much more potentially relaxing thing and a true stress killer.

    And you cannot control Gossip! These will always be there regardless of what you did or didn't.

  • Also cuz no one wants to have it with you. Stop rationalizing

  • I think your just undesirable

  • KK good luck

  • You are so wrong. I'd never ever date you if we weren't engaging in penetrative sex. Moreover, I don't kiss and tell.

    • So... if you loved me you still wouldn't date me if I didn't fuck? Sounds really conditional.

    • Oh well, I don't tolerate sexless relationships. I don't have to. You either put out or get out. One month is all I give any woman. No exceptions. If we aren't fucking each other silly at the end of a month, I'm gone.

  • proof that MGTOW is needed

  • I think you should have your right to what you want to do and your opinion as much as the guy your dating should. If you don't want to bang, then you don't have to and he should respect that. If there's something that he likes and you don't, compromise, that's what relationships are all about

  • so that's cool... you project your likes onto everybody else? fine...

  • Good idea

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