Sexual Relationships 
Sexual Health 
Questions such as 'What do you think of a 22yo virgin?' or 'Is being a virgin unattractive?' have always been popular on here, but recently I've noticed an influx of them, thus spurring the idea for this Take.
We are all born virgins (in the sense that no one has completed the act before birth). Duh. Some of us lose our virginity when we're young, some by choice, and others not, and others lose it when they're older, or even on their wedding night. Some people even *die* virgins.
A little while ago, I wrote a Take titled The Value of my V- Card, which was controversial (at least by G@G standards) as not everyone saw eye-to-eye on my choices, which is fine because ultimately the most important thing is that I was okay with my decision. It's not super relevant to this Take, but you can go check it out if you like.
Your Values
Our experiences, choices, and actions greatly influence our values. So can the people around us.
I was raised in a household where when it came to virginity, it was always instilled in me to:
a) only have sex with someone you love and care about deeply
b) it should only happen within a relationship
c) only do what you're comfortable with
d) and always use a condom
I made the personal choice to go against these values, and this is a choice I will have to live with for the rest of my life. But this isn't about me, so let's get back to it.
These values are fine, and I'd say they're pretty stock and standard when it comes to this topic, but ultimately, it's up to each and every individual to come to a decision of their own for as to what their values and morals are about this. You are under no obligation to follow other people's values.
This can be done in so many different ways, such as questioning the importance of sex, and the value you place on it.
An interesting article here states that you should ask yourself two questions when it comes to this topic: “How do I want to feel afterward?” and “What do I want my virginity to mean?”
Sticking to Your Values
Whatever choice you do end up making though, sometimes, people find that as time goes on, they find it tricky to stick to their original values. The judgment you feel around being a virgin at a certain age starts to outweigh the importance of your values.
But, not sticking to your values will more often than not lead to feelings of regret --believe me, I know. Remember, you will always have to live with the consequences of our actions, whatever they may be.
It's also important to note that sometimes, it has nothing to do with values whatsoever, it just happens that the opportunity hasn't arisen yet, which is totally fine as well.
Letting it Define You
The way I see it, being a virgin or not has no correlation to your character or personality, nor does it determine your value to the world. I think, and I hope, that most people feel similarly about this.
Only YOU can choose to focus on this time and time again.
Only YOU can choose whether to let it bother you or not.
Only YOU can let it define you.
Virgins deserve to be neither glorified or shamed. Just treated the same as everyone else.
Is It Really a Big Deal?
That's the thing about things we've never tried, even if we try not to make it a big deal, it still seems like one.
Yes, you will think of your first time more than other times, simply because it’s the first.
But, in my opinion, the act itself has little to no impact on your life in the grand scheme of things. At the end of the day, you're still the same person, with or without sex.
I'm also going to quote the article I linked earlier:
"Your virginity gets to mean whatever you want it to mean. You’ve probably gotten bombarded by all different kinds of messages about virginity, but it’s up to you to make a conscious choice about what you want for yourself. You get to choose if you want to wait until marriage or if you want to treat it like any other sexual experience."
So, When Will It Happen?
Just try and enjoy life and continue on your path, and when it happens, it happens. I would also suggest having sex with someone you mutually want to experience it with.
To conclude, enjoy this sick tune from Madonna that actually has little relevance to being a virgin at all.
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At the end of the day, it's one action, and it's up to you as to whether or not you choose to let it define your life or not.
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